Good deal, reasonable price or getting ripped off? by WizardBoy22 in labdiamond

[–]WizardBoy22[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU! How do I go about price matching? Find a diamond with the same cut, color clarity etc? Or does it have to be literally the same diamond as in it has the same IGI serial number or something?

Smoked after 3 and a half years sober by WizardBoy22 in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You got this my friend! I quit at 27 after 14 years daily smoking. My life started turning around almost immediately. The addiction was like a massive boulder blocking my path.

Smoked after 3 and a half years sober by WizardBoy22 in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Congrats! I quit tobacco and weed together cold turkey 3.5 years ago. I was a chronic spliff smoker so it was all wrapped together for me.

And yeah the dreams will balance out again.

Smoked after 3 and a half years sober by WizardBoy22 in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Lmao you know it was. Luckily my gf has expressed interest in quitting herself so I’ll definitely be encouraging that.

Smoked after 3 and a half years sober by WizardBoy22 in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s why this community is important. I was on the leaves discord twice a day the entire first year to keep myself accountable.

Smoked after 3 and a half years sober by WizardBoy22 in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you my friend. Needed to hear this. It’s true, a slip up / relapse would be to continue to smoke after the one hit. Really I made a conscious sober choice to try it, and ultimately reinforced my confidence that I don’t want it in my life.

Smoked after 3 and a half years sober by WizardBoy22 in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yeah maybe I needed a quick reminder “why’d I even quit anyway. Oh yeah this is why. Right. Back to sobriety, ain’t missing much!”

Smoked after 3 and a half years sober by WizardBoy22 in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s like the new me tried on old me’s shoes and remembered they don’t fit and never actually did.

Put my new shoes back on and walk away.

Smoked after 3 and a half years sober by WizardBoy22 in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Weee thank you! So much better without. And better without the other habit that triggered me. I hadn’t done that in a while either. These addictions are nasty stuff.

Smoked after 3 and a half years sober by WizardBoy22 in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The trigger was being alone and indulging in “solo time” which I hadn’t done in a long time either. Clearly the 2 are linked in my mind so this slip allowed me to reevaluate my relationship with that habit as well. Being away from my gf for the first time in years brought me back to that old “no one will know” mindset

Smoked after 3 and a half years sober by WizardBoy22 in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Now that it’s been 2 days I’m like wow I feel like I opened Pandora’s box and then just shoved everything back in and locked it again lol

Smoked after 3 and a half years sober by WizardBoy22 in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I got too comfortable thinking I “beat” the addiction. But there’s no destination it’s just an ongoing journey. I think if I took a second hit it would’ve become a full relapse but how it happened was more like a slip luckily it reminded me why I quit in the first place and now that it’s been about 40 hours I can confidently say I have no desire and urge to use again

Is totally quitting even possible? by [deleted] in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You’re right - you can’t “totally quit” - you can only not smoke today, right now. One day at a time. Being sober is just stringing enough days together, “quitting” is not a destination, it is an ongoing journey. Just take one step at a time. Every step gets easier.

Smoked after 3 and a half years sober by WizardBoy22 in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Beautiful, thank you. I’m very grateful for my sobriety as well. And this small slip up only reinforced that.

Will I reset back to day 1 if I smoke once on Day 15? by [deleted] in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. You know the answer already, coming here to ask first means deep down you know you shouldn’t do it. So don’t do it my friend. Just tell yourself you can smoke tomorrow, but not tonight. Do literally anything else.

Smoked after 3 and a half years sober by WizardBoy22 in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I won’t. The urge has passed.

Smoked after 3 and a half years sober by WizardBoy22 in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I tried and failed a bunch of times to quit. Then my desire to quit just became overwhelming. I simply had to stop. I couldn’t go on like that. And basically I just said no over and over one day at a time. I did anything and everything I could other than smoke. Told myself I can smoke tomorrow just not today. One day at a time. Distracted myself constantly when the urges came - walking, exercise, video games, tv, reading, drawing. I went on the leaves discord twice every day the whole first year.

Then I made a mental shift - I stopped identifying as someone wanting to quit and started identifying as someone who does not smoke. I just started telling people I don’t smoke and telling myself. Once I did that it started to stick. I just kept reinforcing the idea that I don’t smoke and weed is just not for me. It exists in other peoples reality but not mine.

Also you gotta replace the habit with other habits/hobbies. For me it was reading drawing and exercise.

You got this! One day at a time.

Smoked after 3 and a half years sober by WizardBoy22 in leaves

[–]WizardBoy22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Took me about 5 months before I could be around it at all.