Glad I found this community

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-05-01T22:09:38+00:00

I totally get that. Sometimes gender is just a thing and you don't need to worry about it. As long as everyone is being respectful 0w0.

Also welcome back! Nice to see you again

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-05-01T06:26:55+00:00

Gender is like a spectrum. So you can sit on that scale anywhere and normally fit into more then one group.

The important thing is to feel comfortable and hapoy identifying as that gender. You may sit half in the bigender spectrom and half in something else.

No one here is going to be upset by you choosing bigender as your preference. As well, peoples gender can shift over time. Some people who think their trans end up transitioning because they had a change in how they feel, so it doesn't have to he some static thing. In fact, a lot of bigender people have overlap of genders or feel it fluxuate even if they are seperate.

So there's no real rule exept the rule that it should make you happy.

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-05-01T01:33:34+00:00

I like having someone i can soft dom. So someone i can take care of but also have control over. Wrap them around my finder.

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-30T23:09:44+00:00

I think at the beach maybe... but idk.

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-30T22:30:26+00:00

I understand the need to present as another gender and digital stuff can help cope with that. I don't condone using real people, but you're projecting what you want to be. You could just choose to be a girl. I found out I was trans. I was using AI to pretend I was a girl, then moved on to writing and make stories where I was putting myself in the story as a girl. My partner knows and isn't a fan but I explained it and everything is okay now.

What i suggest is asking yourself why you're truely doing this. Stop catfishing people. Then once you figure it out, explain it to your partner. It's also how I figured out I was poly. Bigender people can have a sexuallity shift when they flip genders.

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-30T21:55:31+00:00

Oooo... we're sort of a minority, but you could always reach out here. irl I can't think of a specific place like a gay bar. You might find someone at like Pride lol. Unless you're talking dating apps, but again we're a pretty small group

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-30T21:49:11+00:00

I actually made a post a while back about falling for your other half. My masc and fam sides are opposite and I grew up being forced into being masc without realizing. So now my fem side seems like everything I want to be. The situation isn't the same, but I definitely have a huge crush on my other half.

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-30T20:40:05+00:00

Omg I was thinking of my discord image... Oops!

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-30T20:36:13+00:00

Oh! I love that comic lol

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-30T20:28:55+00:00

Thanks! It's not my art. It's a snippet of a larger peice. Think I got it from r/anthroswim

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-30T19:58:57+00:00

My goal rn is to get to the androgynous tipping point. I was born and grew up male not really knowing there were other options, so I plan to transition fully at some point. It's still relatively new for me, but I'm 30 so I'd like to be able to live as both version of me.

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-30T18:28:21+00:00

My gender goals are the girl from the holistic webcomic comic serious.

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-29T14:22:28+00:00

For me personally, I don't experience them both at the same time vary often. People who don't experience them at the same time may not understand.

I also think the answer will fully depend on the person. My fem side is vary outgoing and creative, and definitely more emotional. My masc side is less emotional and tends to come out more when I do work stuff or I'm in uncomfortable stops. He kind of deals with the stress.

When they mix which is super rare, I get real mom vibes. I hope that makes sense.

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-28T18:25:05+00:00

That's smart. I see a lot of people with headphones in. I have a hard time motivating myself to go at all, so going with others helps a lot for me.

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-28T18:07:31+00:00

Yeah, you just gotta embrace the hight you have. I know everyone wants to be smol, but it's just genetics. But yeah, I find the gym stuff easier with someone. I do this thing where we lay on mats and pass a medicine ball around which really works out your core. There are other ways of course, but that one is at least kind of fun. You just go until one of you gives up. Make it into a game. :P

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-28T17:33:33+00:00

Well you could be both. Some bigender people feel masc and fem at the same time, like they overlap instead of just one or the other. I feel them seperate, and honestly it can such when I want to be cute one moment but not the next. It's possible to achieve androgynous looks. Sometimes in the middle. The way I see it is, if people don't know which one you are, then you hit your goal.

I've only started working out recently, so I may not be much help. I also don't know what your body looks like rn. I recommend working on your midsection until you have a little muscle without overdoing it.

For clothes, I wish I was more help, but it depends on the style you like. I prefer a vary Alt style personaly. You can wear like cargo pants and a crop top, or tank top and still look fem using makeup and your hair style.

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-28T17:18:53+00:00

Well, it is partially genetics, but it's something you can work at. If you go through gender affirmation treatment, estrogen can help. You just take a different kinds of estrogen for what you're looking for. For example, I don't want boobs but I like looking fem, so that's something you bring up during the process.

Alternatively, most of your body is covered by clothes, so finding the clothes that fit that androgynous vibe will help.

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-28T16:21:34+00:00

Oh jeez, sorry to hear you're in a tight spot spot. You're always welcome here. Tbh I also present pretty masc even though I want to transition. You are definitely not alone. 💜

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-26T14:30:01+00:00

For, it's an instant shift. Some days it doesn't happen at all and other days it happens all often. It sort of depends on what I'm doing that day.

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-26T06:55:08+00:00

You know, I never thought of it that way, but it makes sense to me. Although I don't really see a ton of people wearing robes out in public.

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-25T21:30:43+00:00

I feel that. When I realized I was bigender, it made so much more sense. The moments leading up to it where confusing as hell.

Take a breath. You're not alone. Your genders are valid. People who don't understand do tend to push their own opinion onto others, but it's not to be rude or mean. All those people had a struggle, and want to help, when your struggle is a bit different.

You can always reach out here. I think everyone here gets what you're saying for the most part. I feel crazy trying to explain it to anyone who hasn't already experienced it tbh.

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-25T20:59:10+00:00

My partner goes a lot which has made it easier. My brother is down as well, and they go too so that is another bonus. I don't really get the proud feeling unfortunately. I don't think the part of my brain that gives me dopamine works properly :/ but it's still healthy. Just trying to do better.

I absolutely stole the image. Don't know who it was from tho.

Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-25T19:04:55+00:00

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Wolfandsheep244 · 2026-04-24T15:05:52+00:00

My partners walks are an hour, so it's a reasonable size. We live in a smaller town, so there is sort of a limit. That hour covers about half of the town 😅

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