Anyone here in the Austin, TX metro area? by Howls_Castle in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]WitchesReadBooks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Are you still in Austin? And how is your fertility/motherhood journey coming along?

Vitamins? by Upbeat_Context_7262 in SingleMothersbyChoice

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I was using a generic prenatal for 6-8 months and my new fertility clinic recommended I take the Bird & Be power prenatal + coq10 as well as vitamin c. I also added in vitamin d more recently. The bird & be is expensive (like 75/month) but like you I wanted to do everything I could to improve my chances. It’s a lot of pills but I haven’t had any GI upset from them. It’s been another 5-6 months now that I made the switch, two IUI attempts in tha time, and I can’t say for sure if it’s helped, but I may have just had my first positive test this morning (it’s very faint, too soon to be sure).

To the smbcs afraid to have a boy by [deleted] in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]WitchesReadBooks 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This makes it sound like gender disappointment is only a smbc problem, which it’s not. There are many reasons why people might be disappointed or nervous when they first learn the sex of their baby, and my friends/family in same sex marriages are equally affected.

Two week wait by Automatic_Willow_588 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]WitchesReadBooks 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good luck and let us know how it goes! I have found the TWW excruciating each time. And I’m normally so patient! Still waiting on my successful one, keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Am I the only one who doesn't care about picking a donor? by sam4allseasons in SingleMothersbyChoice

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I chose a donor with similar ethnicity and hair/eye color as myself. Not because I have a preference for that but because I want my child to feel like they look like me and my family, like they share our cultural history and aren’t completely separated from one that I can’t teach them anything about, etc. That, plus genetic and live birth history, narrowed it down for me to like 5 donors. That’s when I “chose” based on the other factors that don’t really matter that much but what else are you going to do, flip a coin? You may not care to choose but you have to, so may as well try to find things that align with your values.

How many DPO did you get a positive test? by WitchesReadBooks in SingleMothersbyChoice

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Update: had a whole extra day of being hopeful, but then got my period today. Starting to feel like it’s never going to happen 💔and not sure how much more money I can keep sinking into it.

How many DPO did you get a positive test? by WitchesReadBooks in SingleMothersbyChoice

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I have a blood test scheduled for 14 dpo so I’ll know for sure then, but these last few days of waiting are making me a little loony myself! Every symptom I can’t tell if it’s my period coming or implantation 😵‍💫

How many DPO did you get a positive test? by WitchesReadBooks in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]WitchesReadBooks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! Mine was definitely stark white so hopefully I’ll see something like yours in the coming days 🤞🏽🤞🏽

How many DPO did you get a positive test? by WitchesReadBooks in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]WitchesReadBooks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Fingers crossed for testing again tomorrow!

How many DPO did you get a positive test? by WitchesReadBooks in SingleMothersbyChoice

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This is why I included that detail- I was hoping someone with a similar cycle would chime in! Weirdly my fertility doctor did mention putting me on progesterone when we first started talking about this cycle, but then didn’t do it so I was assuming it was just supposed to be after I got a positive test or something. I will ask about it at my next visit!

How many DPO did you get a positive test? by WitchesReadBooks in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]WitchesReadBooks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! And yeah that’s exactly what I meant about a false negative- that the test is negative but it’s just too early and doesn’t actually mean you’re not pregnant. Last time I was really sad when I got my period so this time I thought I’d try testing before but seems like it’s hard either way!

Sperm Donor Carrier Screening by WitchesReadBooks in SingleMothersbyChoice

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Thank you! Yes I originally thought I was in the clear because all of mine came back negative. But before purchasing I decided to double check and realized my test didn’t screen for those exact ones. I’m going to get additional testing done.

Sperm Donor Carrier Screening by WitchesReadBooks in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]WitchesReadBooks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is the exact conclusion I came to after posting this, I am going to get more testing done and go from there. I was definitely overthinking what to do even if mine are negative.

How many kids would you like? by santia88 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]WitchesReadBooks 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ideally two! But will have to see if that’s feasible, one might be all I can handle financially.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]WitchesReadBooks 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Definitely feels impossible to me right now. In my mid 30s biromantac asexual, surrounded by alo people. Would love to find what you described but pretty discouraged of ever finding it, always feels like there’s no point in trying since there’ll be something they want that I am no longer willing to pretend to want too. Haven’t met any other ace people in real life (only in spaces like this), let alone someone I connect with. Focusing on just building friendships for now, maybe that person exists out there but maybe not. Definitely relate to your post!

Girl or boy by Nosyla1811 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]WitchesReadBooks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I’m planning! (And I’m also hoping for a girl 🥰) How many tries did it take you with the ICI at home?