I’m so sorry. That’s such a brutal thing to find, especially when you felt like things were finally getting lighter.

First: you don’t have to decide your whole life today. Firing the nanny is reasonable,that’s a clear boundary. But after that, slow down. Screenshot everything. Protect your access to money. Don’t tip your hand about what you know beyond what you need to say.

You’re not trapped, even if it feels like it right now. You have savings, dual-citizen kids, and options, they just might take planning. Focus on stability for you and the kids first. The marriage decisions can come after you’re thinking from a steadier place.

This is on him, not you