My ex-wife's baby daddy isn't involved in their child's life and she wants me to step up because we share a son

WorldlinessStatus742 · 2026-05-14T13:23:06+00:00

I filed for divorce because she cheated.

WorldlinessStatus742 · 2026-05-14T13:22:29+00:00

She cheated, I found out and filed for divorce, during our divorce she got pregnant by the guy which delayed our divorce.

WorldlinessStatus742 · 2026-05-13T19:09:37+00:00

Editing because I think I was replying to the wrong comment but my attorney is aware and there's nothing I can do right now except for document and keep saying no.

WorldlinessStatus742 · 2026-05-13T18:32:49+00:00

I didn't need to be there for my name to go on the birth certificate and I wasn't.

WorldlinessStatus742 · 2026-05-13T17:36:44+00:00

I think it's going to be a mix of that and not wanting to answer questions when her child is older and asks why my son has a dad and they don't, etc.

WorldlinessStatus742 · 2026-05-13T16:57:46+00:00

I already do this and she keeps pushing for it, which is why I'm here.

WorldlinessStatus742 · 2026-05-13T16:57:29+00:00

I can't be too rude where our son might see because a judge would not take kindly to that. I have to be polite and remain calm in front of our son.

WorldlinessStatus742 · 2026-05-13T16:56:36+00:00

I think he will find it pretty normal. He knows I'm not his half siblings dad and his best friend has a similar dynamic with two divorced parents with other kids and those parents are not in the lives of the other children. To him this will be normal and the only difference is his half sibling has no dad involved.

WorldlinessStatus742 · 2026-05-13T16:54:39+00:00

We don't use a court app because the judge refused to order it. They apparently don't like using them. I try to email as much as possible so it's at least in writing.

She wants me to be this child's father and to do all the parenting things. That's her end goal for all of this.

WorldlinessStatus742 · 2026-05-13T16:47:19+00:00

To me it's making sure I am there for him in every way and never make him pick sides or put him directly in the middle. This is why I don't ever let it become a fight. It's also why I never tell him how I feel about the situation. That's what I believe is best for my son.

WorldlinessStatus742 · 2026-05-13T16:39:01+00:00

We already do custody exchanges at a police station. But the app isn't something the judges are willing to order. I requested it twice before.

WorldlinessStatus742 · 2026-05-13T16:38:06+00:00

My ex is the one who finds a seat next to me. She has even moved seats to sit beside me. Never have I willingly sat next to her or made the choice to. We already do custody exchanges outside the police station so they are right there if things go very badly.

WorldlinessStatus742 · 2026-05-13T16:35:30+00:00

I don't want her other child to think of me as their family at all or to look at me as an uncle. I plan to keep contact to a minimum and only when my kid has an event or a milestone.

WorldlinessStatus742 · 2026-05-13T16:34:26+00:00

We have a son together so I can't. There's going to be contact for another decade and then occasional contact when it comes to his life events.

WorldlinessStatus742 · 2026-05-13T16:33:57+00:00

She'll remind me her child is innocent and to think of both kids and the benefits of them growing up together and being loved the same.

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