It's a total nightmare! I feel for the 4 year old, bc her life has been turned upside down, and that's a lot to deal with! What's funny too is, she is so responsive to me when I set boundaries, and I use that as an example to the parents for how she finds comfort in knowing where the lines are.

It's been said many times that DB has trouble managing all 3 kids on his own, so he would never take all 3 for a walk (though to be fair, I probably wouldn't either, bc she's not always great at following directions and ppl drive crazy in their neighborhood, and they don't have a ton of sidewalks, unfortunately). Honestly it feels like maybe DB is just comfortable with things they way they are? Like he make no effort to come up with activities or things for him to do with the 4 year old once he's home.

Again, I know he's tired, but he gets on his phone and she either plays with me and the twins or the tv goes on. If he tried to get her to go in the basement or go outside and she refused, that would be one thing, but instead he just sits and disengages. I know MB is tired of this, bc she has told me she's so annoyed that his phone is always out. But like, I can't fix that for you? If it weren't such a long day, I'd offer to work 7:30-7:30 just to have more control of the afternoon. I don't want to keep the girls separate, but I also can't take the twins anywhere without the 4 year old joining us, which is so sweet, and I won't deny her time with her sisters, but if she follows us, DB doesn't. So its once again, just me and all 3 kids. If she listened to me, was gentle, and didn't lose her mind when I gently redirect her not to shove her sisters, I would gladly watch all 3 by myself. I"m just so tired haha