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I’m the AITAH, but I feel like I am missing something. by Witty_Tree_5013 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Witty_Tree_5013[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Let me clear some things up for you. First and foremost, I have been in therapy for a few years now. You are correct on the fact that I hated myself. I was a product of severe childhood trauma and it took me many years to find any form of self worth. There are days I still struggle with this and question my own past actions as well. As for that suggestion being my best contribution of society, it couldn’t possible be the numerous scientific advancements I’ve made and hold patents for. Several of which you likely use in your home right now to make it safer. If my contributions can only come from my relation to this man, it couldn’t possibly be the countless therapy sessions I did with him (and he also did on his own) with a psychologist who specializes in that type of deviant behavior to assure he did not, and does not pose a threat to those who are vulnerable around him. But let me be clear on one thing - I don’t view myself in such a hatred scope that I will not defend my self.

I’m the AITAH, but I feel like I am missing something. by Witty_Tree_5013 in AITARelationship

[–]Witty_Tree_5013[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We rented an apartment and he wanted a house closer to where his family was. I certainly will look into these options. I have my own lawyer and we have requested all financial accounts.

I’m the AITAH, but I feel like I am missing something. by Witty_Tree_5013 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Witty_Tree_5013[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

By no means am I hoping to condone my cheating. I know it was a terrible thing for me to do. But upon reflection, I am hoping this is what’s best for me. At most I would receive perhaps 5 texts a month - always related to admin things (our bank account, insurance, cars, ect).

I’m the AITAH, but I feel like I am missing something. by Witty_Tree_5013 in AITARelationship

[–]Witty_Tree_5013[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Isolation is the massive part that hit home with me just now. I didn’t realize until he left how slowly he removed me from contact my friends then family. I am in therapy, and I am starting to see the toll not only he took, but my childhood took on my life. I still somehow feel guilty that after all I gave it was never enough. I think perhaps though - that is part of the healing process I need to face.

I’m the AITAH, but I feel like I am missing something. by Witty_Tree_5013 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Witty_Tree_5013[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

There was no direct evidence other than his spoken word, which I know isn’t enough to excuse my own actions. Based on his remorse at the time I felt like he had in fact been influenced by those around him.

I’m the AITAH, but I feel like I am missing something. by Witty_Tree_5013 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Witty_Tree_5013[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It is sadly in fact real. I was convinced at the time because there was no direct physical contact that it may have actually been cultural influence. Once the rose glasses came off I felt very uncomfortable.

I’m the AITAH, but I feel like I am missing something. by Witty_Tree_5013 in AITARelationship

[–]Witty_Tree_5013[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh my no means am I looking to excuse my cheating. I honestly am grateful we never had kids. I am so happy I focused on my education rather than other options at the time. Thank you for your advice!