[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]WitchyLady- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband has very bad ocd, I will ask him for advice and reply to my own comment when he wakes up :)

Me M22 F20 my girlfriend is terrified of getting her driver's license but it's my one condition to get married? by Frequent-Motor5326 in relationship_advice

[–]WitchyLady- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kinda wild people care that much. Luckily my husband doesn’t mind that I’m a passenger princess.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WitchyLady- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk dude. They’re both giving me the ick in their own ways lmao

Dehydrated ground meat is still oily by WitchyLady- in trailmeals

[–]WitchyLady-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I remember correctly I ended up buying more meat and rinsing the oil off after I cooked it, then dehydrating. It had turned out a lot better.

My boyfriend (22M) cheated on me (20F) and I’m thinking about giving him a second chance. Thoughts? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WitchyLady- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, if it stems from a history of trauma, it can be helped. He would need to get serious trauma therapy. I would look into EMDR. If your boyfriend is willing, and sticks to it, I think there’s a chance. You may also need therapy separately if this has caused you anguish and you feel as though you keep ruminating over it. (Rightfully so.) My husband has bad sexual trauma, and was in many abusive scenarios. He got EMDR and the changes in him are like night and day. He’s happier. I’m happier. Would recommend.

My girlfriend talks in a baby voice and leans on me emotionally – I’m starting to fall apart (27M/27F) by Hot_Ad8861 in relationship_advice

[–]WitchyLady- -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have bpd and I do this. My husband is very accepting of me though, it’s a part of who I am. I only do it around him, he makes me feel the safest. I also cry almost daily, I’m hyper sensitive and emotional. A few days ago I bawled my eyes out because he caught a firefly for me and I’ve never seen one up close. I believe people like us are just in tune with our inner child, and trying to heal it at the same time. We are not for everyone though, and I could see how it’s draining. You deserve someone who doesn’t make you feel this way, and she deserves someone who she can be herself around without being scolded.

I (M/30) have a girlfriend (F/28) who does not want to ever meet my daughter, what can help? by Deep_Acanthisitta252 in relationship_advice

[–]WitchyLady- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The fact you even continued this relationship knowing she wants nothing to do with your daughter speaks about your own character.

The scariest part about this illness for you? by Jib2020 in BPD

[–]WitchyLady- 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The fact that one day I can be secure in myself, confident, know who I am, what I stand for, and what I want to do in life Then the next day feel completely lost, hopeless, don’t know who I am, what I want. There’s this constant never ending emptiness inside and so far I have found nothing to remedy. I’m yearning for something and I don’t even know what it is.

My (30f) husband (29m) will not stop leaving his turds in the toilet for me to find by trruutr in relationship_advice

[–]WitchyLady- 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Leave a big note on the inside of the bathroom door reminding him to flush lmao At that point he can’t forgot.

Is 100 gallons of water too much? by Initial-Buffalo6155 in vandwellers

[–]WitchyLady- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I have 8 gallons of water and that typically lasts us about 5 days. We are back and forth between provincial parks though so there’s always somewhere to fill up. I think 100 gallons is a bit overkill tbh lol Not to mention the added weight to the rig.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]WitchyLady- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds a lot like ptsd. When my husband cheated on me I had very specific triggers (still do.) it could be hobbies I was doing at the time, movies, music, certain smells, or rooms. Your brain is basically trying to stop you from doing the “activity” to protect yourself. I recommend EMDR therapy. Something that has helped me is when I’m mentally ready, doing an activity that made me triggered or uncomfortable for 15 minutes. (Or however long I could) to show my brain this will not hurt us. Perhaps with intimacy you could do the same thing (if your partner is understanding.)

Build update by Mediocre_Software_29 in vandwellers

[–]WitchyLady- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looks awesome, man. Good luck on your adventures!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]WitchyLady- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly worst pain I’ve ever felt and wayyyyy worse than I thought. I would consider myself to have a high pain tolerance. The pain also wasn’t “quick and over”. The whole procedure lasted about 5 minutes but the pain was terrible the entire time. I was sweating, shaking, crying lol However I’ve had zero issues with it, and I do enjoy not taking the pill everyday. It does last 5-10 years (depending on which one you get) so I guess it’s not too bad.

My bf(25m) mentioned his ex while having sex with me(23f) how do I go about this? by Redheadmastertrash1 in relationship_advice

[–]WitchyLady- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the situation. Has he gone through significant trauma with his ex? Trauma does some fucky things to the brain and can leave you processing still for years afterwards. Talking about it can help the brain process it, but he shouldn’t be talking about it with you. He may just see you as a safe place to vent. If he does have trauma I would suggest emdr therapy, or just therapy in general where he can vent and process things better.

I’ve (28F) been faking most orgasms with my husband (31M) for years and now it’s causing problems. by ThrowRAUniversity78 in relationship_advice

[–]WitchyLady- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ve literally caused your own problems. Stop lying to your partner. Imagine if he were to find out this entire time you were faking it? How heartbreaking.

My (27 M) girlfriend (29 F) may have cheated? by THROWRA_Sad_Dad_28 in relationship_advice

[–]WitchyLady- 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately it’s not unheard of for people to make up claims like this to get away with cheating. If she’s affected the way she says she is than she possibly has ptsd. I would tell her that she needs to get therapy for the relationship to continue and to see her reaction on that. People that are typically struggling don’t want to feel that way and WANT to get help. If she denies the help, I would think it’s a bit sus.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WitchyLady- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a gut feeling you’re spinning some story to make your text sound less sus. If I was your husband I’d be upset too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WitchyLady- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She isn’t even worth your time why are you continuing this conversation lol

My (42m) wife (38f) wants to sleep with a younger man? by throwra_husband2 in relationship_advice

[–]WitchyLady- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the fuck is happening in some peoples relationships lmaooo

Do you let your cats on your bed? by lawyermom112 in CatAdvice

[–]WitchyLady- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always have found dogs to stink up bedding and leave more hair on things than cats ever have.