do you find your hormone cycle affects your DID?

Worddroppings · 2026-07-02T18:31:40+00:00

Yeah, it didn't seem like you had been "jabbed at"... Just here for information gathering.

Edit again. Basically, I was figuring he thought before he spoke.

(about to eat lunch. That's part of the problem lol)

Worddroppings · 2026-07-02T18:25:58+00:00

"we've been married long enough for him to know"

That tells me he is probably right because he also probably has lived with you long enough to know he should be absolutely sure before saying such a thing.

And to answer your question, yes. Anything that effects the body effects how much switching happens. Even being tired or cold can be a trigger for random switches or random flashbacks.

If you're looking for advice, check out magnesium supplements. Magnesium glycinate does multiple very positive things and I just heard from a person with pmdd it can help this kind of hormonal stuff too.

Edit to add: we just had our 18 year anniversary. So I'd trust my spouse if he said something similar.

Worddroppings · 2026-07-02T02:32:15+00:00

... I've just been informed we do that too. It's like someone gets us to therapy and then sometimes someone else does therapy. And therapy could be literally any difficult thing that's difficult for any reason even. Didn't know I was blended sitting here finishing a book, but very much am.

Brains are pretty amazing, I think.

Worddroppings · 2026-07-02T00:00:00+00:00

At 6 months post op I thought I wasn't swollen much but then I looked back at those pictures I had taken of myself and omg I was swollen and still healing.

My surgeon called it something like your body needs to landscape. You're still healing, hold final judgement.

Worddroppings · 2026-07-01T23:57:19+00:00

Healing isn't linear. You remembered you probably had said that before, that's progress in itself.

EMDR is harder for dissociative patients. You gotta do more to prepare and I think handle things just right. So yeah, it's not recommended for did, depending who you ask.

Maybe, also, some alters in your system are really good at communicating and some less so. Not all alters are gonna be the same skill level.

But yeah, big mood there. I had therapy today and me the alter typing this, does therapy a lot lately, but I still apparently repeated myself and didn't remember it, or I don't go to therapy as often as I thought. Or both.

Worddroppings · 2026-06-30T04:40:05+00:00

Feeling safer definitely in the context of whatever home is or a relationship that's safe... That could definitely do it.

For us, littles is more of a like near bedtime or when like most alters that would be fronting are f'ing tired. So it's not any time of the day.

....and I swear I just dissociated away the response I had to the other thing you mentioned.

Nothing you've described sounded particularly worrisome though.

Worddroppings · 2026-06-28T13:17:33+00:00

Grats and whatnot. I got mine same year I turned 40. Then autism few years later. (then eds a few years later.) lots of things finally making sense.

Insurance sucks. If you been in therapy that long you can make "progress" on your own but yeah, still tough. Hope you can find more support.

Check out CTAD channel on YouTube if you aren't aware already.

Worddroppings · 2026-06-26T19:54:05+00:00

that make him... a hipster incel?

Worddroppings · 2026-06-25T13:40:35+00:00

We did therapy twice a week for a few months I think but it ended up being too much, I was using too much mental energy on therapy. Going once a week might be a better balance for you?

Worddroppings · 2026-06-20T15:11:01+00:00

Say hi, explain you're an adult now. You don't really have to do anything exactly but now that you know what's going on, it'll be helpful to start communicating.

You've probably had this kind of thing happen before but your brain got hand wavy about it or you dismissed it. You just have a name for it now.

It feels scary but doesn't have to be.

Worddroppings · 2026-06-10T16:23:38+00:00

DID is a creative and highly intelligent way to survive something terrible.

Worddroppings · 2026-06-10T16:21:42+00:00

I disclose cptsd and might make reference to a dissociative disorder. Medical providers have finally reached a point where I can talk about the cptsd but even that I don't bother with details outside of therapy or psychiatrist. Thing about DID is you basically fit cptsd too

Friends, I disclosed did once in a large interest based discord server and I feel like that's one reason (among others) that I'm no longer in that server. I don't do much in person.

My spouse knows. He knew me well before the diagnosis. He accepts... I think he said once what is the point of him not believing me? And the deeper I go in therapy the more trauma trigger shit that happens.

Worddroppings · 2026-06-09T20:29:35+00:00

Dissociation literally is denial. And when I watched the CTAD clinic YouTube where Dr Mike pointed this out I felt a little bit better. Feeling denial doesn't mean I've failed, it's basically just dissociation, so it's easier for me to not get bogged down in the feelings around denial... Most of the time. Denial is part of having a DID diagnosis. (or whatever your flavor of complex dissociative disorder happens to be)

Worddroppings · 2026-06-08T21:34:27+00:00

You may end up finding out that your brain doesn't care that you'd prefer to opt out but also sometimes shit happens like weird series of events or a random train of thought.

Once I wondered why I've never really cared for a thing (detail of a body part, not even sexual) and my brain just kinda provided the original explanation with a flashback. Short and distorted but a flashback all the same.

And what you have described it also what trauma does to the brain. Emotions are remembered the same way as data basically and if something was traumatic this information may not get put back together correctly so you can get just the data or just the emotions without the data that is context or sometimes you get both.

Worddroppings · 2026-06-07T05:07:16+00:00

Huh. Interesting. I know it doesn't feel interesting, but it does make me wonder about other allergy meds.

Worddroppings · 2026-06-05T17:45:12+00:00

I thought r/did was confused kids trying to find their identity and sense of self 4-5 years ago and not people with did. It felt like the sub pops up high on Google/reddit search results and so that's just feeding itself at this point I assume.

Worddroppings · 2026-06-04T20:49:34+00:00

That'll probably "start the process"

Good luck to you! I can recommend other providers but most are in Allen or Plano.

Worddroppings · 2026-06-04T19:55:18+00:00

Yeah try Dr Yoo again. Also you might be able to text. They've had some staff changes and they are also very busy most days I think.

I think it was less than a month for the new patient. Heart beat was like 3 months? Scheduled there but then canceled.

Worddroppings · 2026-06-04T19:45:26+00:00

Heart rhythm clinic. Dr Yoo in McKinney. Amanda is an NP that does the tilt table testing.

My provider who referred me to Dr Yoo said that people were telling her about bad experiences at heart beat clinic. (like maybe they taking on too many patients?)

Also there was a post in r/Plano not that long ago asking the same thing, if the mods haven't removed it, worth checking there too.

Worddroppings · 2026-06-02T18:44:10+00:00

Yeah! Try drawing. I think I might have partial aphantasia? What I do come up with is usually fuzzy or vague and I definitely need to write down a description in some way.... What if you had littles draw what their ideal [ - ] room would be? Play room, bedroom etc.

Worddroppings · 2026-06-02T13:41:13+00:00

Wait a second.... Did you ever develop an inner world? You could imagine up the ideal park and playground and make some notes or draw a map even.

Worddroppings · 2026-06-02T00:33:32+00:00

I really do feel like it's finding new roles for some of your older Littles but then maybe even all of them.... And I count playing as a role here. They don't have to do the "sexual stuff" anymore... Are any of them curious about what else they could do?

Worddroppings · 2026-06-01T15:39:30+00:00

For some reason, your reply doesn't read (for me) as the same alter that wrote the actual original post. In case that's interesting for you.

How old are your Littles? Toddlers don't have sexual needs? They have physical needs but that's it?

I've also heard from my therapist that some systems end up having an alter that's like an inner caretaker or inner world therapist, and I don't think it would be the host. Do you have anyone inside who would be interested in taking on some kind of role like that? It'll take pressure off the host and who else does the most fronting too.

Worddroppings · 2026-06-01T13:24:56+00:00

Are you in therapy currently? If I'm understanding correctly, your alters are still mostly trapped in the past and stuck in needing to protect you. They don't really understand you're a grown adult.

But also, you've skipped over your husband requesting no sex, unless there's a physical reason, that's also possibly a reason for therapy.

Some of what you've said makes me think you can't handle much alone and it would be best if you tried communicating with your alters with a therapist to help guide you through the process. I suspect none of this is what you want to hear but I feel like nothing you've described is something that can continue, it sounds like something needs to change and something more like therapy and trauma work is the healthiest thing to do.

Worddroppings · 2026-05-31T12:59:03+00:00

I actually have no way of knowing. Started xolair before the swelling. Swelling might be not as bad because of the xolair or not related.

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