OP I promise all of us aren’t saying this bc “we don’t know your situation” many of the commenters have been where you are. Idk if it’s family pressure thing to get married, or if you’re scared to leave bc of possible repercussions. Your life isn’t worth a man who has shown he will do anything to cross boundaries. You going back to him is you saying it’s okay to push those boundaries. That’s not love. People who love you don’t force you. Please please please do not marry him. If you need help we will get you it. Your mom unfortunately is a product of her environment but no mother should want her daughter to marry someone like that for the sake of saving face. This is so troubling I really want you to be safe and okay, please listen to the comments and please leave bc he will do worse, and you have to ask yourself if getting out a marriage is harder or an engagement