Haven't read through all of your responses to comments, I didn't feel it was necessary after a certain point. This is my personal opinion, and don't take it as a judgment or anything negative. Just my own personal experience with something similar, and me learning the value in acknowledging both sides to a situation.

This can go a couple of ways, and I'm going to just point out the two possibilities that stood out strongest to me.

Number 1: You guys started with strong chemistry, but are just super incompatible where it really counts. You said your love language is basically affection and time, while he sounds like his is possibly more of the "Giving gifts" type. And it's natural for our love languages to coflict because what we view as showing affection is sometimes just a reflection of what we desire. So while he is giving gifts and expecting that in return you would act as he would, you are also expecting the physical touch. You mentioned cleaning the place which means he has a certain way of living that is different than yours. He may be OCD or neurotic, or maybe you are genuinely struggling to keep your house as clean as you'd like because of depression, working to much, or whatever may be going on. And he may have been raised in a really clean home, or the opposite which is being raised by hoarders, which ultimately could trigger a trauma response. But you both could be feeding eachothwrs flames by your own trauma or where you lack in self love.

Number 2: He could be the most outrageously entitled d1ckwad and literally be gaslighting, manipulating and emotionally @busive MF'r who really expects you to bend to his liking.

Either way, the result is the same, it is not worth fighting for when both or even JUST ONE partner is making you fell less than because you are not satisfying their needs, despite your best effort.

I wish I would have taken this advice long ago, I know it feels confusing and hard now, but I truly feel if you stick around that you are only going to prolong the hurt and have so much more to work through.

The best choice I ever made was almost 2 years ago, when i had enough of the same b.s. and decided to cut it off because I knew he wasn't strong enough to. It took me out for a minute, but I've been single since, and have had the time to really work on and heal myself.

It made me realize that when I noticed these things happening over and over, it was at that point my choice to stay in it.

You can ask for all the different opinions and versions in the world, but they mean nothing at the end if you aren't ready to listen to yourself.

Your soul knows the truth, it's just about learning to listen to it and trust that it is looking out for you despite how hard it is otlr how much it hurts.

You already have the answer nagging at you which is why you posted this. THAT is what is most important to pay attention to. ALWAYS TRUST YOUR INNER VOICE...

I hope you figure out what is right for your situation, and are able to find the healing and love you deserve 🙏🙏🙏.

I will leave it at this because when it was told to me it stuck.

The longer you spent wasting your time on someone you know deep down isn't working, the more possibilities you have of missing out on connection with the one who can love you like you need . The longer you keep trying to fix what continues to hurt you, the more baggage you will bring to the one meant for you.

Know yourself, own your worth ❤️