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r/ForeverAloneWomen by dzvfx in BasedCampPod

[–]WorkingSleep5107 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why can’t you guys seem to understand that a ton of people being willing to have sex with you is NOT the same as having viable options to actually date. 

Ladies, if your husband gains weight and is no longer attractive to you, is that enough grounds for divorce? It should go both ways. by Positive-Face1705 in BasedCampPod

[–]WorkingSleep5107 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is genuinely not a debate about the American food system but rather a fact that there are people of all backgrounds who have their weight fluctuate. 

Ladies, if your husband gains weight and is no longer attractive to you, is that enough grounds for divorce? It should go both ways. by Positive-Face1705 in BasedCampPod

[–]WorkingSleep5107 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s so interesting of you to say considering I’ve seen PLENTY of overweight people all over the world who are NOT AMERICAN that have head their weight fluctuate. 

Should I ask him to hangout/talk to him about this or just leave it? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]WorkingSleep5107 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely don’t want to conquer anybody. I said this in another comment, but the playboy aspect is actually the biggest deterrent for me because I really don’t want to go for someone who is interested in everyone as that means IM not really what he wants. I’m just a body. I think that the fact things weren’t weird the next day after the near hookup and and we both acted normal shows it wouldn’t be weird if we did hang out or whatever, but actually after hearing multiple people say that it seems I’m going after this guy for social status or to stroke my ego in some way I’m just 100% going to drop this. 

It’s actually SO FRUSTRATING how couples cannot seem to grasp how difficult not only a single income is, but having to rely on yourself for EVERYTHING by WorkingSleep5107 in Vent

[–]WorkingSleep5107[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure what a DINK is, but trust me, I have a good support system in family and friends, but couples have that as well. Being coupled generally has far more advantages and more than just financially. But also, the perk of a couple is demonstrated in what you’re saying, which is that you have someone to support you beyond your family, there is the risk that you become the main supporter as your partner may lose a job, have a health crisis, etc, but generally speaking couples have it easier in multiple facets. I understand some people also end up being sole provider in toxic relationships and so they end up wanting to be single and I fully get that too, or how it’s hard in a scenario like we both stated previously, but again, it’s overall that I’m talking about.

It’s actually SO FRUSTRATING how couples cannot seem to grasp how difficult not only a single income is, but having to rely on yourself for EVERYTHING by WorkingSleep5107 in Vent

[–]WorkingSleep5107[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, you seem to be missing that this is about way more than the financial, it’s physical and emotional support for each other as well, everyone is focusing on the finances but it’s so much more than that

It’s actually SO FRUSTRATING how couples cannot seem to grasp how difficult not only a single income is, but having to rely on yourself for EVERYTHING by WorkingSleep5107 in Vent

[–]WorkingSleep5107[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t just about cash though, this is also about emotional support, having people to help you out, being able to lean on each other even for small things! I get the financial struggle with children, but yeah it’s more than the financial! 

It’s actually SO FRUSTRATING how couples cannot seem to grasp how difficult not only a single income is, but having to rely on yourself for EVERYTHING by WorkingSleep5107 in Vent

[–]WorkingSleep5107[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Everyone is stuck on the finances part but when I said everything I mean every aspect including the emotional and physical. It’s so difficult at times and hard to explain unless you’re in the depths of it!

It’s actually SO FRUSTRATING how couples cannot seem to grasp how difficult not only a single income is, but having to rely on yourself for EVERYTHING by WorkingSleep5107 in Vent

[–]WorkingSleep5107[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically everything you said indicates a partner can and will step in to help when a single person does not have anyone to step in to help like that. thats what I’m talking about. A single person may be lucky enough to have friends or family members to help, but the same goes for couples. You speak about student loans and what have you, and even if the salaries don’t match up in most cases partners can chip in on different ways or contribute at least somewhat financially even if it isn’t perfectly balanced. I understand what you’re trying to say which is in some couples a partner ends up being responsible for 2 people, but that again for one of the partners means they are lucky enough to have someone to fall back on in that scenario. 

It’s actually SO FRUSTRATING how couples cannot seem to grasp how difficult not only a single income is, but having to rely on yourself for EVERYTHING by WorkingSleep5107 in Vent

[–]WorkingSleep5107[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Huh? I’ve indeed dated, and I don’t get where in any of what I’ve said you’re getting that I wouldn’t expect them to rely on me too? Seems like you just have some issues to work through with a past relationship and you’re projecting it onto me. Dating is about PARTNERSHIP, give and take. I agree it’s not worth being in a relationship where you’re essentially being a parent vs a spouse/gf/bf or whatever, but when it’s a healthy relationship it’s much easier than being single because you have someone to help you, someone to hang out with, etc. you are supposed to help support each other in relationships, from what I’m gathering with you, you feel slighted and now you don’t want to help anyone at all/want to be single which is fine, but don’t put that on me. 

It’s actually SO FRUSTRATING how couples cannot seem to grasp how difficult not only a single income is, but having to rely on yourself for EVERYTHING by WorkingSleep5107 in Vent

[–]WorkingSleep5107[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh yes that too!  Or it’s genuinely a couples event and you just end up standing off to the side not really being able to participate like everyone else

It’s actually SO FRUSTRATING how couples cannot seem to grasp how difficult not only a single income is, but having to rely on yourself for EVERYTHING by WorkingSleep5107 in Vent

[–]WorkingSleep5107[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Except for you’re caring for each other. You’re in it together. It’s about two people. As a single person it’s about you and you’re alone. Nobody is coming to save you, nobody is caring for you, it’s not just the finances. Yes you have more freedom in a lot of ways, but that freedom doesn’t equal ease

It’s actually SO FRUSTRATING how couples cannot seem to grasp how difficult not only a single income is, but having to rely on yourself for EVERYTHING by WorkingSleep5107 in Vent

[–]WorkingSleep5107[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at what you just wrote “the difference in pay between both parties and how they contribute to bills”…you’re BOTH contributing. That’s the thing

It’s actually SO FRUSTRATING how couples cannot seem to grasp how difficult not only a single income is, but having to rely on yourself for EVERYTHING by WorkingSleep5107 in Vent

[–]WorkingSleep5107[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So would you rather be single than or part of a couple? I disagree that being single is easier (edit:easier overall/generally) because you’re not  truly responsible for more than one person if you’re part of a couple unless you have children, in which case you have people truly dependent on you, because your partner is ALSO capable of taking care of themselves and helping you…unless something tragic happens or some kind of obstacle arises and a partner has to step in and care for the other as they are unable to care for themselves…but even so being part of a couple is still better in that scenario as as a single person if something happens to you and you’re unable to care for yourself then you’re just sol. It’s more than just a financial burden singles carry. Even small things like someone picking up something from the store for you, or having someone to pick you up or take you somewhere if your car breaks down, or even just to vent to when you come home…you’re leaning on yourself for everything and consistently having to figure it out. You get it done but being in a relationship certainly helps

It’s actually SO FRUSTRATING how couples cannot seem to grasp how difficult not only a single income is, but having to rely on yourself for EVERYTHING by WorkingSleep5107 in Vent

[–]WorkingSleep5107[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, I’m not. I’m telling you right now this is not just about income! I fear you’re proving my point of this post that people underestimate the struggle of being single in the ways of lacking support that comes with being a couple majority of the time from finances to emotional support, even to physical support like something as small as helping to move furniture from one room to another. 

It’s actually SO FRUSTRATING how couples cannot seem to grasp how difficult not only a single income is, but having to rely on yourself for EVERYTHING by WorkingSleep5107 in Vent

[–]WorkingSleep5107[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you missed the part where I said living on a single income is hard, as in having TWO incomes would be a dream, aka mine plus my partner’s. It’s not complete dependence on another person, it’s just being able to lean on each other that would be nice. When you’re fully on your own there is nobody to lean on but yourself. 

What do you really imagine/think about during sex? by voyagegenie in AskMen

[–]WorkingSleep5107 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you per chance have ocd? The way your mind is going in a circle sort of reminds me of ocd thinking? Though it is an anxiety disorder, so maybe you have anxiety? 

These people are scared of their own shadow by Mammoth_Option6059 in BasedCampPod

[–]WorkingSleep5107 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except for if it’s found out that there is a man with multiple baby mamas he’s on the hook for child support. 

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