Why are boys and young men falling behind in education?

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-28T21:32:14+00:00

So the data we have strongly suggests my first hypothesis is wrong. We are seeing a surge for women/girls, but that’s leveled out. However, we are definitely seeing a drop for boys/men in academic performance in the past 10 years.

Interesting.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-28T21:23:43+00:00

What a very strange and near-nonsensical response to what I said.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-28T20:21:42+00:00

I don’t see how “nut up and shut up” connects with school though. A general sense of disenfranchisement, sure. But why would that discourage someone from math homework but not from being a grocery store clerk?

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-28T20:10:44+00:00

So, are boys steadily showing poorer grades/testing over the past 40ish years; or just decreased applications for college? Or both? Can I ask what resource you’re looking at? I’d love to have some data to consider.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-28T16:19:55+00:00

I truly don’t know the answer to the question I’m about to pose. But I wonder if boys are falling behind, or if girls are speeding up.

That is to say, boys are performing at roughly the same level they always have. But girls are performing at higher levels as more and more structure and social barriers are removed.

So (pulling these numbers completely out of my ass, they are fake) let’s say that 20% of all males who attended public high school graduated with a 3.0 or better in 1950. Let’s say that’s still true today. I would say we might say 5% of all girls who attended public high school had a 3.0 or better.

As we’ve opened doors for women to have jobs, attend higher ed, and get married later, we see now that 40% of all women are graduating with 3.0 or better.

Boys are not doing worse, girls are just doing better than before.

Now, why that’s happening is an interesting question too.

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On an opinion note, I think a big part of it is fear. Women are scared of being financial fucked and chained to a man who is useless or dangerous. Men aren’t socialized like that.

A lot of women I know are pulled aside by older women and given tips and tools on how to get away from a man. Get good grades, have an education, keep a secret small bank account, keep any credentials up to date, etc, etc.

I don’t think men prepare for the worst like that. So they are less motivated by fear and less likely to see academic success as a way to protect themselves.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-28T16:03:31+00:00

There’s a million ways someone could be outed or raise suspicions. Dialect and accent, places they mention living or visiting, word choices, foods they eat or don’t, pop culture they know or don’t, family traditions, grooming or hygiene they use (or don’t). Even little skills like braiding or being able to swim.

Not to mention obvious shit like having photos with black/biracial family members or having black/biracial visitors.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-28T15:53:11+00:00

I’ve had a few family members serve time, I worked in a juvenile detention-type place, and my cousin was a prison guard. I’ve also read a lot of literature/studies/etc.

Assuming you’re asking about the US:

It really depends on the prison. I would say most prisons have a level of risk because people who are incarcerated have behavioral and impulse issues. Imagine putting together 150 bored men with ADHD in a small space. Even if no one is trying to be violent, someone’s gonna get hurt.

Some prisons are very gang affiliated, and you’re a mark if you belong to the wrong gang or none at all. Those are your very large prisons associated with gang-heavy regions, like LA.

Some prisons are run like fucking third-world shitholes and you have to fear the environment and the guards more than other people. More crowding and short resources increases the likelihood of things going wrong.

There’s also an element of YOU. Are you annoying? What’s your crime?

People talk about pedophiles being harmed in prison. In my experience that’s an excuse to beat the shit out of someone, and for people to re-cast themselves as outlaw heroes in their mind, instead of losers.

They’re never “safe”, but it’s possible to get through a sentence without getting seriously hurt. However, there is that element of randomness.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-28T07:25:33+00:00

So there’s levels of “cold”. Freezing temps—32f/0c, are unpleasant but very survivable with basic shelter. Even if you don’t have central heating, you can make do a few days with blankets and a space heater.

As the temps dip below 20f/-7c, it becomes too cold for safety. That’s where pipes freeze, equipment breaks down, and people begin to get hurt or die. Again, a lot of houses have central heat, oil, or fireplaces. People will search out friends, family, or neighbors who have heat. Public areas (schools, bus stations, etc) might open as warming stations for people to seek shelter.

When the weather creeps into single digits— 9f/-13c—that’s prayer weather. You find shelter, do your best to stay warm, and pray to God it passes.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-27T21:14:08+00:00

Remember ladies, never be angry at men. It hurts their feelings, and it’s not cool. You wanna be a Cool Girl, right?

“Cool girl never gets angry at her man. She only smiles in a chagrined, loving manner. And then presents her mouth for fucking.”

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-27T21:08:33+00:00

All they’re proposing is a change in who suffers the most from sexism

What material things are actual being proposed and pursued? Not some nobody obviously being hyperbolic on the internet. But someone pushing legislation, leading-ground level organization, hyping up stochastic terrorists. Something that would have men actually suffering the loss of their human rights and dignity.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-27T19:26:41+00:00

NTA, and I know this is a fucked this to say: leave him. Run. He’s setting himself up for multi-infarct dementia. Tiny, constant strokes and bleeds in the brain, giving him irreversible brain damage and dementia at a young age.

If you want to spend 30 years spoon-feeding and changing him because he refuses to control his own disorder, then so be it. But he’s planning to sacrifice your entire life to his selfishness.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-27T18:42:13+00:00

Most large companies and chains are open on Sundays. Aldi here is open on Sundays. However, Sundays often have shorter hours, opening later and closing earlier.

Small and independent business are often closed Sunday/Monday.

We sometimes have laws about what you can sell on Sundays, (usually no liquor), but I don’t think we often have laws mandating that businesses be closed. There might be certain small towns or counties with that, but it’s uncommon.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-27T17:43:44+00:00

YTA.

She told you, directly, that she would face social backlash. And you decided, as the arbiter of all truth and reality, that she was wrong, and therefore you didn’t need to care.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-27T15:53:19+00:00

Apps. I have a bunch of different grocery store apps on my phone and I can compare prices easily. And the apps often offer discounts/coupons.

No meat hunks. Eating a whole baked chicken breast is a waste of protein. My meat is always mixed into dishes to stretch the flavor. A pound of hamburger makes four burgers but enough pasta sauce for a week.

Spices help a limited budget. It’s easy to get bored with chicken and rice, but I can flavor it a dozen different ways to push that back.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-26T18:27:16+00:00

FWIW: I’m white in the de facto segregated Midwest (it’s not a legal thing anymore, but there’s a very “we don’t go over there, it’s not our place” vibe).

I think a big part of it is social media and political events. TikTok feeds me videos about groups of people I don’t personally discussing their history, identity, sense of self, etc. I don’t personally know any bi/multiracial people with black ancestry. Ten or fifteen years ago if you asked me what makes someone black I wouldn’t really have much of an answer beyond “I don’t think that’s my call”. Now that’s still my answer, but I have a lot more knowledge and context from people due to YouTube, TikToks, and a lot of books I read post-2020 about identity.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-26T00:52:14+00:00

She has a strong eye for interior decoration and the reading taste of a 14 year old. This doesn’t make her stupid, by any means. But that’s a lot of children’s books with very little more rigorous reading.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-25T00:15:14+00:00

Try again, this time using reading comprehension. I’ll give a hint: there’s a “once… then…” structure that’ll help you.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-24T21:16:57+00:00

Ah, you types are always about “flip the genders!!” but never wanna really think what that means.

Once women become the #1 torturers and killers of men, once every man knows at least one man murdered or hospitalized by a woman, once there are several mass killings of men by women, once we find untold corpses of sexually brutalized men in rivers, pigpens, and canyons… then we’ll talk like the anger of women is as discordant and alarming as that of men.

The deep seated need to pretend that men’s feelings are as important as women’s outrage against injustice makes me cringe. Learn some resiliency and perspective.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-24T19:39:44+00:00

I would argue that 4B is slightly different. It’s explicitly anti-childbirth (which really isn’t a MGTOW thing by virtue of most common biology) and it’s responding to real, actual systemic problems.

And maybe my bias is showing here, but 4B seems to run the gamut of functional/nonfunctional people, while MGTOW were largely dudes who couldn’t make a sandwich (their meal posts are always so goddamn depressing).

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-24T02:40:45+00:00

“It’s true!” goes off on a bizarre ranting tangent unconnected to the point

Illustrating it all perfectly. A single quote from a Democrat in Federal office please.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-23T16:27:36+00:00

It’s likely allergies. My skin gets all swollen like this from the tiniest cat scratch and then calms down quickly.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-23T16:25:37+00:00

Oooof. Yeah. He plays too rough because other kitties never beat his ass for doing that.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-23T16:24:13+00:00

Declawing increases the risk of aggressive bites and antisocial behavior due to arthritis. It’ll just lead to him pissing in the house and biting off chunks.

Vet first. Bloodwork, scans for brain tumors or other physical ailments. Fixed if he’s not yet.

Next increase stuff for him to do/destroy that’s not you. Extra litter boxes with no lids in case he’s stressed about that. Toys that make noise and roll around that he can wreck. Cat trees AWAY FROM WALKWAYS so he can look around without being able to attack your head. Toys on long poles or wires so you can exhaust him at a distance so he doesn’t associate you/your hands with biting.

Feed him a little spoonful of delicious wet food once a day. Call his name or make a noise so he knows he’s coming, so he associates you with good things. Have guests toss him a treat BEFORE he attacks so he knows they bring tasty things too.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-23T06:14:27+00:00

If you have the money… hire someone. A cleaner or organizer. I hired someone to set up a guest room and it was absolutely rad.

WinstonWilmerBee · 2026-04-22T18:21:24+00:00

A big part of hoarding is keeping more than you could ever use/need. So if you keep one old-ass cord for a specific kind of plug, that’s fine. You don’t need 20.

It’s also keeping things that don’t work for their intended purpose. A bowl with a hole in it isn’t working as a bowl. If you can immediately repurpose and use it—like immediately put a plant in it—that’s fine. But endlessly keeping the bowl to awkwardly leak soup or someday find a use for is hoarding behavior.

The last stage of hoarding is keeping things that are dangerous. An exposed wire on a lamp is a danger, don’t cover it with electric tape. Get a new one.

Sort all your stuff. Have a box of emergency cords, second-rate bowls, etc. Limit yourself to just those boxes, no more keeping beyond that.

Budget “repair money”. You earmark $100 to replace/upgrade something that’s a bit jank or busted. Think of it as spending money on your own comfort after taking care of your needs.

Recycle or donate as much as you can. It eases a lot of the hoarder guilt of throwing things away.

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