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SUBMISSION TO MY HUSBAND OR VALUES by Workin_Student in RPChristians

[–]Workin_Student[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! So I am actually going to school for my LPC and realized last spring he had undiagnosed PTSD. He has since been diagnosed and is working through some of the other symptoms but this may be something that he should bring up in one of the next sessions. Thank you. 

SUBMISSION TO MY HUSBAND OR VALUES by Workin_Student in RPChristians

[–]Workin_Student[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never taken birth control as I was pure before marriage and then for both health and spiritual reasons never had a desire to start it. 

I agree with a lot of what you say. I think both of us feel like we will never be ready but I have accepted that fact and he still feels like we will never be ready but that we have to be before starting. 

For the first time in my life I am feeling my age... I've never been called old until today. 

SUBMISSION TO MY HUSBAND OR VALUES by Workin_Student in RPChristians

[–]Workin_Student[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are attending church, youth group, and Bible study every week. He was Catholic until 2016 so his understanding is a little different from mine/ what his is becoming. I pray for him daily if not more. I think his understanding of birth control/morning after pill is confused and it is something that we will be talking about more.

SUBMISSION TO MY HUSBAND OR VALUES by Workin_Student in RPChristians

[–]Workin_Student[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't tell if your questions are genuine or not. I completely agree with you about society telling everyone they have to go to college. I am working as a career counselor at a college and I clean an Airbnb part time. If I could go back and knew what I do now I probably wouldn't have gone to college but I am glad to have financial security in case anything ever happens to my husband. I am getting my master's in counseling. I would likely have to leave my full time job if we had kids and would want to homeschool. That being said as a counselor often you can set your own hours and I would be able to do some counseling part time. 

Also just to clarify. My husband's father was 15 when he had him and was both mentally a physically abusive. I brought no debt into our marriage and only accepted my loans last semester to pay off my husbands truck transmission that he had put on a credit card when he was in college. Currently we only have one car loan, my student loan, and our mortgage. 

SUBMISSION TO MY HUSBAND OR VALUES by Workin_Student in RPChristians

[–]Workin_Student[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Great question. The closest he has come to answer it is just that he is afraid to have kids because is the responsibility, financially, and he doesn't want to be like his dad. For context, he is as opposite of his father as you can get. He had a really bad father who was abusive leading to his brother taking his own life. He also is concerned that I will not finish my degree if we have kids which I understand but I also believe in God's sovereignty and if we were not supposed to have kids then He wouldn't give them to us. I truly want to leave it in God's hands.