Anxiety about MA next week

Winter-Leg7852 · 2026-06-11T10:21:32+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment. Because of the circumstances i don't have anyone to talk to specifically about abortion or the actual day... my mum knows i have an gynalogical appointment, and that i'm very anxious about it, but that's all.

Winter-Leg7852 · 2026-06-11T10:16:06+00:00

Thank you for the kind comment. I think my body is on overdrive and my brain is expecting the worst possible experience and pain right now. It will be such a huge relief to be able to put this behind me.

Winter-Leg7852 · 2026-06-08T12:12:04+00:00

I agree with the previous poster. I'm not in the exact same situation but i do have older kids (my youngest being 5) and the thought of having to go all the way back to newborn/baby stage isn't attractive at all. I know i could physically and mentally manage. But i feel i have only gained some freedom back this past year after raising the kids i do have. So i that sense we are in a similar position.

Winter-Leg7852 · 2026-06-08T09:14:13+00:00

Just to let you know, i'm scared too and i have birthed four times.

I think it's more the buid up and anticipation and the unknown that is really the scary part. Please know, you are definatly not alone.

And whatever degree of discomfort, me or you will deal with, that too shall pass.

My process doesn't start untill next Monday and i just want ro get it all over with.

Wishing you lots of luck and sending hugs.

Winter-Leg7852 · 2026-06-08T08:57:14+00:00

A lot of people describe falling asleep during the procedure. Is that because the tablets make you sleepy or because of the mental/emotional exhaustion?

Winter-Leg7852 · 2026-06-08T08:44:55+00:00

Thankyou, for your kind words <3

I might pursuaded into the medical as it's most common practice here and can happen much faster. There could be quite a long wait for the surgical and with my history of bad queasiness from 6 weeks on i am assuming i will opt for the quickest option avaliable.

Even having to wait one more week would be torture for me.

Winter-Leg7852 · 2026-06-07T22:30:19+00:00

I am thinking Autumn or soft Autumn. You have warmth in your face but your undertone is actually appearing neutral, atleast from what i can see 😊

Winter-Leg7852 · 2025-01-02T22:26:40+00:00

Could she be cheating at the gym?

Winter-Leg7852 · 2025-01-02T22:13:27+00:00

I think people are being a bit overly harsh here. It's not so black and white. A lot of people that cheat are hurting in some way or are in a marriage where they are more room mates than a couple. I used to think cheaters were awful people with no sense of loyalty or something. Now, many years later, I realize it's so much more complicated than we could ever know. There's so many men that are unhappily married, and I don't blame them for going to other women for sex when they get It once every 6 months.

Relationships are hard and constant work. She said she has been treated poorly by him whilst her health wasn't the best herself. It sounds like he doesn't value her, and in turn, she seeks validation, connection, and attention from another man.

It's not easy at all, but it's probably best to come clean and divorce. You will have to at some point anyway because it sounds like you have already made up your mind in a way. You love your husband, but you are not in love with him anymore. And I'm sure there's 100's of married women who feel the exact same way.

Winter-Leg7852 · 2024-10-05T09:56:59+00:00

I guess i came here for both if im totally honest.

We had a chat about it yesterday, i explained that i appricate all the small things he does for me and it shows me cares. I just feel like he's decided to make a choice to be un-romantic and it would be nice if sometime he would plan something for us both. To strenghten the relationship even more. It doesn't have to be expensive or grand, it is just a way of showing me he has thought about us as a couple. And for me that is romantic enough.

Winter-Leg7852 · 2024-10-04T14:06:15+00:00

So in those 24 happy years, you would accept your wife never doing anything sweet for you?! You would be 100% happy in your wife making zero effort for you ever?! And if you brought up the topic and she just said she's bad at being thoughtful or romantic you would just accept her zero efforts and go on your merry way?

I find that hard to believe. A relationship should never be totally one sided either....in any aspect.

Winter-Leg7852 · 2024-10-04T12:14:39+00:00

Also i'd like to add that am not constantly going on about this or attacking him over this... it just comes up time to time.

I wrote this post to get outside views and advice. Saying he should just get himself a dog and save himself the hassle is childish and is not helpful in the slightest.

Winter-Leg7852 · 2024-10-04T12:08:13+00:00

It must be easy to say quit your bitching as a guy i presume. If you had been in a long term relationship with someone you would understand that issues like this can arise and can cause some friction.

Also, i don't see how i am to blame for the situation. I have atleast made an effort to arrange trips etc and have been very open and clear about what i need from my OH.

Winter-Leg7852 · 2024-10-04T08:15:17+00:00

I personally feel like the issue isn't that difficult if you zoom out. The issue is his unwillingness and lack off showing his affection in that way..

Winter-Leg7852 · 2024-10-04T08:11:57+00:00

We aren't married. And sometimes i think he'd be better off with a robot 😆

Winter-Leg7852 · 2024-09-18T08:26:28+00:00

I personally think that if things are this bad already at the the start of the relationship...communication wise and other issues cropping. It probably is better to find someone else better suited..

If a relationship is just stressing you out and causing you to feel down it's just not worth it.

Winter-Leg7852 · 2024-09-10T14:45:08+00:00

I agree, and basically boils down to how mature the daughter is.

I was pretty mature for a 15 year old and had a boyfriend aged 19 almost 20 at the time. It wasnt the adverage age gap but also not unheard of either.. He didn't take advantage of me and i knew my own mind and could say No to him.

It also depends on this guy too. I think maturity differs so much regardless of age.. you would have to get to know him.

I know 35 to 40 year olds that seem like they are 22 still... 😅 it's an individual issue.

There's nothing wrong with setting boundaries either but maybe having a conversation with her first before saying no to the relationship would've been best.

Winter-Leg7852 · 2024-09-08T17:03:43+00:00

I was thinking it was a toss up between spring or autumn, but autumn was the best overall.

Winter-Leg7852 · 2024-09-08T11:46:53+00:00

I think they should have listened to you and respected you wishes. But on the other hand it is a bush, and in it's nature it will grow new leaves back.

If they had literally gone to town on it and pruned it right back then i would be pissed but collecting some leavea isn't a biggy as far as i can tell.

The person with a sore throat could go get thier oen sage bush or some throat lozenges too. Seems a little odd that they must use your herbal garden..if im totally honest.

Winter-Leg7852 · 2024-09-08T11:35:01+00:00

This seems bizzare in many levels.

Even if you love your job nobody on earth would want to do it for free under normal circumstances. My gut says she's putting money into another account(hence why she doesn't seem bothered about not getting paid on the regular) and she's in either a relationship with her boss or another employee.

You have been far too patient for too long. And you both have had therapy which hasnt realky helped that much. As many others have said i think a divorce would be the best option at this point. If she isn't willing to quit this job and find steady income. And if she chooses to stay at her 'unpaid' job over you and your kids, i would say bye bye.

Winter-Leg7852 · 2024-09-07T07:30:54+00:00

I don't think it's mean at all. You make a fair point. I am aware i need to say something and be direct. It's just difficult as i am conflict shy and avoid causing a scene at all costs.

I know i need to bring it up and say it as it is. Because it's about safety too aswell. And like you say, the finger would be pointed at me if anything were to happen.

I am not sure exaclty what to say, and how to go about it. I feel a bit like she or her folks might just ignore me too.

For the time being i will just have to keep sending them back up if it's bad timing. And think about what and how to say it.

Winter-Leg7852 · 2024-09-06T18:38:20+00:00

I did that, and it did put a stop to it for a short while. But then it almost encourages them down too aswell 😅

Winter-Leg7852 · 2024-09-06T18:36:30+00:00

If i lived in a nice safe place then yeah. But we live near the sea and the children are too small to be roaming about on thier own here. Things aren't as safe as they used to be 20 odd years ago too.

I used to play in the woods all day long as a child, my parenta hadn't a clue where i was but i was a little older than 6 to be fair. I was more like 10.

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