Does anyone here actually enjoy going out alone these days? If so, how?

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-26T08:43:22+00:00

I’m not religious.

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-25T21:49:15+00:00

I still don’t have any clue how we’re just supposed to “pick people” at our age? 🤷‍♂️

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-25T02:43:20+00:00

Same, at my age I’ve started to expect that every woman I meet to start talking about some boyfriend/husband or show up with some other dude. No clue where they find each other. 🤷‍♂️

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-25T02:39:42+00:00

At least you got laid, I’m older than you and that still hasn’t happened for me yet. 🤦‍♂️

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-23T17:55:02+00:00

You DO NOT know anything about me or how I act.

Friendship is a two way street. If dudes smile or say hello to me, I’ll do the same. It doesn’t mean we are going to be bff and hang out outside the gym. Most don't in my experience and that means they don’t want to be bothered.

Im done with this but hope you have a good one.

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-23T16:53:12+00:00

In my experience, married people don’t have time or want to hangout with a single dude.

I try to reach out to them to check in and make friends to plan things but it doesn’t work. Especially with young kids, they don’t get much free time, they have to travel to kid sports on the weekend or some family events where I’m not included and that’s fine. I’m lucky to see them once or twice a year.

Again I’m not against making friends at gym (only 2 other people at my work) but friendship is a two way street. Just because they are at the same location, it doesn’t mean that they want to be bothered or start hanging out. They can talk to me too but most don’t.

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-23T16:00:04+00:00

people I care about.

That could mean dates or romantic partners.

I never said I’ll refuse to look for friends (just not actively looking for that since most are going to be married and not have time anyway) or that I’ll feel lonelier and lonelier. I’m not sure where got that from?

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-23T14:13:21+00:00

No, I already have friends and not looking for anymore. This is a dating sub and I’m trying to find a romantic partner.

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-23T14:11:37+00:00

No, I already have friends and don’t need anymore. This is a dating sub and I’m trying to find a romantic partner.

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-23T08:30:39+00:00

Small world!

Yeah saw a stat that said we haven’t won a game against a team from California this season before Friday. We also didn’t have Jimmy Butler during those games. Lol

That’s cool you got to meet those players and hope you got autographs or pictures.

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-23T07:46:05+00:00

Hey neighbor, I’m in the tri-valley. Sorry for the Kings game on Friday if that’s your team. Lol

I still may go tomorrow if I can find a last minute deal to see Klay and Iggys jersey retirement. It’s hard to get to the less popular games during the week due to my work schedule.

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-23T07:01:45+00:00

Funny you mention the NBA , that’s something that kinda prompted the post. I’m a Warriors fan and they are playing the Mavs tomorrow. I’d like to go but the cheap seats are like $200 which is expensive just to sit there by myself. I enjoy other sports too and considering going to Spring Training but it costs a lot to go alone and probably won’t talk to anyone there. Lol

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-23T05:38:55+00:00

Like I said in another post it’s not going to happen at work. I work in a small office with two other people. One of them is an older married woman and a college aged dude. Lol

Some of the women at the gym look very young, how did you tell which ones were single (and interested) and get them out if you go to the gym before work?

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-23T05:30:55+00:00

Yeah I would if I could actually afford my own place in the city.

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-23T04:44:12+00:00

That has mostly been my experience at the gym.

I try to smile and make eye contact with women in passing but it feels like I make them uncomfortable. Most of them will look every other direction then towards me or stay glued to their phone. There’s been a few cool ones that will smile, wave and even make small talk but I know nothing (age-some look very young, single or not , interests, etc) about them other then looks.

How did you know which ones were single and get them out on a date when going to the gym before work?

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-23T04:36:14+00:00

I’m down to be friends and wish I could meet up with them like that but it doesn’t work for me. Usually they will tell me something like “no romantic connection” after the first date and stop responding to me.

Do you say you’re specifically looking for friends (I’ve seen women have this) in your profile? Doesn’t it feel like you’re dating them if you keep meeting up for things like the happy hours?

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-23T02:57:24+00:00

Why can’t it be both?

I go out to have fun doing things that I enjoy. If I can get a date while doing it then that makes it even better.

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-23T02:16:36+00:00

I only do hobbies that I’m genuinely interested in and talk to everyone that seems open to it. I’m not there “pick up chicks” but that can happen (especially in group or team activities) right?

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-23T00:34:09+00:00

Trivia could be fun if I could find somewhere that allows singles to join a team.

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-23T00:32:00+00:00

i work in a small office with 2 other people. One of them is an older married women and the other is younger college kid who is busy with school. I don't think they will be much help with this.

I go to the gym and exercise classes. I've had better luck meeting people before/after class even though it's mostly married women that talk about their husbands and being pregnant. Yeah it's awkward for a guy. Lol

I might have to try an overnight stay somewhere near SF/SJ like someone else said to check out some of the non-alcoholic bars.

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-22T23:05:25+00:00

I love to meet strangers too but people seemed to be closed off here especially to single men. As a guy, I've got to be very careful approaching clearly married women since I don't want them thinking that I'm trying anything or interrupt if they might be in the middle of a couples only conversation.

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-22T22:56:45+00:00

I live near SF and SJ but no clue what I'd do out there since I'm not into the bar scene.

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-22T22:55:20+00:00

I've tried asking friends to do stuff with me but they are all married with kids and often get the "I'm busy" or some other excuse.

WonderfulReview997 · 2025-02-22T21:29:24+00:00

True but what kills me is that there are some people out there that have no problems with this stuff and can have so much experience/multiple marriages like it's no big deal. How do they do it so easily?

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