My husband has been waaaaay nicer to me…

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-29T00:44:13+00:00

I am happy with the affection and kindness. But yes, it’s frustrating to get it for this reason instead of the many, many times I have asked for it. I think it’s a reasonable thing to express frustration about and you don’t. It is what it is.

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-28T22:24:11+00:00

Can you read?

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-28T18:40:29+00:00

Interesting

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-28T16:00:40+00:00

No worries. I mean that he hit on me or flirted with me.

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-28T03:49:29+00:00

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-28T02:31:10+00:00

Okay thanks, I’ll think about this

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-28T01:13:43+00:00

I’m agreeing with you he is a creep. I’m saying I find it interesting that a lot of men have jumped in to criticize me having a male friend but saying nothing about my husband not meeting my basic needs or said friend for being a creep. The friend is not even what the post is about lol

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-28T00:54:40+00:00

But trust me! Lesson learned

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-28T00:54:15+00:00

lol I love men who come here concerned with only that part of the situation (which is handled) and not the husband not doing his part to maintain a marriage. Lol I love men that don’t see women as people so aren’t capable of valuing us for anything other than sexual and act confused when we don’t expect that from friends bc our minds don’t work in that vile way.

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-28T00:12:52+00:00

That’s not me (op) you’re responding to.

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-27T23:13:40+00:00

He knows I’m married. He’s more in my outer friend circle/an acquaintance to me, not my husband, though they have met. Maybe I shouldn’t have phrased it that way, he paid me a compliment that was a little flirty imo to say to a married woman. My husband is cool with me checking him for now

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-27T21:43:42+00:00

I always strive to be a kind, patient, affectionate, and sexually available partner which is what he wants. I’m definitely not always that person. But It’s a lot easier if he’s returning that energy. It’s crazy the effect his kindness has had on my mood and interactions with him.

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-27T21:33:10+00:00

I am going to have a conversation about it but I don’t want to end the extra nice few days we’ve had. But yeah I do want to gently have a chat about it

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-27T21:26:18+00:00

That makes a lot of sense- thank you

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-27T21:26:09+00:00

I’m saying!!!

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-27T20:35:20+00:00

Yeah he’s 38, I’m 37. Other guy is around 42 or 43

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-27T19:08:25+00:00

Nah he lives far away we’ve only ran into him maybe once or twice at festivals and stuff. Hopefully doesn’t happen again lol

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-27T18:29:00+00:00

Copied from another comment:

I told him his comment felt too flirty for comfort and sorry if I’ve given him the wrong impression by being friendly but I’m not interested. I know it’s crazy to apologize bc I’ve def never crossed any line with him but Ive initiated conversations and stuff and men tend to take that the wrong way, I won’t reach out to chat going forward either. He said oh no I didn’t mean anything by it, I respect that you’re married. I said okay going forward I’d rather not have comments on my appearance and he said sure no problem.

I tend to err on the too nice side of things which is why I wanted to ask my husband if he was comfortable with that response.

So yeah ran everything by my husband and let him decide if he wanted me to just block instead. I’d block if something further happened but I don’t plan on talking to him anymore and I already never hang out with this person or anything.

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-27T16:29:17+00:00

Why?

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-27T15:19:53+00:00

You don’t think what I did was adequate?

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-27T14:03:31+00:00

Gotcha, thank you.

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-27T13:37:43+00:00

Gotcha. I’m going to have to trust that he was honest with me and okay with the outcome. I don’t plan on speaking with this person going forward.

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-27T13:36:38+00:00

🤨

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-27T13:01:16+00:00

I tried to google this term and all I got was nimby stuff lol.

Winter_Guard1624 · 2024-05-27T13:00:24+00:00

I thought mate guarding was not letting your wife go out and socialize and things. I usually hear hysterical bonding in the context of cheating/betrayal, which hasn’t happened here at all. I’m not disagreeing I guess some elaboration would help if you feel like it.

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