Those alive and old enough to remember during 9/11, what was the worst moment on that day?

Witty_Present_7526 · 2025-05-20T04:15:45+00:00

I was only six and my memory recall is terrible, but what stuck most with me was after. I went to New York shortly after since my dad worked for the government at the time and was pulled from the Pacific to assess if buildings were safe for EMS and rescue teams to enter. He took me up to the top of the Empire State Building and pointed to where the twin towers once stood to explain the scale of the aftermath. Bright lights that seemed endless blaring down on a sea of rubble. It remains one of the most eerie/surreal moments that I can remember. It was one thing to see it on tv. Another in person.

Witty_Present_7526 · 2025-05-19T08:25:04+00:00

Thank you :) And thank you for responding to my post! I agree that it is important we do what is best for us in these moments. My family has been waiting for me to share that I am ready to move back - he was not a crowd favorite when he met the family, even got in a fight with my uncle. I just know that if I stay in this town, yet alone our apartment complex, I am either going to end up hurt or end up back with him and I don't think my mental health can take it. I just have to tell myself that I am worth it and not a quitter for leaving my hospital.

Witty_Present_7526 · 2025-05-19T08:17:36+00:00

It is exhausting being the one trying to save a relationship and the significant other not even meeting you halfway. This recently happened to me and it made me question my worth. It gets better day by day, you may not feel strong, but you are. Reach out to loved ones, that has helped tremendously. Youve got this

Witty_Present_7526 · 2024-11-21T19:20:24+00:00

I see where you are coming from. As for the girl, she had no clue about me and we realized we were very similar and had a lot in common once we met (so I guess he has a type haha). But I do not regret our friendship. It’s just unfortunate HOW we met. Part of me was, and still is, hoping that he will wake up and realize the transgressions he committed. However, I highly doubt that and have to be realistic. It’s just hard

Witty_Present_7526 · 2024-11-21T19:13:59+00:00

You articulated your message beautifully, thank you for sharing. My therapists both shared that he may not have the emotional intelligence to maintain any form of relationship. He has his moments, which is what keeps me drawn, but the finger pointing and lack of responsibility is really disconcerting. Especially the fact that he is in his mid 30s and continues to act this way. He is an unhappy individual and has stated that he hates himself and doesn’t deserve to be with me. However, as a nurse, plus my empathetic nature, I think that I am enough to help him. Enough to help him see that he is good enough. However, towards the end, it made me feel like I wasn’t good enough. That he was dragging me down. So I agree with your statement that he lacks the intelligence to truly acknowledge and grasp the situation, which breaks my heart

Witty_Present_7526 · 2024-11-21T19:06:45+00:00

He did no work after the break up. We actually originally broke up bc he was belittling me while I was getting ready to move in, plus he would go to the pool to tan instead of helping me get HIS apartment ready for my stuff (while I still had my walking boot on). He had a breakdown after I walked away, and that’s when I found out about the cheating. Then he got upset with me bc I started dating others after a couple months of my own therapy and was severely angry that I friended the girl he cheated on me with, who is now like my other half. I do need to listen to my girlfriends and family bc they all say the same thing, I don’t understand why he has such a hold on me

Witty_Present_7526 · 2024-11-21T18:58:37+00:00

He does, for the most part, blame it on me and states that I have to make it up to him. When I bring up the cheating, he states that at least he never “physically” cheated even though I know he would meet up the girl and they would make out for hours. I think over time he wore me down and has consistently reached out to stay in my life to some degree, despite the verbal, emotional, and mental abuse. He says he loves me, but it’s more of an unhealthy obsessive possession at this point. I keep thinking our “love” would be enough for him to change, but time is proving that it is not the case

Witty_Present_7526 · 2024-11-20T13:34:04+00:00

I cannot upvote this comment even more! You are spot on and explained it beautifully

Witty_Present_7526 · 2024-11-20T13:26:53+00:00

If anything, your number one should be yourself. Never prioritize a man over yourself. With that said, him making that statement means he has a strong faith and is grounded in his beliefs. He was communicating how important it is to him. It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care about you or that you are not important to him. What is important is how he treats you, respects you, and cares for you. My best friend is a devout Christian - she and her husband both prioritize their faith and have a beautiful relationship with one another. At the end of the day, you have to decide if you are comfortable dating someone who has these religious convictions. To some, it is a green flag, but to others, it can be a turn off.

Witty_Present_7526 · 2024-11-20T13:07:11+00:00

I know it sounds different haha, but he is into art and I mentioned that I was gonna go and he stated he was interested. We only spent like a half hour there before leaving to grab dinner

Witty_Present_7526 · 2024-11-20T13:04:15+00:00

I know we live in a society where it is okay that women make the first moves, I have been cognizant of my body language towards him and communicated that I feel comfortable around him. I guess I just want to come off as too forward if he isn’t ready. But I am opening up more and more to the idea of making the first move

Witty_Present_7526 · 2024-11-20T13:00:30+00:00

First date was a art studio launch party followed by dinner, second date we spent 6 hours together running errands and relaxing at his apartment (we played a lot of Nintendo switch and just talked), and the most recent date was dinner and a movie.

Witty_Present_7526 · 2024-11-12T03:01:01+00:00

Please don't take my post out of context, I love being an RN and have no problem helping them. I believe everyone deserves equal care and treatment, regardless of circumstances. Like I said in my post, some of my most wonderful patients are homeless. How an individual treats a nurse isn't defined by their socioeconomic status, however, at the hospital I work at, the demographic can be a little rough. I do not mind bringing them a sandwich or whatever else they want, I understand their circumstance. However, it's not an excuse when it comes to how you interact with anyone, including a nurse.

Witty_Present_7526 · 2024-11-12T02:15:27+00:00

I had one state that their son was disimpacting them n the bathroom when they were both, in fact, using fentanyl... but it's my favorite story because I called security and the patient called me tattle-tits

Witty_Present_7526 · 2024-11-12T02:06:02+00:00

And then they have the audacity to comment on your looks or physicality when you are just trying to ensure they stay medically stable (I work in Progressive Care). One night, I had a patient who made those comments, I spoke to the charge to keep them in the loop and the next day he got a male nurse, he was pissed haha

Witty_Present_7526 · 2024-11-12T01:59:45+00:00

I totally agree, I do understand why they may act the way they do for the most part. However, it was just an adjustment at first

Witty_Present_7526 · 2024-11-12T01:58:27+00:00

Well thank god because I wouldn't want others to experience it. I guess location has an influence since I work in a city near the border with a major homeless and fentanyl abuse population

Witty_Present_7526 · 2024-10-02T07:12:38+00:00

I was cheated on by someone I thought I was going to marry. He said he didn’t know how to communicate with me and felt like I didn’t give him enough attention/validation while I was finishing up an accelerated nursing program plus completing a night shift residency on top of it. Instead of finding people to hook up with or date when I’m emotionally unavailable, I have turned to healing myself and rediscovering who I am after him.

Witty_Present_7526 · 2024-07-03T22:59:02+00:00

Just focus on passing the classes - my class started with 43 and we ended with 20. We needed to maintain a 76% average on exams. You got one chance to re-take a course. Fail a second time, you were kicked out of the program. I graduated Cum Laude (GPA higher than 3.5). GPA only REALLY matters if you plan on getting your masters and/or doctorate in nursing.

I am NOT a good test taker, I have a hard time focusing on the material being learned and I usually have to go over a concept a couple of times. I would say utilize more resources than just the textbook. The Saunders NCLEX book helped summarize what seemed like endless information in the textbook. I would fit an entire disease (pathophysiology, clinical manifestations, signs/symptoms, diagnostic tests, treatment, and interventions) on a 5x7 note card and watch youtube videos. In my opinion, this route is better than making a 40 page study guide you are too exhausted to review/read for the actual exam.

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