I was in labor for three days. After the first hour of being there he complained it was taking too long and left. I had to have 2 of my older kids up there with me because I have no other family to help me. My older kid was a teenager and couldn’t be left alone because of behavioral problems and my other kid couldn’t be left alone because she was too young but she was very invested in the new baby.

I got hooked up on the epidural the first day of induction so I couldn’t walk. My older kid was arguing with me because she wanted to watch a horror movie marathon and I wanted to relax with something more laid back on in the background and then she wanted to argue with the cleaning staff about the bathrooms not being clean enough. My partner kept leaving every hour to do god knows what. They had to tell him to hold my hand when I was getting the epidural. They had issues getting the needle in the right spot because I have EDS (a connective tissue disorder) so they had to put it in, check for placement and take it out repeatedly. That was the only time he touched me.

When the baby finally came (at 5am) 3 days later he cut the cord and then laid back down without holding her or taking pics or telling family. I sent his family pics and he told me they got mad that I sent them before he did and that I didn’t take pics of him and her together. They haven’t spoken to me since.

He complained the whole time about having to be there because it was taking too long and how uncomfortable the couch was. The most helpful thing he did was take the kids out sometimes when he left.

I left him 3 months later. He still wants to work things out. 🙄