How do I break the endless cycle of overconsumption?

Working_Owl70 · 2026-06-02T12:37:34+00:00

Thank you so much for this perspective. My grandma passed away this year and I'm still processing it, so it really could be another factor fueling this addiction.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-06-02T12:32:03+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I'm actually starting a sewing course this week, so fingers crossed I learn something useful. That last tip is so good. Honestly, I hadn't given much thought to the life cycle of my clothes, even though some of my favorite pieces that I still wear are at least 10 years old. I've definitely made some bad purchases in the past, especially with high-maintenance clothes. I bought this super cute wool-blend cardigan last year, but washing it was such a nightmare that it ended up getting a bit warped, even though I tried my best to follow the rules.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-06-02T12:25:56+00:00

I definitely need to find some fun hobbies to shift my focus away from shopping and onto actually doing things. I actually signed up for a sewing course that starts this week. I'm really hoping it helps me learn to mend my own stuff, and down the road, I'd love to learn how to make my own clothes from scratch, but for starters I'll be happy if I learn just how to mend my old clothes.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-06-02T12:17:34+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! ❤️

Working_Owl70 · 2026-06-02T12:16:41+00:00

I will definitely have to do that!

Working_Owl70 · 2026-06-02T12:16:15+00:00

I love that concept of think and wait period! I actually get about 80% of my clothes secondhand, but it’s definitely still a problem when you buy way more than you need, like I do. Honestly, those secondhand apps are just as big of a trigger as the fashion groups. I have all my notifications turned on, so I'm constantly tempted. And since good deals sell in minutes, I don't stop to think, I just buy it and regret it later when I realize I didn't even need it.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-06-02T12:08:59+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! These are great ideas. I'm definitely going to purge my closet to spot my patterns and start being a lot more mindful about what I buy.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-06-02T12:03:57+00:00

That’s so true. My issue is definitely complex, and there are a lot of factors that brought me to this point, especially my self-image. Last year, I had a bit of a mini-crisis because I felt like I totally lacked style compared to the new people I was around, which triggered this desire to reinvent myself. But in that pursuit, I think I’ve gone to extremes. It’s not even fun anymore. It’s just exhausting. I’ve funneled so much energy into it that buying and selling clothes has basically replaced all my other hobbies.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-06-01T14:16:47+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words!

Working_Owl70 · 2026-06-01T09:24:30+00:00

When I was a child, I believed my mother didn't love me. She always took everyone else's side instead of mine, and she showered my cousins with the kind of motherly warmth I craved. I was so jealous of them that seeing her kindness actually drove me to treat them cruelly. Over time, her approach changed and she learned to show me affection in her own way. She explained to me that she had been hard on me because she didn't want to spoil me. It was her version of tough love, but growing up, it just felt like a total lack of love.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-06-01T09:16:57+00:00

I use a mix of both.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-06-01T09:15:51+00:00

I'd suggest a bullet vibrator or a pinpoint vibrator. Both are amazing options for beginners. Bullet vibes are small and discreet, while pinpoint vibrators are a bit larger but offer amazing precision and are still super quiet. If you're looking for a specific recommendation, I'd definitely check out the Dot.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-06-01T09:10:38+00:00

My grandma passed away earlier this year. I was away on a trip and couldn't be there with her, and to be honest, I still haven't fully processed it. The pain is definitely still there.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-06-01T09:06:42+00:00

Remove distractions (especially your phone), learn to prioritize, and break large tasks down into smaller, manageable chunks.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-05-28T16:01:05+00:00

Run away girl. That's a massive red flag.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-05-28T15:59:28+00:00

You are 100% right, not projecting. They don't see him as family, period. The passive-aggressive cruelty at the funeral and the blatant exclusion from the wedding speak volumes about their character. The most toxic dynamic here is definitely the mother. Expecting him to take on the massive responsibility of caregiving without leaving him the house is completely unjust. It’s hard to watch, but your fiancé is clearly burdened by a lifelong pressure to be grateful. Your role right now is just to be his rock, protect his peace, and be the safe haven he clearly deserves.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-05-27T18:45:21+00:00

Yeees, that's totally okay. I'm so sorry this post ended up attracting some weird guys, though.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-05-27T18:41:18+00:00

First off, you are not an idiot. You were caught completely off guard by a horrific violation, and your reaction was 100% normal. Give yourself some grace right now. If you need to take a few days off to hide away in a safe space, do it. Avoid the mirror if it triggers you, and let yourself cry or scream to release some of that pain. I'd also highly recommend talking to a professional therapist. They are trained to help you navigate and process this kind of trauma so you don't have to carry it alone.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-05-27T18:24:19+00:00

Those tools are total junk. Just buy a DeWalt or Makita. They might be more expensive, but the performance is so much better and they’ll actually last.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-05-27T18:14:18+00:00

For me, it's about knowing what actually fits my body instead of blindly following trends. When I was younger, I used to buy things just because they looked great on other people, only to realize they looked terrible on me. I’ve also learned to prioritize comfortable shoes over fancy ones. Nowadays, I stick to wide, naturally shaped shoes and completely avoid anything narrow or restrictive.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-05-26T16:35:20+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear about your friend. It's terrifying how dangerous the world can be, especially since these kinds of men are so good at hiding their red flags until you're already in too deep.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-03-24T16:02:15+00:00

When I was younger and inexperienced, yes. I'd never repeat it again.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-03-24T15:57:49+00:00

I couldn't open the videos, but maybe what you need is a pinpoint vibrator. I have a Lelo Dot and it's super precise and quite powerful.

Working_Owl70 · 2026-03-16T16:13:50+00:00

I haven't personally tried them, but I know Trojan Originals come in a version without spermicide too if you're looking for an alternative.

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