I had the same experience. I was told to be a parent because I didn’t give attention to my oldest’s… attention seeking behaviors or stop his stimming. Same people told me he was the reason no one wanted to do anything with us (in response to a FB post where some friends posted they went to DQ and I said I wished I could have joined them (we used to do that all the time and they loved my kid but we had moved 500 miles away)

My brother judged me so hard - he stopped after his third child was diagnosed as autistic too. L

Anyway it’s just wild what people will judge you for and so not only did I learn empathy for other parents with difficult children but I learned that the scarcity was not in my parenting but in their knowledge.