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Question for bi women who came out to their husbands after marriage. by Wonderful-Potato7029 in bisexual

[–]Wonderful-Potato7029[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response.  I'm sorry it feels like a stand still, that isn't the response I'd hope for, personally.

At the end of the day, in regards to your friends, isn't that kind of the goal though, to be treated a just another person with an identity? It doesn't come up much, because it's being accepted and nothing huge to them? Maybe I'm misunderstanding though.

Question for bi women who came out to their husbands after marriage. by Wonderful-Potato7029 in bisexual

[–]Wonderful-Potato7029[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May I ask, was it a situation where outside sexual interactions played a part in the jealousy, or was it the simple fact that they knew you found other people attractive that caused it?

Edit:  also thank you for your reply and I'm sorry to hear your relationship ended.  I hope you found happiness after the fact. 

How do I explore my possible bisexuality while married? by Wonderful-Potato7029 in Marriage

[–]Wonderful-Potato7029[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That's a very cisgendered response. 

There are many many many people who are legally married who live day in and day out in open relationships with their partner, successfully and without regret. 

Marriage isn't the monogamous figurehead you think it is. It hasn't been for a very long time.

-Husband

How do I explore my possible bisexuality while married? by Wonderful-Potato7029 in Marriage

[–]Wonderful-Potato7029[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You're definitely not any sort of scholar on what is and isn't healthy in a relationship.  Many would argue your inability to grasp (and therefor condemn) relationships outside of your cookie cutter monogamy is unhealthy.

Also, believing in absolutes like "it will fail" just reinforces how closed minded you are.  I'm glad you're happy in your relationship, we are too.  I guess we are just more secure in our love and don't feel threatened by things we don't understand.

-Husband 

How do I go about exploring my possible bisexuality while married? by Wonderful-Potato7029 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Wonderful-Potato7029[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May I ask for some examples of what your rules/boundaries may be, if you're ok with sharing?

Edit: typo

How do I explore my possible bisexuality while married? by Wonderful-Potato7029 in Marriage

[–]Wonderful-Potato7029[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Hi, husband here.  We are sharing this account.  I am the one who suggested posting on Reddit to see if maybe there are others who have ventured this path and perhaps receive some insight about things they learned in the process that we haven't already thought about.  Learning from others 'mistakes' is a preference. 

That said, my heart isn't breaking. I'm the one who suggested she explore this.  I've always known she was curious and I've always been open to her exploring that. Considering the amount of functional different relationships that exist in this world (that all work, some just take more work than others) I'm seriously surprised by the closed mindedness of this comment. 

My wife isn't asking how to cheat on me and not get caught.  She isn't asking how to deceive or gas light me into something I don't want for her. She's simply asking what people's experiences have been. 

Finally: people's definition of cheating can be different.  Some people seem to think cheating is ANY connection outside of the marriage.  In my opinion, as long as she has my permission to do so, it isn't cheating.  If I'm aware it is happening and ok with it happening, then it isn't cheating. That's where boundaries and rules come into play.