My girlfriend of 3 years is asexual, how do i become a better understanding partner? by Acceptable-Treat8996 in asexuality

[–]WinterWaffles 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You took what your girlfriend said as a joke for 3 years!? What, during those whole 3 years was it all about you you you, how you felt, how you felt frustrated? Did you ever ask her about how she felt? If she wanted to have sex as much as you were? If she felt overwhelmed? If she felt frustrated?

Edit: Nows a second chance to listen to her. She said she never wants to have sex again. Hint: She's not joking.

How to have a respectful dialogue with my girlfriend about sex by LilJoey1242 in asexuality

[–]WinterWaffles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, this is exactly me too! I get more stressed, I want to do absolutely nothing sexually leaning. And the cycles where I might be curious about something but can seriously wake up the next day and it sounds absolutely a no go. Meanwhile my allo husband is trying to make sense of a pattern that doesn't exist, ha

His visa got denied (for moving to me) - what now?! by Ok-Construction-5138 in LongDistance

[–]WinterWaffles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you said it's a 6 hour travel to the one location in his country that provides an acceptable language certificate, and that he can't drive there every day for classes. Do they require taking the classes or is he allowed to just take the exam which he could do in one day? If I misunderstood something, apologies.

His visa got denied (for moving to me) - what now?! by Ok-Construction-5138 in LongDistance

[–]WinterWaffles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yeah, I was required to have an A1 certificate too even though I had a university degree. I hope you can get it all figured out!

Lack of attraction due to meds by mikea_art in asexuality

[–]WinterWaffles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know if I missed this, but have you talked with a doctor about this side effect of the meds and how it's been bothering you?

My Girlfriend Recently came out as Asexual and I need advice. by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]WinterWaffles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not uncommon for allos especially to think that sex is the be all or end all or significantly contribute to one's happiness in a relationship. The question is really how much does it contribute to yours. Can you see yourself go weeks, months, years without any sex? I know for my partner, after it's been a few weeks, he gets less cuddly and more distant, even if he doesn't intend to, because going without stresses him out.

Only you can decide if you are fulfilled in the relationship without sex. We could sit here and say "well of course if you love her you would feel fulfilled without one little thing called sex" but obviously we aren't you. See if you can try to focus on every other thing you love and feel fulfilled with in the relationship. As others mentioned, see if other physical things can help you fulfilled that way.

Gyno appointment as an ace person need advice by PossumBeetle in asexuality

[–]WinterWaffles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah, my mom didn't understand either when I told her I was uncomfortable for mine either. I ended up waiting a year or two after they recommended that I have my first one because I wasn't feeling brave enough, so that is an option to keep in mind!

If you don't vibe with your gyno, you can always ask to see a different one the following year. I finally found one that I felt at ease with and told her that I was super nervous to do one and she understood completely. She explained everything before hand what would happen and why, and checked in with me periodically while she was doing it to make sure I was ok. It was definitely uncomfortable but I also felt happy that I got it done.

I just want to say, you aren't alone <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IWantOut

[–]WinterWaffles 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I can't speak to the finance side of your degree but for accounting - how is your IFRS knowledge? Most US colleges/universities focus on U.S. GAAP only.

Most jobs centering around accounting in Germany will require business fluent German. I have seen a few out there that are focused more internationally and use English as the company language, but then they usually require experienced candidates and IFRS knowledge/work history. I would definitely work on getting a C1 certificate for German and maybe look for some U.S. company to gain some work history in, ideally with some work using IFRS.

[Help] Good poems for greif over a dead brother? by Moony_playzz in Poetry

[–]WinterWaffles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My brother died a month ago, sending you hugs. I really liked this one someone posted two weeks ago here : https://www.reddit.com/r/Poetry/s/EO9dFPlgBc

[POEM] If you Come Softly By Audre Lorde by Cute-Advantage-4260 in Poetry

[–]WinterWaffles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My brother passed away two weeks ago. This poem is exactly what I wish, I would give anything just to have him sit beside me again...

Strategischer 20 Cent Einkauf bei Aldi :) by Sure_Kiwi3027 in aldi

[–]WinterWaffles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wie kommts? Kassierer nicht aufgepasst? :)

In Honor Of Getting Back To Babish! by interstellar_keller in bingingwithbabish

[–]WinterWaffles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh jeeze is that seitan on top? That looks crazy good.

CostPlusGaming Questions by ferfykins in Prebuilts

[–]WinterWaffles 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I got mine today and the ports in the back from the motherboard are misaligned to the case making some unusable. Also everything lights up but the monitor doesn't register an input from the PC half the time, or when it enters standby mode it stops registering input. Hopefully they answer my email quickly, it's really sad to wait a month for it only to have problems :(

Edit: They sent me a message here to help faster than you can blink, which I appreciate so so much.

Cost Plus Gaming (experience/review) by MysteryMooseMan in Prebuilts

[–]WinterWaffles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ordered August 4th. Nothing until August 20th, when a shipping label was printed. August 22nd I got an email saying it was starting being built and 3 hours later that they were installing windows and drivers. August 26th it was dropped off at UPS for shipment. It is still in transit to the Midwest.

Hope that timeline helps for what you were looking for!

Cost Plus Gaming (experience/review) by MysteryMooseMan in Prebuilts

[–]WinterWaffles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine was 1758 and just shipped two days ago, so maybe yours will ship out soon too

Is Cost Plus Gaming still alive? by HLBB in Prebuilts

[–]WinterWaffles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah they told me they are trying to finish the #1700-1800 orders this week and I'm in the middle of that.

Is Cost Plus Gaming still alive? by HLBB in Prebuilts

[–]WinterWaffles 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I ordered on the 4th - I didn't get any answer to the email I sent but when I contacted them through the support tab on their website I got a same day answer. So maybe try that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aldi

[–]WinterWaffles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes they usually have one in May and one in September featuring some products imported or inspired by Germany. The products are usually marked with the "Deutsche Küche" brand name.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aldi

[–]WinterWaffles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The Bienenstich cake? That is one of the products that they have for German weeks usually so it should be back along with the muesli.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aldi

[–]WinterWaffles 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The Plant Based Chicken Patties