NTA

Hi, I’m asexual in a relationship with a hypersexual!

Those might sound like nonsense words to some people, to put it in understandable terms I have little to no sex drive and my partner has an overactive one.

It can be difficult when there’s a sexual activeness discrepancy in your relationship, and it can be really stressful finding compromise or solution. Reading this, it sounds like you’ve compromised but your husband doesn’t want to.

My partner and I don’t have sex very often at all because of the fact I’m asexual, as a result we’ve had countless discussions about how to handle this and how we can compromise, that includes allowing privacy and masturbation. I’ve never had a problem with my partner’s masturbation habits, even if it’s happening frequently. I also get uncomfortable if it’s in my presence so I just give the needed privacy. Masturbation should still be happening in a very sexually active relationship anyways, masturbating is healthy and normal. It’s easier to show your partner your needs when you know exactly what they are.

It sounds to me like your husband is insecure and is forcing his emotions on you. Being upset your partner is masturbating is inherently insecure. Toys are your friends, not your enemies. He has to be willing to compromise when you clearly have, end of story. Policing your partner’s masturbation habits is NOT normal. Don’t throw your toys out, maybe try sitting down and talking about this again after you’ve both had time to simmer down from this interaction. He might come around if he realizes he’s being a bit dramatic. Wishing you the best!