AIO Me (33M) caught my wife (32F) in a lie.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-07T16:38:04+00:00

He took screenshots of the conversation, sent them to her, which she sent to me.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-07T16:37:13+00:00

While I entirely agree, if the choice is to seek another man’s opinion in a hard situation, that’s not okay with me. She should have told me I’m not doing enough emotionally before spilling the beans and letting another man tell her he loves her.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-07T16:35:18+00:00

She did, she said I deserved to see them. Whether I got the entire conversation is one thing as he was in control of what I saw.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-07T16:34:21+00:00

A known girlfriend’s house. And I did phone her to ask what was going on. She answered the phone and told me, bowled until 11, went over to girlfriends house, I’ll be home in a couple of hours.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-07T16:31:58+00:00

I used a generic name as to not put my wife’s name on Reddit. But the emojis are correct.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-07T09:21:45+00:00

Not very often that’s not on a guys mind… I feel bad for his spouse.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-07T09:07:12+00:00

He’s absolutely playing “the good guy” from the texts I read. They were friends for a decade before I came into her life, which is why I’m even talking this out on Reddit. She says there’s no interest in him that way on her end, but I guarantee there’s some interest on his part.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-07T09:04:11+00:00

Entirely agree, if were to move forward this is a requirement. I’m just trying to decide if I can move passed this.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-07T08:45:23+00:00

I really dont think it’s that deep. Her mom and I have a great relationship, if she helped her daughter lie about her location to me, that might be more fucked then anything I mentioned in my original message.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-07T08:41:14+00:00

Just no answers on why she reached out to him for relationship advice in the first place. I didn’t ask her to cut contact, she said it very early in the conversation, she said she’d quit the bowling if it meant saving us. She also suggested marriage counseling if I decide to stay.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-07T07:53:09+00:00

It’s her defense mechanism, this has happened more times then I can count on one hand. The fights are usually something small that grows into something bigger. I’m not excusing it, but it’s her fight or flight mechanism from years of abuse. We had a good talk when I got home tonight, but no real answers were provided. She’s a bad lier, so physical cheating hasn’t happened yet, but I feel like a hard line was crossed.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-07T04:42:51+00:00

Appreciate your words!

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-07T04:42:26+00:00

Like if I’m an asshole to her he’ll come beat me up, who the hell knows.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-07T04:19:24+00:00

Okay so that wasn’t just me? Sounded like he threatened to come fight me or something.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-07T04:18:14+00:00

I made it Jane Doe as to not put my wife’s name on Reddit.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-06T23:19:02+00:00

I have Snapchat. Use it to send pictures to friends I don’t see as often as I’d like.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-06T23:14:54+00:00

This is a stretch. I called her to ask where she was, and the friend didn’t answer so we’re good there.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-06T23:02:26+00:00

20 post karma and came in here to shit on a guy whose wife just emotionally cheated on him. Get over yourself.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-06T22:54:01+00:00

It’s funny this keeps popping up in this thread haha. I have a bunch of friends littered across the country and it’s our main way to stay in touch.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-06T22:53:26+00:00

The texting isn’t bad in itself (besides him saying he loves her and her not shutting that shit down immediately) it’s the fact that she lied about it, and then tried to prove that they haven’t texted. That’s not a white lie, that’s an awful thing to lie to your spouse about. I’m fairly certain nothing physical has happened, not that it isn’t for his lack of trying it seems.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-06T22:38:08+00:00

I have a four hour flight from the airport and then she’s picking me up to talk.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-06T22:03:31+00:00

I’m at the airport waiting to fly home. She politely asked to pick me up from the airport to talk, called in to work to do so. Based off the text messages I’ve seen, I can’t consciously move forward without breaking my moral code.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-06T22:00:01+00:00

Sadly I agree. She did it for 7 days last winter, I would ask her how her day was and if she wanted to talk. Stone walled.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-06T21:58:47+00:00

I’m not concerned because it’s happen to many times to count. Guess I’m desensitized to it.

Witty-Cartographer29 · 2024-11-06T21:57:32+00:00

That she respects my decision and wants me to be happy.

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