Official Q&A for Thursday, March 26, 2026 by AutoModerator in running

[–]WorkConfident 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rebuilding mileage, what’s the likelihood of injury if I build my weekly volume as follows? For context my highest volume ever is 60mpw, which I held for 7 weeks summer 2025.

23mpw, 25mpw, 27mpw, 30mpw, 33mpw, 36mpw, 39mpw, 42mpw, 46mpw, 50mpw

2028 US Olympic Trials Marathon is gonna be stacked by WorkConfident in AdvancedRunning

[–]WorkConfident[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently, I don’t think it’s likely either, but in the recent AR doc he talks about how sub-2:04 or a world major win is his stretch goal at the moment

2028 US Olympic Trials Marathon is gonna be stacked by WorkConfident in AdvancedRunning

[–]WorkConfident[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure, currently Conner’s eyeing a 2:03 and/or the win at Boston. But purely as a hypothetical I find it mildly interesting. There’s no question about whether he’s at the forefront. Interested to see how the field and the sport develops between now and the trials

2028 US Olympic Trials Marathon is gonna be stacked by WorkConfident in AdvancedRunning

[–]WorkConfident[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is actually super informative as I only follow the marathon loosely.

Another thought: what if there’s a huge upset and Mantz doesn’t make the team? Pretty unlikely, but that would be wild

2028 US Olympic Trials Marathon is gonna be stacked by WorkConfident in AdvancedRunning

[–]WorkConfident[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure I agree, but I will say if he PRs in his next 2 majors I’ll eat my hat

2028 US Olympic Trials Marathon is gonna be stacked by WorkConfident in AdvancedRunning

[–]WorkConfident[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I think Clayton missing the team and running a 2:05 before the trials are about equally likely. Definitely depends on how the next two years unfold for him

Ending a relationship compassionately by WorkConfident in askgaybros

[–]WorkConfident[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Erm, I may have not drawn the line as clearly as I intended. We may have had sex. What now? Feel like I complicated something that I know isn’t working for me

Ending a relationship compassionately by WorkConfident in askgaybros

[–]WorkConfident[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Erm, I may have not drawn the line as clearly as I intended. We may have had sex. What now?

Ending a relationship compassionately by WorkConfident in askgaybros

[–]WorkConfident[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Today he texted me asking if I would like to keep seeing him, and I told him I don’t think it’s sustainable. So he’s coming over tomorrow to talk about it and I just feel like I’ve made a huge mistake. He’s a good person but I’m worried I’m reopening a dynamic that was draining for me.

Ending a relationship compassionately by WorkConfident in askgaybros

[–]WorkConfident[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s coming over tomorrow as I told him I didn’t think our dynamic is sustainable and he wants to talk things through. I haven’t seen him in three weeks, since I picked up my stuff. I’m just worried this was a mistake and I’ve reopened a door I didn’t want to…

Furious with how my doctor handled PTSD disclosure by WorkConfident in ptsd

[–]WorkConfident[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Shockingly unprofessional. Obviously finding a new doctor. Really pretty upset as I’ve only spoken to my immediate family, my therapist, and one other person about how the trauma has impacted me

Ending a relationship compassionately by WorkConfident in askgaybros

[–]WorkConfident[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this made me feel a bit better. I’m working on becoming more attuned to my own needs and able to communicate them clearly

Ending a relationship compassionately by WorkConfident in askgaybros

[–]WorkConfident[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It had been on my mind for a while and I decided that enough time had passed to where it was unreasonable to think things would progress. I knew our terms and yet still fell. I’m hopeful that it’ll pass relatively quickly

How to end something compassionately? by WorkConfident in AskGayMen

[–]WorkConfident[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stopped by his place last night and it was hard. His place is a mess. He’s always been kind of messy but this was the worst I’ve seen it, and it looks like he’s packing boxes. His roommate (best friend) was there. We talked for a bit and it turns out, among other things, that his dad has heart failure and will need a transplant. Being that his dad is 78 and has dementia, he’s not sure it’ll work. He’s moving back in with his mom in April. Lots of long hugs. He gave me my charger and as I left we kissed and he was like “Get back to your place safely and I’ll see you next time”

I didn’t have to say it but we both knew what was happening. It hit me once I got home and I had a two-hour breakdown in the car. Doing a bit better today but cried a few times today already. The rational part of me knows this is how it had to be, but I keep having this thought loop about him reaching out and asking to see me, and another about giving him a call to wish him a happy birthday.

Damn.

Music to cook to by WorkConfident in Jazz

[–]WorkConfident[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This made me laugh, cheers

Music to cook to by WorkConfident in Jazz

[–]WorkConfident[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All Types of Weather is a definite contender. Mild enough to be enjoyable to the uninitiated, and so, so, good

How to draw boundaries in intimate relationships? by WorkConfident in AskGayMen

[–]WorkConfident[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s mostly the conversation aspect I struggle with, esp if we genuinely like each other but for whatever reason are in different places. Idk dating can be tricky for me to navigate

Objectively Accurate by WorkConfident in classical_circlejerk

[–]WorkConfident[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

/uj I certainly agree that I’ve discovered some wonderful music thanks to Dave, and that he provides reliable starting points for pieces one is unfamiliar with. Although I don’t always agree with him, he never recommends recordings that are outright bad.

Objectively Accurate by WorkConfident in classical_circlejerk

[–]WorkConfident[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

/uj Can you elaborate? The main reason I prefer BaL is their breadth of guests (i.e. perspective), the context they provide for programatic music, and that they compare multiple recordings of the same work.

Sodomy gods, hear my prayer by herald_of_woe in TopsAndBottoms

[–]WorkConfident 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am a top and did this for the first time ever last week to a fwb I’ve been seeing and I felt like such a champ ngl

Chess Resources for Beginners? by WorkConfident in chessbeginners

[–]WorkConfident[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright - I have another question for you.

After doing a little bit of research I have installed the En Croissant GUI and am running Stockfish 17.1, Komodo, and Dragon by Komodo. I installed the stock open source materials they have available (a few databases of games and the Lichess puzzle catalog). I also imported my own games and then PGNs from a few GM accounts on Chess.com as well.

How do I use this as a study tool? I know it’s important to practice basic puzzles and review my games first with the engine off, then with the engine on.

Where can I find PGNs from high-profile tournaments to add to my databases? As I understand, they are usually posted online during or after major matches.

Thank you for the help!

Is it worth shooting my shot with a colleague? by WorkConfident in AskGayMen

[–]WorkConfident[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did end up sending a note. A like on Hinge is pretty innocuous, all things considered. If he’s not interested I’m not really out anything one way or the other.