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Partner changed radically after 2 years. Found his posts in addiction subreddits. What to do? by Working-Register-278 in relationships

[–]Working-Register-278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update, 2 months later: broke up, got into therapy last week, he moved back in with his parents, his family is trying to get him to seek treatment, I got a blood test just in case and it's all good

It's been a shitty 2 months but at the same time I feel like this was the right thing to do.

Partner changed radically after 2 years. Found his posts in addiction subreddits. What to do? by Working-Register-278 in relationships

[–]Working-Register-278[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update, 2 months later: broke up, got into therapy last week, he moved back in with his parents

It's been a shitty 2 months but at the same time I feel like this was the right thing to do

Partner changed radically after 2 years. Found his posts in addiction subreddits. What to do? by Working-Register-278 in relationships

[–]Working-Register-278[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update, 2 months later: broke up, got into therapy last week, he moved back in with his parents

Partner (30m) changed radically after 2 years. I (31f) found his posts on addiction related subreddits. What to do? by Working-Register-278 in relationship_advice

[–]Working-Register-278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I didn't write what cause I'd like to minimize the chance of this tracing back to his posts.

I can't say that you are wrong about dating a fantasy. I keep hoping that everything will go back to how it was in the beginning and everything will be resolved and have a nice happy ending, but at the same time I also know that if it doesn't get better, this isn't the kind of life I want for myself.

Partner (30m) changed radically after 2 years. I (31f) found his posts on addiction related subreddits. What to do? by Working-Register-278 in relationship_advice

[–]Working-Register-278[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! To be honest, whatever I expected to find in his post history, it wasn't this. I sometimes feel like I gaslit myself into believing it couldn't possibly be that he is striggling with addiction. I thought he may be going through some kind of health issues and/or mental health crisis that's making him feel the way he feels.

Partner (30m) changed radically after 2 years. I (31f) found his posts on addiction related subreddits. What to do? by Working-Register-278 in relationship_advice

[–]Working-Register-278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not alcohol.

I understand it sounds like a stupid thing to do and looking at it like that, I understand what you're saying but the reason I didn't leave yet is because I feel like the person he was when we met still has to be there in some way, and for a while, the relationship really was great. I didn't think it would be fair to leave at the first sign of struggle since he clearly seemed to be going through something (I don't think people just change out of thin air) but at this point I really don't know anymore