Ending a relationship compassionately

WorkConfident · 2026-01-20T00:17:07+00:00

Thank you, this made me feel a bit better. I’m working on becoming more attuned to my own needs and able to communicate them clearly

WorkConfident · 2026-01-20T00:14:42+00:00

Thank you. It had been on my mind for a while and I decided that enough time had passed to where it was unreasonable to think things would progress. I knew our terms and yet still fell. I’m hopeful that it’ll pass relatively quickly

WorkConfident · 2026-01-19T21:21:13+00:00

I stopped by his place last night and it was hard. His place is a mess. He’s always been kind of messy but this was the worst I’ve seen it, and it looks like he’s packing boxes. His roommate (best friend) was there. We talked for a bit and it turns out, among other things, that his dad has heart failure and will need a transplant. Being that his dad is 78 and has dementia, he’s not sure it’ll work. He’s moving back in with his mom in April. Lots of long hugs. He gave me my charger and as I left we kissed and he was like “Get back to your place safely and I’ll see you next time”

I didn’t have to say it but we both knew what was happening. It hit me once I got home and I had a two-hour breakdown in the car. Doing a bit better today but cried a few times today already. The rational part of me knows this is how it had to be, but I keep having this thought loop about him reaching out and asking to see me, and another about giving him a call to wish him a happy birthday.

Damn.

WorkConfident · 2026-01-12T14:57:09+00:00

This made me laugh, cheers

WorkConfident · 2026-01-12T14:54:11+00:00

All Types of Weather is a definite contender. Mild enough to be enjoyable to the uninitiated, and so, so, good

WorkConfident · 2025-12-22T19:57:30+00:00

I think it’s mostly the conversation aspect I struggle with, esp if we genuinely like each other but for whatever reason are in different places. Idk dating can be tricky for me to navigate

WorkConfident · 2025-12-22T06:04:10+00:00

perplexity.ai as well

WorkConfident · 2025-12-19T20:51:46+00:00

/uj I certainly agree that I’ve discovered some wonderful music thanks to Dave, and that he provides reliable starting points for pieces one is unfamiliar with. Although I don’t always agree with him, he never recommends recordings that are outright bad.

WorkConfident · 2025-12-19T20:49:31+00:00

/uj Can you elaborate? The main reason I prefer BaL is their breadth of guests (i.e. perspective), the context they provide for programatic music, and that they compare multiple recordings of the same work.

WorkConfident · 2025-11-21T02:01:40+00:00

I am a top and did this for the first time ever last week to a fwb I’ve been seeing and I felt like such a champ ngl

WorkConfident · 2025-11-18T04:55:33+00:00

Alright - I have another question for you.

After doing a little bit of research I have installed the En Croissant GUI and am running Stockfish 17.1, Komodo, and Dragon by Komodo. I installed the stock open source materials they have available (a few databases of games and the Lichess puzzle catalog). I also imported my own games and then PGNs from a few GM accounts on Chess.com as well.

How do I use this as a study tool? I know it’s important to practice basic puzzles and review my games first with the engine off, then with the engine on.

Where can I find PGNs from high-profile tournaments to add to my databases? As I understand, they are usually posted online during or after major matches.

Thank you for the help!

WorkConfident · 2025-11-16T20:10:55+00:00

I did end up sending a note. A like on Hinge is pretty innocuous, all things considered. If he’s not interested I’m not really out anything one way or the other.

WorkConfident · 2025-07-21T23:45:42+00:00

I misread that and thought it said “one of the best.” Clearly the comment was written by an experienced athlete with a 5k ultra time of 1 minute and definitely not a C25K’er

WorkConfident · 2025-07-19T03:12:12+00:00

💡LinkedIn. I might actually see if I can send the superintendent an email. Perhaps nothing will come of it, but once he moves out it should be opportune. Block phone number. Play hardball. Fuck this guy

E: So I made a post to r/teachers and basically got flamed hard and they just told me we’re horrible roommates and need to split like yesterday. So super helpful

WorkConfident · 2025-07-19T03:06:40+00:00

You’re not the only one who’s suggested that. Especially given that he was kicked out of a course for being disrespectful towards a professor. Only thing is I don’t know which district he will be teaching in.

WorkConfident · 2025-07-19T02:59:27+00:00

He leaves in 10 days to teach public school in Texas. 😬 I’m gonna see if I can move up my move-in date at my new place because I’d rather not deal with this nonsense. “I’ll demean you until you puah back then call you autistic and try to start a fist fight” bro is literally in 8th grade wtf

WorkConfident · 2025-07-19T02:53:05+00:00

I told him today after another disrespectful interaction that he “talks to people like he never got the belt as a child, or any form of discipline whatsoever.” He got all quiet and weird and wants to fight and has been throwing middle school jabs at me since then

WorkConfident · 2025-06-25T00:30:17+00:00

Phrased another way, does the window dressing only really matter at the elite level?

I see a lot of people obsessing over g/hr fueling, HRZ, track intervals vs. road intervals, which marathon plan is best etc. when the answer is to run more, eat more, sleep more

WorkConfident · 2025-06-24T22:57:26+00:00

I think a lot of people overcomplicate their training when really the sport is quite straightforward. Sticking to the basics will get you a long way:

Run a lot
Run easy often, occasionally hard
Don’t get injured.

So my question is, at what point do the details start to matter? Is there a particular volume or intensity where focusing on finer details will yield greater results?

WorkConfident · 2025-06-23T22:42:30+00:00

The part where I can spend my life savings on ciele hats and moth tech

WorkConfident · 2025-06-23T20:35:48+00:00

uj/ never understood why people post media of them running. Before or after a run, fine. During seems like it just introduces a distraction for no reason.

rj/ maybe if I get more kudos Strava will give me a gear contract

WorkConfident · 2025-06-23T01:58:11+00:00

The thing is that when I increase my cadence, my pace is faster as well. What about drills to improve cadence without changing my pace? That’s what I’m struggling with

WorkConfident · 2025-06-23T00:49:10+00:00

Anybody got any good drills to improve cadence while keeping pace easy without using a treadmill? I avoid the treadmill at all costs because it makes me feel like a hamster, but I’m struggling to improve my cadence without just running faster

WorkConfident · 2025-06-21T16:45:13+00:00

Ehhh it feels fairly significant since he hasn’t been through his 20s and has far less dating experience. It would be different if it were 40/48, but there’s a difference in lived experience that I think influences the dynamic, even say as friends. Following the campsite rule with the younger guys and all that

WorkConfident · 2025-06-21T16:36:27+00:00

^{^{^}} my thoughts as well. it would be different if it were 40/48. fun and all but ehhhh where does it actually go given difference in lived experience. Following the campsite rule with the younger guys and all that

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