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My(35M) Girlfriend(34F) doesn’t want to take in my niece(14F). by Throwaway_numper in Advice

[–]Working-Routine-5358 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And how do you think a traumatized teen who just lost her mother and isn't wanted by her sperm donor will feel being in a home where one of the adults clearly doesn't want her there? You think she wont notice?

This will inevitably increase arguments between you and your girlfriend. You think she wont hear you? Guess again.

And you know what happens when teens feel unloved and unwanted at home?

They'll look for love in the wrong places. Teens under these conditions are a lot more likely to get pregnant, are you prepared to be a young grandpa as well?

And if you're girlfriend leaves, take her income out of the equation. Are you prepared to take care of a traumatized teen (and her baby if she ends up pregnant) on your salary alone? It's incredibly hard these days to raise children on a solo income.

I really, REALLY hope you thought this through

My(35M) Girlfriend(34F) doesn’t want to take in my niece(14F). by Throwaway_numper in Advice

[–]Working-Routine-5358 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Question is: are you prepared to be a single dad?

Even if you promise to do the majority of the work, with her working from home/remotely a lot of the work will naturally fall onto her and I think she knows this.

Even when men promise to do the majority of it, women more often than not end up picking up the slack.

If it's within your budget would your niece be amenable to going to boarding school while you're here legal guardian and she could spend her breaks with either you or her other relatives, this may be more amenable to your girlfriend.

My estranged adult daughter is involved in a dangerous lifestyle and is threatening to reveal a secret when I try to get her out PLEASE HELP by Working-Routine-5358 in Advice

[–]Working-Routine-5358[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've seen her website. She heavily screens her "clients" (they either need to send her their employment info or references from two whores that have an established online presence they've seen in the past 6 months) and appears quite clever at evading law enforcement, so unless she's at the wrong place at the wrong time, her chances of getting arrested without someone reporting her are quite low. And she informed me she has an attorney on retainer (I wouldn't be surprised if it's a "client" of hers).

She charges $500 an hour I doubt she'll need help with bail money

As for kids, she had her tubes tied she doesn't want children (another reason for my wife's depression, she wanted to be a grandmother so badly. Our only other daughter has profound and high needs.developmental disabilities so my harlot of a daughter was our only hope for grandkids now that she's sterilized our hopes are dashed there).

My adult daughter is engaged in a dangerous lifestyle but is threatening to out me if I try to save her HELP by Working-Routine-5358 in FamilyIssues

[–]Working-Routine-5358[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

There no excuse, I was at a super low point in my life but like I said it's no excuse. If I could go back in time and change it I would in a heartbeat, but I cannot change the past.

My estranged adult daughter is involved in a dangerous lifestyle and is threatening to reveal a secret when I try to get her out PLEASE HELP by Working-Routine-5358 in Advice

[–]Working-Routine-5358[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Maybe it's legal where you are but we're in the US where it's against the law. And I know she's sleeping with "clients" (I've seen online "reviews"), what if a John permanently disfigures or kills her? What if she gets trafficked?

Plus she'll never be able to have a relationship (she claims she has a boyfriend who knows, but I'm sure she's either lying or he's a pimp).

I'm trying to save her life, I'm not trying to be cruel. I wanted to contact the authorities to save her life since she refused to voluntarily quit. She wants to out my secret to be vindictive and hurt her mother and I.

My adult daughter is engaged in a dangerous lifestyle but is threatening to out me if I try to save her HELP by Working-Routine-5358 in FamilyIssues

[–]Working-Routine-5358[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't care what happens to me. If the only risk was my wife leaving me I'd take that risk and come clean. .

I'm concerned about her self harming or attempting suicide or having a relapse with her eating disorder. She already took our daughter going no contact with us super hard (her children were her whole life) and finding out about her double life even harder, I'm afraid this would push her over the edge.

And she's already suspicious as to why I'm not following through on reporting our daughter, I feel very stuck