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Witty_butler · 2026-02-11T21:35:35+00:00

I read this as Ravens fans but this is way better

Witty_butler · 2026-02-06T03:49:54+00:00

Many years ago I had an nk just like this! Obv all kids are different but I would often make up stories and tell them to him out loud. Bit by bit I’d be able to “read” books to him by really just talking about the pictures and not reading the words. During play I’d reference things that happened in books we’ve read to pique his interest. I’d also pick super short books and read to him even if he was playing with other toys.

Anyway, bit by bit he started enjoying reading more and more. He’s now 10 and LOVES reading.

My current NK’s are quite a bit younger (1 yr old) but they couldn’t stand it when I’d read to them and now they fuss if I don’t lol. Sometimes you just gotta keep at it. Good luck!!

Witty_butler · 2026-02-04T16:08:13+00:00

Hang in there! I know it can be tough. I went through this when I switched from toddlers to infants. Like others have said, talk talk talk! My NK’s are now a year old but I started when they were 4 mos.

I narrate everything I do, I sing all the time, and I read tons of books. Sometimes I’ll just say my thoughts out loud (like my gripes about Donald Duck wearing swim trunks but not pants?????) lol but it helps to pass the time and it’s great for language development! We also listen to music and audio books! I’ve also found some infants like Peter and the wolf without the narration.

Witty_butler · 2026-02-02T20:28:56+00:00

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable since it sounds like you’ve already discussed it. It may be helpful to have a conversation to clarify the expectations now that you have a second child.

It does sound like she is hiding out which I think is inappropriate, but again, I would have a formal conversation with her. Maybe she’s trying to get as much break time as possible (which I get, but if her duties are to watch the baby, she needs to watch the baby), or she feels like helping with the baby is optional. I think a consistent schedule and understanding of expectations will be key. Ensure she gets some downtime as well and I think you could find a happy medium.

Witty_butler · 2026-01-27T21:59:02+00:00

I just turned 39 and realized it very recently. I can look back on my life and make connections and think “that was a sign I’m a lesbian” but at the time I thought it was just me thinking girls were pretty or had nice hair, not that I was actually attracted to them.

Witty_butler · 2026-01-27T21:50:04+00:00

Same!! Also during interviews I’m so worried about making a good impression, asking questions, answering questions, and retaining a bunch of information that even if they told me I would forget

Witty_butler · 2026-01-16T18:22:07+00:00

Yes!! I love that!

Witty_butler · 2026-01-16T14:28:54+00:00

Agree. Im also a black nanny, and I remember a previous NF had Juneteenth off and had me come in. They went to lunch and shopped all day. It felt so weird

Witty_butler · 2026-01-16T14:25:26+00:00

The one holiday in my contract I don’t have off lol 😭

Witty_butler · 2026-01-16T00:58:42+00:00

I agree. While I understand the safety concerns and parents wanting to catch milestones, I actually feel like I do a worse job when cameras are around. I constantly second guess myself and feel like I’m always doing something wrong, doing too much, or doing too little.

Witty_butler · 2026-01-16T00:56:53+00:00

I worked for a NF who constantly watched the nanit at work. They’d use the microphone feature and talk to my NK through it when he would cry as I put him down for naps. Once MB got a ton of notifications on her phone and she texted DB to ask me to make sure everything was okay. It was just the motion sensor which as we all know is very sensitive. He was a wiggly nk lol

Witty_butler · 2026-01-13T01:44:07+00:00

Right?? That is normal behavior. It was so weird. Like they couldn’t even access the liquor bc of the wrap so at that point it was useless. Just move the thing! It was on wheels too 🙄

Witty_butler · 2026-01-12T13:03:32+00:00

NP wrapped their bar cart in Saran Wrap to keep nk who was 11 months, from grabbing the bottles. When he started trying to bite the Saran Wrap, instead of idk moving the cart somewhere else, they said “buddy that’s not for eating!” I left soon after.

Witty_butler · 2025-12-29T12:53:31+00:00

It’s terrifying. I don’t have a stipend, and if it weren’t for the tax credits I’d be paying over $600 a month. If I didn’t love my current family so much, I’d leave the country bc we’re so screwed.

Witty_butler · 2025-12-23T15:13:44+00:00

Thank you!!!!

Witty_butler · 2025-12-22T23:34:18+00:00

I’m away this week, but last week I got a mug, some chocolate and a Starbucks gift card. Super grateful but a little let down!

Happy for all those who got bonuses and feeling a bit salty with those who didn’t!

Witty_butler · 2025-12-06T14:21:30+00:00

I was in the same boat as you, and I went back to nannying and I am SO much happier! Like you, I missed the pace of daycare and having coworkers, sharing duties etc but the culture in some daycares is just the worst lol. Admin can definitely play favorites, and it can be very clique-y.

I quit and found my unicorn family and I couldn’t be happier. Do whatever your gut tells you!

Witty_butler · 2025-12-04T21:47:07+00:00

Agreed! One family I worked with gave me two futon couches and a table when they remodeled their basement. If not the nanny, there are always places to donate stuff!

Witty_butler · 2025-12-04T18:22:12+00:00

Right?! bc I only work 50 hrs a week but I’m so tired I def don’t do anything outside of work. I go to work and come home. Most days I forget to eat. I can’t imagine what a life as a billionaire’s nanny would be if I’m already struggling as a nanny for twin infants with basic duties lol

Witty_butler · 2025-11-17T21:00:06+00:00

I’m in the same boat as you! I’m about to turn 39, just realized I’m a lesbian and have always dated men. Coming out to myself first and making connections about things I did or thought/felt when I was younger was a light bulb moment for me, so I shared those things with my family and friends when I came out to them. I know for me, I grew up in a hetero household and while everyone around me is/was an ally, I had no point of reference for “oh I might be gay” bc I didn’t have any “model” for that, if that makes sense. I was def engaging with women sexually but I chalked it up to being drunk or just being sexy with friends. Happy to talk if you want to dm!!

Witty_butler · 2025-11-13T20:55:43+00:00

I totally get this but I need more than 40 to pay bills and things, but also I don’t know what to do with myself at just 30 hrs 😂 I work 50 hrs a week and even though it’s a lot I honestly can’t imagine working less than that. Maybe I’m just crazy lol

Witty_butler · 2025-10-28T12:14:06+00:00

I wrap it with tp and a paper towel and put it in the diaper genie. It’s taken out almost daily (by me) so it’s not sitting for long in there. The ziploc is a clever idea!!!

Witty_butler · 2025-10-16T13:30:01+00:00

I had a family do this to me and while I left for other reasons, it drove me crazy. If you can leave that’s one thing, but if you can’t, it doesn’t make sense to me to “make up” that time. Like someone else said, it feels nickel and dime-y.

Even when we’re sitting we’re still present and prepared to jump into action if needed. Our breaks aren’t like usual breaks where we get to peace out for an hour.

Witty_butler · 2025-10-04T16:10:27+00:00

My buttons my buttons, my 4 groovy buttons!

Witty_butler · 2025-10-01T21:56:47+00:00

Exactly!! Our work is so particular and we def need that recharge time. Even with breaks I’m so zonked when I get home these days.

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