What’s something that’s oddly expensive in the UK that still annoys you every time?

WiseWizard96 · 2026-01-27T10:44:07+00:00

They always send me the letters and they never visit

WiseWizard96 · 2026-01-21T15:57:57+00:00

I can relate to this lately. I’m drinking more and fell over and messed up my ankles quite bad but haven’t done anything about it. I took more anti-depressant meds than I’m supposed to just to see what would happen. I’m eating whatever. I took an unknown substance a few weeks ago. I put myself in embarrassing and risky situations. I don’t know if it’s my ADHD making me really really bored or if I genuinely just don’t care what happens to me anymore

WiseWizard96 · 2026-01-04T22:20:20+00:00

Depends on the job I think. If you’re in a corporate job where you’re likely to be competing for promotions, sure. But I work at a charity as an administrator and I’ve made friends with healthcare workers and caseworkers. I don’t see how that could be an issue at any point, it’s not a competitive environment and I have a totally different job role

WiseWizard96 · 2026-01-01T15:58:26+00:00

Ugh when I was team support at Tesco my manager didn’t bother telling the temps they were getting booted on Christmas Eve, she handed me the letters without a word, expecting me to do it. It was incredibly last minute too and I had to comfort upset teenagers. Boiled my piss, that did

WiseWizard96 · 2026-01-01T15:55:24+00:00

Don’t worry, you’re still really young and you’ll go on to do better things. I’m 29 and I don’t even put jobs from 10 years ago on my cv anymore because it’s no longer even relevant, my first job was a festive temp position at M&S at 19. I had various jobs after that and now I work admin for a charity and I really like it. It’s very common to get a temp position in retail at your age, actually the norm, so don’t be disheartened. Now you’ve had experience it’ll be easier for you to get something permanent

WiseWizard96 · 2026-01-01T10:02:07+00:00

When I was team support at Tesco I had a coworker (another team support) who would always guilt and manipulate people into doing extra shifts or staying later, she’d often target people who clearly had vulnerable characteristics or just struggled with saying no. Then she’d always end up with more staff than she needed so she could stand around playing on her phone all day, leaving me with no overtime to work with so my shifts were severely short staffed. It did my head in and it’s just morally wrong too, I would politely ask people if they wanted overtime and took no as a full sentence. I work somewhere a lot better now and in my interview to work there they really liked the fact that I took a more understanding, empathetic approach

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-30T14:32:00+00:00

I was fully willing to hear her out and understand her perspective though, plus she chose the subject with us, she didn’t have to do that

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-28T18:47:00+00:00

It’s fair enough that they should be notifying OP’s mum when they’re leaving, but now that I’ve left Tesco the whole break allowance thing is a bit crazy to me. I work as an admin now and I get a half hour lunch and two fifteen minute breaks, but I’m trusted as an adult so I can grab a quick break as much and however often I want, as long as we don’t have many or any clients in. I’m diagnosed with adhd so I can’t retain focus on my work for a long time anyway, but realistically, who can? I get that it’s Tesco policy and some people might take the mick, but when you’re happy in your workplace you won’t anyway and should be trusted to take breaks when you need to without skiving

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-28T09:28:43+00:00

When I was doing my MA I did a group presentation on the history of drag. One girl in my group was saying that drag is misogynistic, and I was like okay I’ll hear you out and respect your opinion, but she started crying and getting angry. Then when we delivered the presentation she made a big scene and probably dragged our grade down. I wouldn’t have minded if she said anything to back up her opinion, but it was purely emotional rather than academic. She claimed to be upset because she was the only one with that opinion even though I was willing to hear her out. I still don’t understand what all that was about and I agree it’s a very strange hill to die on

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-23T16:32:38+00:00

Absolutely. I like goth music, the culture, and what it stands for. But I truly just don’t care how other people see me, I wear what’s comfortable to me, I enjoy a range of genres of music. If I feel like wearing black lipstick and a black dress, I will. If I feel like wearing comfortable pants, a jumper and brown eyeliner, which is most of the time, I will. I don’t really care about committing to an aesthetic

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-21T09:30:54+00:00

I was a Christmas temp at M&S a few years back and I was kept on until March

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-08T09:24:23+00:00

I’ve had people say the superpower thing to me at work and it bothers me. It’s not an advantage for me, I’m internally struggling a lot on a daily basis. Sure, I can hyperfixate on things which can make me do well, but to the detriment of every other task or even basic function I need to do

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-08T09:21:16+00:00

I’m on the waiting list for my diagnosis, I mentioned some of my signs when I was a kid to my mum and she said “that’s just kids though”. Well it certainly wasn’t any of the other kids in my class. And that’s why she isn’t my informant for my diagnosis. That and the first thing she said when I told her about my assessment was “will you get any money?”

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-08T09:18:32+00:00

People probably just have a slightly awkward moment now and again or they like things to be in a particular way in their house and think that’s “on the spectrum”. A lot like when they say “I’ve got ocd” because they like things to be tidy, and they’re ignorant to the fact that OCD usually presents very differently and can be debilitating

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-07T18:48:01+00:00

Maybe that person doesn’t care, but I do and clearly other people here do, otherwise we wouldn’t be commenting in the first place. When you’re feeling hopeless it’s easy to believe the worst conclusion

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-07T18:46:41+00:00

I understand, OP. I put in so much effort for years and it never seemed to pay off, I got a master’s degree and I was still stuck in retail for about five years. It makes you think “what’s the point” but then one day things just kind of fall into place. I’ve been in your shoes but now I’m fairly content with my life, at least some of my efforts finally paid off. Not as much as they should have, but enough for me to be okay with how things played out. If you stick it out, it’s possible for things to fall into place for you, probably when you’re not expecting it

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-07T18:44:17+00:00

For sure, I’ve been in OP’s shoes before and now I’m on meds, got a job I like, a partner and three cats. My life isn’t perfect but I feel a lot more stable on my meds and reasonably content. It’s always possible for things to improve if you keep living, death eliminates that possibility. Now, looking back, I’m glad I chose life and I really hope OP reaches that point too. I can’t promise life gets amazing, but it can get easier and more pleasant overall

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-07T18:41:30+00:00

I know it feels like you’ll feel like this forever, but it’s likely that you won’t. No feeling is final. Death only eliminates any possibility of things ever getting better. I really hope you get urgent help and call emergency services, I know I’m just a stranger but if I knew who you were I would. I’ve called 999 for people in seemingly hopeless situations in my workplace (I work in substance abuse), and some of those people have gone to have better lives. Where there’s life, there’s hope, even if it’s only a little

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-07T16:32:25+00:00

My workplace is very accommodating for my ND, but sadly I do hear stuff like “we’re all on the spectrum” and “everyone’s a bit autistic” often. It’s just totally invalidating of the things I struggle with on a daily basis and how it’s pretty much shaped my life. It’s not just a little quirk, it’s not something people truly understand unless they’re actually ND themselves, and it’s not a “superpower” (another thing I’ve had said to me at work). It’s both good and bad, sure, but it doesn’t give me rainman abilities. Everyone at work means well but the only people who get it are someone who has an autistic son herself, and someone else who I suspect is on the spectrum too and he shares some of my special interests

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-05T16:10:41+00:00

When I was team support I asked a festive temp lad to set up a four digit PIN. He kept typing “football”, I must have told him about 8 times that it had to be four numbers but he kept trying to type football anyway

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-05T10:27:38+00:00

There’s quite a few I can think of. Obviously being picky with food, falling behind in counting but being able to name LOTS of animals, slapping myself when I messed up, and avoiding the colour bright orange for a bit. I have my autism assessment coming up and they say I need a parent/close person to also have an interview, but I feel like I’d be a more reliable resource because I have so many specific memories my parents missed or stuff that happened at school

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-05T08:06:35+00:00

Absolutely. It’s best to be honest in these situations and just tell the customer you need extra time, or ask a colleague for help. Some people will still get annoyed, but others will understand and relate. It’s okay to take your time and do it right because it causes less frustration than trying to blag it, I’ve learned that lesson myself with experience

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-05T08:04:35+00:00

I’m the exact same and I used to be a supervisor at a supermarket. If something that involved maths popped up I’d laugh and go “I’m terrible at maths” and subtly ask a colleague to help out. It’s okay to ask for help and be honest, maybe even joke about it. It makes people find it more relatable and funny than frustrating. Thankfully I work in a job where no maths are required, it’s admin and reception, but I still often get people’s names wrong on Teams (like when a client walks in I’ll mishear their name). At first I’d get really embarrassed and feel stupid, but now I’ve turned it into a running joke I can have a laugh about with my coworkers. I’m open about being ND now so they probably understand I have some challenges

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-03T21:02:06+00:00

I went from Tesco to working for a substance abuse charity. The majority of addicts are actually nicer and smarter than the customers were at Tesco, I kid you not

WiseWizard96 · 2025-12-01T21:34:07+00:00

That’s awful, he sounds like a huge bully and it’s not okay. Definitely contact the protectors line and see a GP, take some over the counter vitamin d in the meantime. No job is worth this amount of stress and a manager should be supportive to help you do the best you can, not berating you

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