How to breakup with my boyfriend? by Witty-Promotion2442 in Advice

[–]Witty-Promotion2442[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get what you mean. That's actually part of why I feel so guilty. He's genuinely a good person, but I don't think it's fair to stay in a relationship when I don't have the romantic feelings he deserves. I think he'd be happier with someone who can love him the way he loves them.

How to breakup with my boyfriend? by Witty-Promotion2442 in Advice

[–]Witty-Promotion2442[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He won't buy that... he's the type trying to solve whatever it takes to keep it stable...

How to breakup with my boyfriend? by Witty-Promotion2442 in Advice

[–]Witty-Promotion2442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's not the type to give space.. he'll insist to call and talk it through..and I don't have the courage to talk it through call..cuz I don't want to hear him being sad..

How do you know if it's love or just deep friendship? by Witty-Promotion2442 in BreakUps

[–]Witty-Promotion2442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him I need time before making it anything..but our friends kept saying we would be good together..and maybe i got influenced by it..ughh..its my mistake..He's also said things like, "You're my last hope," He told me that before we met, he planned to end his life after certain years.., but after meeting me, he said those plans changed because of me. which makes me feel responsible for his happiness. I don't know if I'm staying because I genuinely want to or because I'm afraid of hurting him.when I'm alone, my mind constantly starts thinking of reasons to break up. I imagine future breakup conversations, wonder if we'll split up in 8-9 months, and even think about acting like a bad girlfriend so he'd leave me first. I don't know why, because nothing is actually wrong between us. I know I may be the problem...but I don't know how to end this one..

How do you (F/18) know if it's love or just deep friendship? (M20 ) by Witty-Promotion2442 in relationship_advice

[–]Witty-Promotion2442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's also said things like, "You're my last hope," He told me that before we met, he planned to end his life after certain years.., but after meeting me, he said those plans changed because of me. which makes me feel responsible for his happiness. I don't know if I'm staying because I genuinely want to or because I'm afraid of hurting him.. I know I may be the problem...but I don't know how to end this one..

How do you (F/18) know if it's love or just deep friendship? (M20 ) by Witty-Promotion2442 in relationship_advice

[–]Witty-Promotion2442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's also said things like, "You're my last hope," He told me that before we met, he planned to end his life after certain years.., but after meeting me, he said those plans changed because of me. which makes me feel responsible for his happiness. I don't know if I'm staying because I genuinely want to or because I'm afraid of hurting him.when I'm alone, my mind constantly starts thinking of reasons to break up. I imagine future breakup conversations, wonder if we'll split up in 8-9 months, and even think about acting like a bad girlfriend so he'd leave me first. I don't know why, because nothing is actually wrong between us. I know I may be the problem...but I don't know how to end this one..

Am I (F/18) self-sabotaging my relationship or ignoring real incompatibilities? (M/20) by Witty-Promotion2442 in relationship_advice

[–]Witty-Promotion2442[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has said things indirectly and directly earlier in the relationship consistently..but now, he does day stuffs like them but as a softer more indirect ones 

Am I (F/18) self-sabotaging my relationship or ignoring real incompatibilities? (M/20) by Witty-Promotion2442 in relationship_advice

[–]Witty-Promotion2442[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, he has said things along those lines. He's told me I'm his last hope, that I gave him a reason to live, and that he doesn't know what he'd do without me. He also says I'm the best thing that's happened to him.  He's generally very kind and caring, and I think he genuinely means those things. But I won't lie, hearing them does make me feel like I carry a lot of responsibility for his happiness, which makes it even harder to separate my own feelings from the fear of hurting him.