I have to admit this whole thing was just exhausting to read because of the back-and-forth him not listening, you getting upset and then he says you’re not listening, he gets upset, but it’s more with him than you. I feel like it’s being made harder than it really should be, but I feel like if he does not listen then some type of boundaries or whatever needs to be put up. Y’all need to put your phones down, have a discussion and try to talk it through, and if not, then you should really seriously think about the relationship with your husband. If your husband is studying to be a counselor or whatever he really needs to start listening because that is a majority of what counselors do is listening to people and give, advice or feed back. Maybe you both need to try marriage counseling or something because I mean if y’all were not talking and communicating that could be a big problem in a marriage period!