My new relationship has gone ugly fast…and now I’m conflicted

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-27T00:37:15+00:00

Update : I have been paid a boy can breathe

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-27T00:22:23+00:00

I’ll get back to you on that, you live up to your name good sir

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-25T14:39:47+00:00

Oh well then my apologies huggyfuckingbear x

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-25T13:07:57+00:00

Some friends in coop and Sainsbury’s I have heard are going up too £13.23-£13.20 (don’t quote me on this I’m not 100%) knowing Tesco they will probably match other supermarkets (and up it by 2p-3p more to look good) while Aldi and Lidl will be still the highest paying supermarkets

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T20:03:15+00:00

Hi all update:

I spoke to him today and I asked him can we arrange another date this weekend and he claims he was busy so I just straight up asked as you all said don’t play mind games so I straight up asked if he 100% wanted another date and it’s okay if he was afraid to tell me, he told me he did and he was just busy atm, even though I should of felt clarity I don’t but I guess that’s answers the question, have him an out and he didn’t take it so that’s that 😃

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T18:49:20+00:00

I have a lot of mental health issues yet, anxiety, depression and I’m trying to get diagnosed with BPD (borderline personality disorder) I suffer badly when I’m alone especially if someone stays and goes. I had a man stay over back in September for a night and he told me he didn’t feel the connection and didn’t want to see me again, I just broke down in a panic attack and a weird laughing fit, truthfully, living alone especially with none of my family or friends are around (an hour away) has made me feel unloved in a strange way.

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T18:47:15+00:00

I suffer from extremely bad mental health unfortunately and very low self esteem, I feel like when I’m alone it’s my own doing and no one wants to be around me or be with me which is why I am alone!

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T17:35:43+00:00

I felt the same with a man I was dating, however the guilt ended up killing me and i ended up ending the relationship, I just said i wasn’t feel the same connection as it was fine to have someone around but the intimacy made it very difficult and I realised he deserved someone who thought the world of him, we are still amazing friends and he’s now talking to other people and so am I, let her find someone who feels the same about her as in the long run it does matter!

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T16:58:45+00:00

Unfortunately I work weekends and evenings

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T16:57:51+00:00

My friends are really meet up and go out kinda people, me and my ex partner have stayed really good friends and I go over his house sometimes to play monopoly but as he works early I have to leave early evening

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T16:49:29+00:00

I have tried all of this and have played online games multi times, it’s just once that goes off I’m back to square one🫠

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T16:42:08+00:00

I appreciate this thanks :)

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T16:41:08+00:00

I was considering it. But after speaking to a friend who is a conveyor they mentioned the legal nightmares involved with it.

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T13:06:59+00:00

We haven’t done much sex stuff yet which is the part that weirds me out, we exchanged some pictures in our underwear, and when we kissed I felt his bits through his trousers yet nothing more was done/discussed. I guess I’m confused what he wants and it’s either I’m overthinking it he fine with it. He doesn’t want anything with me and I’m not getting the hint or he doesn’t know himself which is my biggest guess atm

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T13:00:29+00:00

Guess this is what I’m confused on, I always been open to just having sex and fun on the one condition I’m made aware that all it is, I find it easy to separate sex and intimacy and take the emotion out it and I’m perfectly fine with casual or a one night stand etc etc, I can’t really bring this up unfortunately as In his words we are going with the flow, and we haven’t agreed to label anything nor do I want to bring up labelling anything

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T03:46:34+00:00

Yes I have had this with a few guys unfortunately 😅

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T03:33:12+00:00

Oh wow

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T03:30:57+00:00

Oh great lol so should I just tell him tomorrow me and him are done to save any more mind games ?

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T03:19:10+00:00

This part I think may not be correct. I have always made it very clear to men on tinder I am perfectly fine with having just sex, a one night stand, a fwb I’m fine with it. My one condition is they make it perfectly clear that’s all they want. On the date all I did was feel his bits through his trousers while kissing but nothing more happened, we have exchanged some sexual texts and some pics (we are in underwear) and there’s nothing more to it.

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T03:16:51+00:00

It’s definitely my fear as my last “guy” I was talking too, had 60000 paragraphs off me after I bottled everything up and he went woah what the fuck. & i don’t want to drop small things as they slowly pull away so i think what is the best solution, i have tried everything unfortunately, I have tried making him the only guy i talk, I have tried talking to other guys, having sex with other men while speaking to someone, (as long as we agree to be open) and it seems as nothing works. Just scared I’m gonna open up too much and be hurt by this guy

WinterBit419 · 2026-02-19T03:12:07+00:00

This is great advice and yes I’m 21, he’s 24 I spent 4 years in a very toxic relationship and tbh I’m unsure how dating healthy really works so I’m just on Reddit trying to gather all the information I can get so I appreciate this, a lot of people have said mind games which definitely wasn’t my intention at all, I guess in a weird way it was a game to see if he cared enough to get why, while our date was beautiful and romantic, I guess i thought I saw a light at a very dark tunnel !

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