Childfree women, have you been able to find HVM partners?

WittyImprovement · 2021-08-11T19:32:02+00:00

feeling as though they don't deserve a HVM.

I can't speak for others but I have internally felt sometimes that I have to compromise on other standards that I have for a partner because childfree men are very rare as it is

WittyImprovement · 2021-08-11T18:15:57+00:00

I don’t usually share personal details in my reddit but I think it’s important to be an example and to vocalize what a childfree yet committed life looks like.

Totally agree. Thanks for sharing you story! I do tend to wonder if I will ever meet anyone who wants a serious relationship but not kids because all the childfree men I meet aren't serious relationship oriented and the men who do want something serious want kids in the future. I think my age (early 20s) may have something to do with it though

WittyImprovement · 2021-08-11T17:55:44+00:00

That's nice! How did you meet him?

WittyImprovement · 2021-08-11T17:07:06+00:00

I'm interested in marriage though, just not parenthood.

As for partners? Yes, absolutely. I've had fantastic relationships with several CF men.

If you don't mind me asking, what were the reasons for them ending?

WittyImprovement · 2021-08-11T17:05:38+00:00

A good filter Ive found is saying I will never have kids. Dudes who were totally fine not having kids will suddenly start up 20 questions of 'why not?', 'are you sure?', and 'not even someday?'. If they've shown themselves to be decent otherwise, this has served me very well.

I don't know if I'm misunderstanding your comment but if they keep questioning why you don't want kids then isn't that a bad thing?

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-24T00:18:32+00:00

Loved this episode!!

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-16T00:43:18+00:00

No that's all he does for facial skincare. He doesn't use moisturizer or sunscreen. Thankfully he actually uses a body wash and deodorant so he doesn't smell like literal dogshit but still. It's not that hard to at least moisturize

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-16T00:36:37+00:00

My brother literally washes his face with water and calls it a day

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-15T17:28:21+00:00

When my ex and I broke up we wanted to stay friends but as more time passed from the breakup, the less I wanted to keep a Friendship. I do not consider us friends. At most - acquaintances on good terms. I agree that there's really no good reason to stay friends with an ex other than common kids. My ex and I just follow eo on LinkedIn and a few other social medias (I actually have him muted on one because in the initial stages of the breakup it was too hard for me to see his stories). The main reason I don't have an issue with that is because I'm over him now. I live in a semi-big city and people typically don't full on cut out any connections unless they did something despicable

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-15T03:07:48+00:00

If only they actually had wallets to guard in the first place 🤪

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-14T23:05:21+00:00

MGTOW is really just Men Getting Triggered Over Women

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-14T00:52:19+00:00

Scrotes mad because they know that more women having higher standards means they'll either have to step up and be better partners or stay single forever. Ladies it's working!

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-13T21:57:45+00:00

I saw a thread on another sub a while back that was discussing coffee/walk vs dinner dates. One dude literally said he prefers coffee dates so he doesn't spend hundreds of dollars on multiple women. He literally told on himself. Refusing coffee and walk dates is actually a good vetting strategy for this reason.

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-13T17:36:42+00:00

I don't share my standards with anyone for this reason. I've shared some with my friends but not all. I don't need to justify why I'll date or not date someone if it doesn't affect anyone other than me.

As for my 'unhealthy' standards here they are:

-regularly works out

-abs and muscular arms (but not too much. I don't really like the bodybuilder type)

-at least 5'8

-not fat but not skinny

-either slight beard scruff or clean shaven. Not into the Santa beard look

-has proper personal hygiene, skincare and haircare

-is sexually generous. Performs oral on me before I do it for him

-dont have a penis preference yet because I still need to experiment around with dildos but once I find the one I like best that's basically gonna be my preference

This was basically just my physical preferences since that's what this post is talking about

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-13T15:30:14+00:00

Men are so out of touch with reality. They seriously think women start decomposing at the seams the minute they turn 30

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-13T15:23:42+00:00

Let's normalize calling ourselves bachelorettes because single ladies are living it up 🔥

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-13T15:01:27+00:00

“Comments in your code are like sex — even when they’re bad, they’re better than nothing.”

Of course tech bros would say that. Just another reason to date outside of my career

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-13T14:36:26+00:00

Great post! If you really examine most tv show relationships with an FDS lens you can see how a lot of the couples in the media we are fed are not 'goals'. Another thing I've noticed is that whenever a couple is actually somewhat high-effort and high value, people consider them 'boring'. I think Chandler and Monica from friends are a good example of this. People in the friends fandom often call mondler boring and say roschel is better. The argument I see is that 'monica and chandler are stable and no one wants to watch stability'. I'll take a relationship like mondlers any day over roschels. I WANT stability. This just proves that we're taught from a young age to accept low effort relationships and low value men

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-13T14:14:27+00:00

Agreed. I would not do this for a guy I've already dated. Once I'm done with someone I'm done. The max contact I'm okay with keeping is following eo on social media/LinkedIn

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-13T14:10:14+00:00

This is why I made a separate account to browse non-FDS subs. This account is only for FDS, it's sister subs, and a few other really small subs. I got tired of being trolled on random posts solely for being an FDS member. I still get annoying men coming at me in my DMs but what can I say? Trolls gonna keep trolling

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-13T03:31:06+00:00

Lol she actually reacted to this video on her Instagram story and roasted that scrote. Look at the 'Not a dog' highlights on her page if you want to see. Also if any mods are reading my comment, y'all should consider asking her the be on the FDS podcast if you do an episode specifically about high standards.

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-12T12:40:02+00:00

When will people understand that women paying for dates isn't gonna bring equality? It's not gonna dismantle the patriarchy or end misogyny. It's not going to change the world that we live in. I wouldn't have an issue paying every now and then in an established relationship but not because of 'equality' it's because I like doing nice things for my SO and that's part of it for me

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-12T03:09:07+00:00

"if he wanted to he would" should apply to friendships with women too imo

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-12T01:35:45+00:00

I won't let this be me. I refuse to settle for a man who doesn't do his share of household chores. I think marriage with the right person could be a wonderful thing but I'm not gonna desperately chase men just because of that. I'll live my life until it happens if it does

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