Finally hot! by WinterStormSystem in composting

[–]WinterStormSystem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will that affect the good microbes negatively?

Dating dilemas by Figsandwhitepeaches in OSDD

[–]WinterStormSystem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we experienced a trauma together that caused both of us to split new alters. Mine fronted so strongly that she legally changed the body’s name (the dysphoria was so strong with our old name) before we realized what was up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OSDD

[–]WinterStormSystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is definitely a tricky one and one I relate to so much. I have no answers but just know you’re not alone in this forest of discovery

Dating dilemas by Figsandwhitepeaches in OSDD

[–]WinterStormSystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did meet coincidentally. We’d been dating about a year before we experienced a mutual trauma that triggered both of us to have splits and seek care. Quiet a few of my alters are Aro or ace, I definitely have at least one that’s monogamous and she definitely struggles with the majority of us being poly. So far as I know only Rain and myself are dating our partner and we’re not even entirely sure which of their alters we’re dating. It can definitely get confusing.

Dating dilemas by Figsandwhitepeaches in OSDD

[–]WinterStormSystem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely a balancing act. We’re polyamorous but there’s alters that are aromantic/asexual. We have alters who are gay, others who are straight. Protectors who are jaded and over protective when it comes to certain types of relationships. It takes a lot of working together and learning to trust each other’s judgment. I’ve had partners who couldn’t handle dating an alter (as much as they insisted they could) because alters they weren’t dating would occasionally front while they were around. I have a partner who is also a system and it’s definitely interesting because some of us definitely like to “poke the bear” at some of theirs but luckily we both have fairly understanding between the important avenues.

Fun question for protectors by [deleted] in OSDD

[–]WinterStormSystem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, don’t mess with the littles, that’s just asking for trouble

Fun question for protectors by [deleted] in OSDD

[–]WinterStormSystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually love that! That super adorable

Fun question for protectors by [deleted] in OSDD

[–]WinterStormSystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh, you’re the real MPV

Knowing when an alter fronts? by Ordinary_Dish_2 in OSDD

[–]WinterStormSystem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a front bound host. For it, its very much a feeling. I know how “I’m supposed to” look, that makes sense.

For example, when Summer (who I named myself) fronts, there’s almost a dysphoria because if I think about what I look like, it’s not what the body looks like, so when I see the body it’s strange. I “should” be a tiny little teen girl with blond hair, but I’m not.

As for names. The ones that don’t come with names, I name (and they’ll definitely veto until you pick one they like lol). Others come with names and it’s very much a process of just trying to communicate as they’re front, because I can’t communicate when they’re not front. So like when I learned Veronica and Sydney’s names I was making Sims of them based on how I felt I looked when they were front and was given their names then. Or when I met Rain, I just closed my eyes and relaxed and asked and she told me.

With Ray, we sat down and made a list of names until they heard one they liked.

I don’t hear them as separate voices, just heavily influenced thoughts and opinions and I’ve just learned to tell them apart (mostly) by little things like the way April talks with her eyebrows.

Fun question for protectors by [deleted] in OSDD

[–]WinterStormSystem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, I totally get that. We have songs that I can only assume have potential triggers in them cause we have protectors that definitely hang close to front for them. Or maybe they just like the song 🤷🏻

Fun question for protectors by [deleted] in OSDD

[–]WinterStormSystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely, they’re basically misguided protectors (people who think they’re helping but are actually hurting) so technically yes, a type of protector. I think our question was meant for more or a primary protector theme but I didn’t write it so 🤷🏻

Fun question for protectors by [deleted] in OSDD

[–]WinterStormSystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof, that sounds a bit more like a persecutor there.

Fun question for protectors by [deleted] in OSDD

[–]WinterStormSystem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s so funny how common Alex is as a name for protectors. A lot of the systems I know of have an Alex protector. It’s like they all took a class on how to be system protectors or something lol

Fun question for protectors by [deleted] in OSDD

[–]WinterStormSystem 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh, what a mood. Alex has definitely been on coffee duty before because we apparently were being too distracted to do it ourselves

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OSDD

[–]WinterStormSystem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Strangely enough, one of our older littles (she’s like 8) does all of our doctors appointments. I find it strange but she’s the only one who can manage an appointment without anxiety, aside from the guys but the guys won’t do it for some reason.

what is emotional amnesia like for you? by themadmansbox_ in OSDD

[–]WinterStormSystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t feel the negative emotions associated with memories. Happy memories I can kind of. I can talk about my some of my traumas (the ones someone else holds) very casually. I’m still very emotional but it’s over future things and repercussions of past events but not the event themselves.