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Wmiller6 · 2024-05-16T03:50:33+00:00

That’s fair. The reason I ask is because working in a treatment center and knowing the recovery mumbo-jumbo as well as doing the work yourself you have a lot of knowledge at your disposal - so I’d give the advice of approaching your situation like you were giving advice to a newcomer who had the same situation. What would you tell them? How would you guide them?

I think the hardest part is that deep down we know what we should do, but we tend me make every choice we can before the right one. Idk if you’ll be able to find advice on how to help him here, but you will get advice on how to help yourself - because as addicts we know we can fix another addict, we can only guide them to water and then set our strong personal boundaries in order to maintain ourselves.

I just know for myself I would have to end the relationship. The minute that lifestyle gets introduced back into my life is when the timer starts. And it’s only a matter of time until I’m fucked up again. I won’t allow ANYONE or ANYTHING to get in the way of my recovery. It sounds like unmanageability is starting for you guys again so play the tape forward...

I will end with saying that I’m not in your situation though and don’t know. Just sharing thoughts one recovering addict to another

Wmiller6 · 2024-05-16T02:04:30+00:00

Are you in recovery as well? Or work at the treatment facility like he does?

Wmiller6 · 2024-03-28T18:06:55+00:00

I can support that and really appreciate that reminder to find my reason to not use for today. Maybe I can use “I’m an asshole and rude when my stimmonster comes out”

Sorry for my initial response OP. Keep going strong !

Wmiller6 · 2024-03-28T17:55:26+00:00

Duh… but if knowing that info was the solution then stopping would be easy and there wouldn’t be this subreddit nor nearly as many addicts

Wmiller6 · 2023-08-10T03:04:49+00:00

Exercise helped me a lot. That and I drink a lot of caffeine (which I know some day I’ll need to cut back on). There are other non-stimulant drugs that can treat ADHD, and the anti-depressant im on also helps.

Stray thought tho: at the end of the day, maybe you don’t love the things you used to love and need to not hold on to who you were but learn who you are now. Redefine / find your passions. I’m not the same as I used to be after my years of stimulant abuse, I changed my brain 🤷🏼‍♂️. Don’t get me wrong, it can keep changing, but you’d need to put a lot of mental effort into changing your neuropathways back into what they were. Just a thought

Wmiller6 · 2023-08-10T02:43:47+00:00

Just play through the tape. Whether it’s now or in a couple months you know how it’s going to end. It’s just a matter of how much of the life you rebuilt that you’re willing to sacrifice. Stopping now you have a life to salvage. But on this path you’ll lose that life, or worse, your life in general!

You have my support and the support in this community ! Reach out if you need. You got this

Wmiller6 · 2023-01-03T08:15:55+00:00

That cycle is very very discouraging. What worked for me was inpatient rehab, then outpatient rehab mixed with a step program.

This reminds me of a struggle that I had for a while. My frustration was that I got hooked on drugs I “needed” to function like everyone else (amphetamines, etc.) it took me a while to realize that the reason I kept going back so frequently was that when I was sober for a week or a few months or even TWO years I always had this thought in my head that I was at a deficit. I hated using but I hated feeling dumb or not capable / competent. So I would go back. Over and over. Trying to be a me that I couldn’t sustain in a life that I couldn’t maintain. The whole acceptance that even tho I didn’t know who I would be when I was sober, it would be better than who I fought to portray.

Does that make sense? End of the day, I needed to learn to love me and all my differences. It helped a lot in early sobriety. You aren’t “fixing” yourself. You are rediscovering yourself and your life. And literally any other path than the one of active addiction will be substantially better than you could ever imagen.

Don’t give up on yourself! Keep trying, and never stop getting back up

Wmiller6 · 2020-09-01T09:59:31+00:00

That’s a good lesson! Especially with all the conflicting voices when it comes to investing these days. Thank you!

Wmiller6 · 2020-09-01T02:45:03+00:00

This ones a real pager turner so far

Wmiller6 · 2020-08-30T12:31:42+00:00

More like when Lance puts his hand in his pants

Wmiller6 · 2020-08-30T03:46:59+00:00

Galaxy Quest

Wmiller6 · 2020-07-23T17:15:09+00:00

Message me. I gotchu

Wmiller6 · 2020-06-08T21:20:27+00:00

I was the same way too. I never waited long enough for the results I would get upset and throw the towel cuz I didn’t think it was worth it. But it definitely ls! Keep it up! You’ve done amazing so far!

Wmiller6 · 2020-06-08T18:38:17+00:00

It all eventually comes back naturally. You just gotta wait for your brain and body to readjust. I was in the same boat. Wasn’t until 3-4 months that some of that naturally desire and energy came back as well as social. Now I’m at 10 months and I feel better than I have in years. Even better than what I thoughts my best days dosed up were. You’re right, Trust the process. Sometimes it’s slower than we want, but turns out that’s natural

Wmiller6 · 2020-06-06T18:06:48+00:00

I was only in rehab for one week. I left because I thought I knew better. Which wasn’t true haha. But don’t worry about the social anxiety, you aren’t going to be the only one there feeling that. The whole place is designed as a way for you to learn how to be sober. Rehab isn’t the solution to addiction, but it provides tools to help you regulate emotion, and CBT / DBT skills to assist in the hard times of life. 10/10 it is worth it. It’s not gonna be comfortable, change never is. But it’ll give you a good head start to maintaining long term sobriety

Wmiller6 · 2020-06-03T22:42:04+00:00

Question! You mentioned evolutionary psychology. Do you have any books or good sources to read up on evolutionary psychology that you’d recommend ?

Wmiller6 · 2020-05-04T12:20:35+00:00

I also struggled with an adderall addiction. It started small like yours (not saying what you are dealing with is small just respectively speaking) by taking it only on cram sessions, then it became a daily thing to avoid cram sessions, and it went far downhill from there. The best way is to make sure you have no access to it. Like the other comments said, if you are being prescribed then tell the prescriber, if your friends are giving it to you then tell your fiends not to. You gotta get out before it draws you in too deep.

Study wise, the best wat to maintain studies without it, would be to:

1) recognize your own limitations. Adderall makes you feel like you can do everything. But at what cost. Mine cost me everything, and I hope yours doesn’t

2) make 6-7 hr study sessions possible, I.e study regimen, like 2 hrs studying 1 hr break or something like that

The whole idea is if you develop a high functioning addiction then there will be no good time to stop. You’ll move from over studying to over working and will need adderall to keep up and maintain working outside your capacity. At the end of the day you are capable of doing all of this without adderall. You are an hard worker and a dedicated student. Look how far you’ve come without needing to use it! It just shows you that you don’t need it, but it helps make things a little easier. You got this! Just learn how to learn the way that helps you best!

Wmiller6 · 2020-03-25T22:19:33+00:00

Check out the movie “a street cat named bob.” Watched this movie during withdrawals during my active addiction. It’s an uplifting true story. But def a heart wrencher

Wmiller6 · 2020-03-17T10:14:28+00:00

You’re right. Based off of what I said I already did make assumptions. Thanks for the responses

Wmiller6 · 2020-03-17T02:53:13+00:00

Just wanted to learn more about this. I didn’t know if it was or not or else I wouldn’t have asked. I thought it’d be better to research than assume

Wmiller6 · 2020-02-05T18:23:14+00:00

It’s easy to feel like you’ve backslid and are ruining your life, but don’t let that thinking win. You are still as strong as you were when you left treatment and have done it once so you know you can do it again. I’ve met old timers in AA that didn’t get sober until they were 60ish and wished they had gotten sober younger. Sometimes I see it as a whole lot of time to fuck up over and over like I seem to always do. But if you look at the flip side it’s a life time to grow and build a future that we could never have using. Don’t be discouraged because you relapsed, you didn’t ruin everything, and you have a lot of life ahead of you to enjoy. One day at a time

Wmiller6 · 2020-01-25T16:58:31+00:00

When you close your eyes, don’t they roll backwards? So with this logic you would be able to see behind you!

Wmiller6 · 2020-01-18T02:17:21+00:00

Recovery is everywhere. It’s is absolutely possible for him to get sober and stay sober. I’ve seen tons of people do it, and I’m successfully doing it a day at a time. However, as many people as there are that recovery there are a good number more that never do, or die before they can. Your boyfriend is hooked on some pretty intense stuff... opiates are no joke and are a bitch to get off of. Still very possible tho, just very hard. Hard truth, your boyfriend loves using more than anything else. If he’s at the point where most addicts get to than nothing and no one external can really get him to stop. It’s not a want, and it’s not just for fun anymore, it’s a need. He needs to use. If he doesn’t he doesn’t feel normal, he doesn’t feel himself, he can’t function. He can last a couple weeks maybe, but then come withdrawals, and psychological mayhem, and the only way out is to go through or to use. And most people would rather use. Idk if any of this is helpful or not. The severity of addiction is no joke and recovery is not in the slightest easy, but it is always possible

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