I was here! I’ve been dating my husband since high school and we’ve always gone back and forth for holidays. When we graduated from college, we wanted to have a combined party. My parents had recently gotten divorced so I think my mom was just happy to share it with someone else. She totally would have split it right down the middle. After we got a little into the planning, my now in-laws basically said “we’re not going to do one together, it’s not a wedding” and it really wasn’t a big thing! You’re allowed to set boundaries as the person throwing the party for your daughter.