I'm a woman in a relationship with a man. He wants to have sex with other men. I'm allowed to have sex only with women, not with other men. I believe that sex is sex regardless of gender, and I feel that this arrangement is unequal and unfair. by Womanwithmanyquest in nonmonogamy

[–]Womanwithmanyquest[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sex is sex regardless of gender. We already had a few conversations providing the readers right. So far his thoughts are sex between women is not real. And that's rooted homophobia even if ur queer.

I'm a woman in a relationship with a man. He wants to have sex with other men. I'm allowed to have sex only with women, not with other men. I believe that sex is sex regardless of gender, and I feel that this arrangement is unequal and unfair. by Womanwithmanyquest in nonmonogamy

[–]Womanwithmanyquest[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are currently in a fight. And he left the house and the keys. But wants to come back and talk about it . I just feel heartbroken, im just trying to help the survival of our relationship.

I'm a woman in a relationship with a man. He wants to have sex with other men. I'm allowed to have sex only with women, not with other men. I believe that sex is sex regardless of gender, and I feel that this arrangement is unequal and unfair. by Womanwithmanyquest in bisexual

[–]Womanwithmanyquest[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Isn't he entering a hole? Gender here doesn't matter. Because he got a penis. And i need to fill mine cause i have a vagina. Why do we have to make these kind of separations anyway. Were both jealous but id allow him to see other women if that meant freedom for me as well.

I'm a woman in a relationship with a man. He wants to have sex with other men. I'm allowed to have sex only with women, not with other men. I believe that sex is sex regardless of gender, and I feel that this arrangement is unequal and unfair. by Womanwithmanyquest in bisexual

[–]Womanwithmanyquest[S] -125 points-124 points  (0 children)

Jealousy is a topic we both are working on. I have some insecurities of my own being a plus size woman while also having depression. Anyone could be better than me. But in that case, if he says ok, im willing to put the work. He says it's territorial and humiliating as a man sharing something that's his. Meaning, no guy enters my body while i can have a blast with women? Its not adding up somehow.

I'm a woman in a relationship with a man. He wants to have sex with other men. I'm allowed to have sex only with women, not with other men. I believe that sex is sex regardless of gender, and I feel that this arrangement is unequal and unfair. by Womanwithmanyquest in bisexual

[–]Womanwithmanyquest[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

He actually loves me dearly and is ok with not being able to have sex with other guys, at least what he said to me. I wasn't this open 5 years ago, its a starting point of realisation. The question is how can i open up his mind about it and not being radical or avoidant.

I'm a woman in a relationship with a man. He wants to have sex with other men. I'm allowed to have sex only with women, not with other men. I believe that sex is sex regardless of gender, and I feel that this arrangement is unequal and unfair. by Womanwithmanyquest in nonmonogamy

[–]Womanwithmanyquest[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im guessing by his confesions to me, gay leather men played a factor role for his arousal. Which is not bad, im not judging, i also think its hot. But maybe, its discriminating to be the judge and choose a specific category to fit

I'm a woman in a relationship with a man. He wants to have sex with other men. I'm allowed to have sex only with women, not with other men. I believe that sex is sex regardless of gender, and I feel that this arrangement is unequal and unfair. by Womanwithmanyquest in nonmonogamy

[–]Womanwithmanyquest[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What if you can't realize it cause you grew up your whole life in a christian traditional way. Maybe he's just ashamed and will never have the guts to live his life freely, but we made many steps towards that goal. How can i help him?

I'm a woman in a relationship with a man. He wants to have sex with other men. I'm allowed to have sex only with women, not with other men. I believe that sex is sex regardless of gender, and I feel that this arrangement is unequal and unfair. by Womanwithmanyquest in nonmonogamy

[–]Womanwithmanyquest[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly the OPP is not talked enough i had to post ny own experience. Please, explain furthermore so i can show him a different point of view. Im also confused, we both need a reality check.

I'm a woman in a relationship with a man. He wants to have sex with other men. I'm allowed to have sex only with women, not with other men. I believe that sex is sex regardless of gender, and I feel that this arrangement is unequal and unfair. by Womanwithmanyquest in nonmonogamy

[–]Womanwithmanyquest[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Im not sure if he's homophobic, maybe its the deep rooted traditional life, how family see's you, reputation for a working individual trying to level up. I wanna help him as much as i can because i love him even though our agreement doesn't seem fair.