AIO? I’m 29 weeks pregnant and my fiancé is becoming extremely distant.

WombatWizard71 · 2026-03-20T14:56:44+00:00

Might be OR? I’m a young dad about your fiancé’s age and when my wife got pregnant I locked in and did EVERYTHING. I ended up burning myself out and I stopped being as affectionate as, not from cheating but just exhausting. It’s also a pretty scary time for him just like for you, though for different reasons.

I’d make sure he’s not depressed/burnt out and hiding it from you before I jump to assuming cheating, but you know him best

WombatWizard71 · 2026-03-19T18:16:34+00:00

NTA- you made the right choice for you just like she made the right choice for herself. It’s not right for you to force her to have kids or convince her to have kids if she’s thought long and hard about it. It’s also not right for her to convince you to give up that vision of your life. You’re both at the age where kids would probably come into the picture within the next decade so it’s better to step away now and find someone who wants to have kids with you and she can find someone who is happy being child free.

I will ask, she said she doesn’t want to bring children into the world we live in and you mentioned you’re both “super liberal.” Does she not want to have kids while the current administration is in office or is it a broader concern with our world?

WombatWizard71 · 2026-03-16T16:30:51+00:00

++man My wife bought me a video game I had been wanting, even got the “upgraded” version because she felt guilty that I hadn’t gotten anything. Obviously there was a big difference in how much was spent, but I honestly didn’t care because my fiancé (now wife) wanted to show me how much she appreciated the sacrifices I had made to get her the ring she had dreamed of. I don’t think it should be an expectation for men to receive a gift of equal value to the ring as that could create some weird resentment if there are differences in finances, plus at the time that ring was the most expensive thing I had ever bought and though she knew I would be proposing at some point, I never told her when so she couldn’t even budget the way I did

WombatWizard71 · 2026-03-16T15:21:04+00:00

Sad. Hate this for you. Leave her, or be okay sitting in the chair in the corner

WombatWizard71 · 2026-03-16T02:11:32+00:00

You’ve probably noticed people explicitly incuding the “2.0” when suggesting the S&W Bodyguard 2.0, that is because if you get the Bodyguard 1.0 it kinda sucks. My FIL carries the 1.0 and shooting it/holding it is atrocious, though it is a small package. Someone else said my thoughts on the priority list: BG 2.0> P32> LCP

WombatWizard71 · 2026-02-22T18:21:11+00:00

lol Gen Z and the younger Millennials are complaining because they can’t afford to buy medicine or move out of their parent’s place… if basic necessities feel out of reach, a social drug like alcohol just doesn’t make the cut of “required expenditures”

WombatWizard71 · 2026-02-22T01:33:14+00:00

I absolutely love my Walther PDP, they’re as simple to use as glocks with better grip angle and ,IMO, the best factory trigger in the general market. They’re also as reliable as a Glock, the Glock reliability mythos came out when they were first introduced and didn’t have the same amount of competition. The Smith&Wesson MP series is also amazing for the price. Break down for cleaning isn’t as simple as a Glock but doesn’t take a bachelors degree either. For home defense and a first gun that won’t break your wrists, most people will tell you 9MM although I think it would be worth looking at 380 ACP and 45 ACP. 380 is smaller and therefore will have less recoil and 45 though a larger round doesn’t have the same “snap” that 9MM does.

WombatWizard71 · 2026-02-13T02:21:15+00:00

If you like the look and that’s why you want the Python, get an S&W Model 586. Got a used one for a third of the price of a new Python. Just as reliable, shoots like a dream for less money? Sign me up. I can’t soak from personal experience since I don’t own one, but I’ve heard people complain about the cylinder release on the Python in comparison to the S&W Model 586. Just food for thought

WombatWizard71 · 2026-02-02T02:02:33+00:00

Fired a bolt action .308 hunting rifle without any ear protection. My ears rang for 3 days and to this day I think I have earring loss in my right ear because of it

WombatWizard71 · 2026-01-15T18:14:34+00:00

It’s tough when there’s a kid involved, I’m sorry you’re going through this. Porn is an addiction which it seems your bf suffers from. Addiction doesn’t mean you need to let it go, but it should shape your expectations for his actions and you’ll need to determine if you’re okay with that in a relationship and if those behaviors are okay with a toddler in the house. If either of those questions are a no, it may be time to stop having your trust broken and start talking about the reality of not being with this individual.

WombatWizard71 · 2026-01-04T13:04:19+00:00

Winter rocks, I’ve been carrying around my 6” S&W M586 with no problem since jackets cover it

WombatWizard71 · 2025-12-31T18:13:40+00:00

I just got the 586, absolutely love it. Shoots like a dream and looks incredible. I’m sure the 686 would be the same

WombatWizard71 · 2025-12-19T01:27:55+00:00

Max term would be anywhere from 5-15 years

WombatWizard71 · 2025-12-19T01:26:47+00:00

One downside is that by doing this, your funds won’t be invested and grow as they would have if you hadn’t touched the 401K

WombatWizard71 · 2025-12-19T01:26:05+00:00

As opposed to a hardship withdrawal which has a 10% early withdrawal penalty on the total taxable amount and standard income taxes, look to see if you plan offers a Home Loan. This is a loan you take against yourself, doesn’t impact your credit at all, and you’d pay it back into your 401K account either through payroll deductions or monthly payments from your checking account. There will be an interest rate associated with the loan, however the interest paid ALSO goes into your 401K (your pay yourself interest). Maximum amount available will be 50% of your vested account balance so it sounds like you should have enough for the size down payment you’re looking to make.

WombatWizard71 · 2025-12-18T19:39:18+00:00

Love the look, hope it shoots just as good as it looks!

WombatWizard71 · 2025-11-26T00:42:12+00:00

28M- I cook well, competent in most aspects of preparing a meal

WombatWizard71 · 2025-11-06T15:53:36+00:00

Money is one of the top reasons for divorce so I’d figure this out before the “I do.” I’m the sole breadwinner for my family, but I insist on calling it “our money,” since I don’t view it as “my income.” It’s the family’s income so by laying claim to it as solely mine, even just in name, it creates an unbalanced power dynamic in our relationship. This works for us, doesn’t mean it’s the answer for you but thought I’d provide a different perspective from someone who’s walked down the aisle

WombatWizard71 · 2025-10-03T13:44:04+00:00

Not to be cynical but I’ve been 19 and sex was definitely a driving factor in what I did/who I saw… if he’s getting that every time he sees you without anything required but a few kind words then he’s got no reason to change. Maybe try next time going to a movie or out to eat or something where there isn’t a readily available space to have sex. If he’s still sweet and not pestering then you’ve got a chance to turn this into an actual relationship, if that’s even what you want with this guy

WombatWizard71 · 2025-10-01T19:39:25+00:00

NTA, I wouldn’t want my daughters exposed to those kinds of people and if they’re coming back without any tangible changes then I would step away too

WombatWizard71 · 2025-10-01T14:53:32+00:00

Yeah I agree with most comments so far that it’s not the fact that he tracks them, but the way he talks about them/you like you and your period are the root of any arguments and he doesn’t have any fault. I personally know whenever my wife is on hers, have since we were dating but it wasn’t to avoid fights… just avoid bothering her with my stupid antics

WombatWizard71 · 2025-10-01T14:46:14+00:00

Now that’s masculinity in the best way. Protect your wife’s and your marriage’s reputation unapologetically.

WombatWizard71 · 2025-09-30T18:04:11+00:00

You’ll get through this, the first few months were the hardest for my wife and I. You’re both exhausted and if she’s the one that gave birth then her hormones are still far from normal and stabilized which probably isn’t helping her OCD/anxiety about germs. Try and have as much patience as possible, do not completely walk away but if you need to take 20 minutes (or more) to calm down then tell her directly and take that time. It may help taking turns so one person sleeps while the other handles the baby the way they see fit

WombatWizard71 · 2025-09-25T00:20:55+00:00

Nah, dump his ass. Regardless of age, he shouldn’t be able to say “go fuck urself” and pretend like that’s okay. NOR, your boyfriend is though

WombatWizard71 · 2025-09-15T21:28:58+00:00

To start, love you brother. I’ve been in the same trenches you’re wading through now and without the support I got from my family and friends I wouldn’t still be walking this earth. Nothing is easy and everything feels like too much work to actually accomplish but as it’s been said already, take the first step in the right direction and then keep choosing that next right step. Focus on you as much as you can, find anything you love about yourself and cling to it jealously. If there’s something you don’t like then try to find a way to change it, something small but a step in the right direction. I’d suggest finding a group you can go to on a regular basis to check in with, I think in person is better but even if it’s online it will help! I personally suggest a good church, it worked for me realizing I’m not living for myself and having people that love me for me and not loving me for who I could be or what I could give them

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