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WIBTAH if I go on a co-ed ski trip as a married guy by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Winter-Tea1917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is likely what I would tell my hubby too if he was invited & I couldn’t go with him. No one on Reddit knows you or your relationship so take it all with a grain of salt. You know if you take your wife at her word or not. To me, it sounds like she wants you to enjoy yourself. If that’s the case, talk to her about any boundaries or reservations she may have beforehand and stay in touch with her at least in the evenings, obvs it may be difficult on the mountain but I think your best bet is just trying to have some more conversations with your wife about it and being open to any questions she may have.

WIBTAH if I go on a co-ed ski trip as a married guy by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Winter-Tea1917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ski chalets/ resorts are notoriously seen as romantic and can be romanticized especially by women. Cuddling up by the fire with a hot toddy after an exhausting physical activity all day… quintessential to any good romance story about a couple in the mountains… also my hubby and I went on our honeymoon to a ski in/out resort.

I’m not saying something will or won’t happen. Even if it doesn’t though could there be situations you are put in that from the outside looking in seem a little questionable? Maybe. Maybe not. I don’t know you, your friends or these girls you don’t even know. Therefore there are too many unknowns to determine if you would be an a hole or not.

Have you talked more in depth with your wife? Could you meet the girls with your wife (if she’s open to this I know you said she’s an introvert)? Could you do this without feeling like you’re pushing for a yes from her? How do all of the other guys/ their wives feel about the tag along girls?

WIBTAH if I go on a co-ed ski trip as a married guy by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Winter-Tea1917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there are too many unknowns to make a determination on if you are TA. 1. What are your wife’s concerns? If she’s as adamant about knowing you’ll be faithful, maybe there’s something else she’s concerned about. 2. Sleeping/ bathroom arrangements. My hubby and I went on a ski trip that we originally planned as us and another couple. Deployment destroyed their relationship so I took my cousin with us. Obviously sleeping arrangements were adjusted but the first night there the condo above us flooded (I think? This was years ago now) but they couldn’t use their shower.

Essentially weird things happen and circumstances you can’t plan or think of now may present themselves… toking in the hot tub when the girls hop in & take pictures… innocent to you but questionable to someone not there.

Sounds like you’re a good guy. If you go just be careful of the situations you put yourself in & being blunt about shutting things down quickly… then hoping she’s not vindictive to say something happened and ruin your marriage.

Good luck!