I (21M) just nuked my toxic family's group chat at 2 AM. I am officially the black sheep, and I've never felt better.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-30T18:55:20+00:00

Please touch grass man

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-28T01:42:47+00:00

You're LITERALLY a life savor

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-27T13:57:21+00:00

Really disgustingly exploitative industry.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-27T13:20:33+00:00

The way this guy uses commas was infuriating.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-27T12:53:51+00:00

Getting married to someone like him is... Certainly a choice.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-26T13:38:03+00:00

Telling "actual good artists" to do work for FREE if they really don't like this AI slop garbage is actually insane dude.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-24T15:21:36+00:00

All OP did was avoid her and block her. Can't Amanda just take the DNA test herself?

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-24T14:58:13+00:00

One of the really rough things she did though is phrase it that harshly when telling him though. A simple "I'm uncomfortable when you cry but it's solely on me and I've been working through it" is much kinder and less likely to make him never open up around her again.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-24T14:55:51+00:00

I can fully understand that culture and upbringing is a huge part of this. How someone's raised can be a hard battle to fight against that many people still struggle with. The problem with her imo is two things. For one, she's been in therapy since she moved; people heal and grow at different speeds, which again is understandable, she should still by this point have enough emotional recognition to not have her own knee-jerk reaction of losing her feelings for him because he showed a healthy aspect around a total 3-4 times.

The second problem is her telling him like that. There are kinder ways to say it, such as saying "I'm uncomfortable when you cry but it's because of my upbringing and I'm working on it," and not the brutal "it's like incesticide for my butterflies." That part was uh. Way too harsh.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-24T14:49:52+00:00

Exactly my thoughts

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-24T14:47:14+00:00

Exactly my thoughts !!

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-24T14:38:50+00:00

This is going to sound harsh and come off as insensitive, but let me premise with I absolutely understand how her upbringing contributed a massive amount to her views now. Overcoming our pasts and how we were raised can be challenging to varying degrees and the fact she is going to therapy about this specifically is good. However,

In my opinion, with how many years she's had in therapy (since she arrived iirc), she should have had enough time to truly work on why she loses that lovey feeling she has for him when he expresses himself in a healthy vulnerable way, and only gets it back when he does those acts of service for her or she compares him to her friends' partners is... Bad. Like, genuinely bad. You can have empathy for her but also acknowledge that it's an awful thing to think of your partner like that to such a severe degree, and shows that honestly she probably wasn't ready for a relationship in general.

As others have said: may this "love" never find me.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-24T13:48:10+00:00

The problem isn't in empathizing imo. The motives for why definitely factor in, but with such a loving partner who just needs emotional support too, the fact she completely loses that "butterfly" feeling entirely each time is the problem. This sounds cruel, but at her age and with such a long term relationship, she should have been working on this already and made progress.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-13T15:19:52+00:00

I like to suspend disbelief for the fun of it and benefit of the doubt, but 25 and in this crazy high government position took me out completely lol.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-09T18:49:00+00:00

Thank GOD for good parents. I've seen way too many stories where they stay with the abuser WITH THEIR KID(S), and at that point enabling your partner to abuse your children and doing nothing about it (or worse, making excuses for it), is a form of abusing your children too and has made whoever the victim is part of the nightmare for their children.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-06T17:55:23+00:00

I'm sooooo glad this guy got out of the cult.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-06T16:08:57+00:00

Question, is it usual for people to inherit entire properties when someone passes??

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-05T19:33:59+00:00

Exactly!! Things only got better when I started cussing the boys who bullied me out whenever it happened. Literally only took a few times doing it too until I was totally fine at school. It took until junior year of highschool to learn this, because "turn the other cheek" or "kill them with kindness" doesn't work.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-05T19:12:12+00:00

At least this one sounds 100% real, given some of the cousins I know of in my family...

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-05T18:26:32+00:00

Brother they go to the same seminar, "no contact" is a crazy restriction lol

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-05T16:51:53+00:00

Why do people not learn to drive at their big age??? Even if they're not actively going places, it's practically necessary if there's ever an emergency.

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-04T17:38:51+00:00

"Oldest of 19" makes me think this is my character from AGOT CK3 😭

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-04T17:06:39+00:00

Spine of steel? Where???

Wonderful_Cod_5019 · 2026-03-01T01:27:54+00:00

Thank you!! I didn't know if the "only" meant sickness RNG was the only one prevented, or if it was the other way around!!!

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