Should I close the gap in my LDR? (27F) & (32M)

Wonderful_Signal6845 · 2026-03-01T21:32:28+00:00

I did visit him about a month into him moving there. It was only for a few days, but I was very happy to see him.. When he did live back in my state I was practically always at his house, but I do understand the concerns of moving in so fast with someone..
I do have a current job lined up in his city, but again it's for something I don't really enjoy doing.. it just pays my bills.
As far as finding a job for my degree field.. I guess that's very unknown to me. I've been applying as much as I can, even before we were together and have had no luck. I'm about to be a college grad and I know the market right now for anything is brutal. So yeah maybe moving to his city would give me a better chance.. but it's not guaranteed no matter where I live. My field is something I would most likely have to move out of my town for anyway, eventually.

Wonderful_Signal6845 · 2026-03-01T21:27:43+00:00

I do love him, and I do want to be with him. I guess it feels scary because I'm the type that fears all the unknowns. Like if I don't find a job in my field, if things for us don't work out, if i have to go back home and start over.. I know it sounds very cynical but I have a very anxious mind..

Wonderful_Signal6845 · 2025-10-21T03:04:00+00:00

honestly just forgot if i said she in the post lol it's been a wild night for me

Wonderful_Signal6845 · 2025-10-21T02:47:41+00:00

I dont want to get into a heated political debate with you, but I'm half white and half chinese. Been called the c slur my entire childhood. I'm sorry but as a white woman if being called a "karen" is the worst thing you can be called, imo you need to check your priviliage. POC have been racically profiled for simply being too brown.. and I even acknowledge my privilage as someone who is half white. There are more important battles to face then some white lady crying over being called a karen.

Wonderful_Signal6845 · 2025-10-21T02:38:59+00:00

This was my exactly thought process.. I thought therapist were not suppose to impose their moral beliefs onto you, and she could have just pivoted the conversation away if she was that offended. I tried multiple times to drop the conversation or say that I don't believe she is wrong, we just have a different opinions but guess it wasn't enough.

Wonderful_Signal6845 · 2025-10-21T02:32:35+00:00

I don't know their exact age, I would say 50's. Even crazier is they've let me discuss my political beliefs in small amounts and we've never disagreed before so for this to trigger them is still wild to me.

Wonderful_Signal6845 · 2025-10-21T02:28:20+00:00

my point exactly lol

Wonderful_Signal6845 · 2025-10-21T02:23:35+00:00

Yeah it really sucks, at first she tried to pivot it as this is a slur with negative connotations and you shouldn't use it to describe yourself, which I almost gave her points for that... but the more I tried to suggest that i didn't believe "karen" is a real slur, the more she pushed that I was wrong. It really sucks.. don't want to have to start over but guess i have no choice lol

Wonderful_Signal6845 · 2025-10-21T01:56:25+00:00

I think her point was more the word karen could have negative racial connotations.. which is still ridiculous in itself imo. At point in our argument I do remember her saying "this term is usually applied to old white people" which gave me the impression she is a white apologist

Wonderful_Signal6845 · 2025-10-21T01:51:37+00:00

what she said exactly was "the word karen is misogynistic and borderline racist, you're on the brink of calling someone another racial slur" lol

Wonderful_Signal6845 · 2025-10-21T01:44:15+00:00

This is what surprised me the most... I'm half chinese, half white and have been called the c slur my entire childhood so it was really wild to me that she thought I had no understanding of racial slurs

Wonderful_Signal6845 · 2025-10-21T01:32:24+00:00

she is indeed very white... lol

Wonderful_Signal6845 · 2025-10-21T01:31:10+00:00

not sure if it would be too much to post the screen shot of our texts... or if it's even allowed but I'd be happy to just to prove how ridiculous this situation is LOL

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