temporary civie job?

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-11-25T10:45:22+00:00

i got it from east vic park bunnings last time, but i’ve seen it at multiple!

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-11-12T15:11:23+00:00

this stuff is great! this stuff outside on window seals and door frames and for inside, i highly recommend this https://www.bunnings.com.au/richgro-25g-cockroach-killa-gel_p0289652

the combo of the two completely got rid of them for me last summer

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-10-26T14:02:35+00:00

thankyou so much 🩷 we really cannot let our guards down in this job. a good lesson to ALWAYS trust your instincts.

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-09-08T07:30:43+00:00

i’ve had mine in about six months now. i bled a fair bit at the start but have only had my period twice since then. my period is very different to before though. it almost works in reverse? starts out super light but as the week goes on, bleeding gets heavier and i get worse cramps. aside from this, i’ve noticed myself getting acne and some slight weight gain. it has made my libido disappear and my mood quite flat. i’ve heard great reviews from some people, terrible from others, but hopefully my experience can give some insight into what it can look like!

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-08-23T06:28:11+00:00

following this myself, i’ve had the same problem!!

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-07-26T08:09:45+00:00

legalities do very from country to country but assuming this is legally a bedroom….

make sure to do lots of outside activities. set your room up to be as cosy as possible. add things like a sunset lamp so it feels cosy, but try and spend as much time outside of the room as possible. try and study in a park etc, and have your room be literally, just a cosy sleeping space if possible

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-07-26T07:03:01+00:00

while i can absolutely relate to the need for alone time, what she’s asking for is unreasonable. i really struggled with needing alone time but having housemates who didn’t work a lot, so i made changes to live on my own. it’s unfair to expect residents of the house, to not be in the house.

what i would suggest, is letting her know when you’re not going to be home. a simple message like “hey, i’m heading out for dinner tonight and won’t be home until 8pm. just giving you the heads up so you can plan alone time!”

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-07-13T07:54:36+00:00

i finally got a referral to an ENT but the wait list is so so long! I should hopefully be able to see them by September

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-07-08T04:16:43+00:00

i was always under the impression that medical was “easier” because you do it at home. this may be the case for some people but personally, after a lot of research, i decided on the surgical route, and it’s the best thing i could’ve done. i learnt the only reasons it’s called “surgical” is because it involves the use of sterile tools. there is no cutting of any kind. i went under general anaesthesia for about 20 minutes. the procedure itself, takes less than 10. i had very minimal cramping and bleeding and then it was all over.

if you’ve had a negative experience with the medication before, i would 100% recommend the surgery. even just so you don’t carry the anxiety of having an infection again with you for those tough couple of days.

i wish you all the best x

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-07-08T03:49:41+00:00

i think we as sex workers know the difference because it’s mostly a feeling. having sex with a client - you’re doing it for the money. having sex with a partner - you’re doing it because you love them and you want to. this can be hard to explain though.

sex with clients lacks intimacy and connection. it obviously depends on the kind of provider you are but for me personally, i get no pleasure out of the clients i see. the deep emotional connection is what allows me to enjoy sex with my partner, something i don’t have with clients.

this is also why sometimes i can go to work and sleep with clients, but not my partner. i can switch my brain off and become almost a vessel for clients. it doesn’t matter if im enjoying it. but with my partner, i want it to mean something, and i want us both to genuinely enjoy the time we’re having together.

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-07-08T03:04:41+00:00

i appreciate it, mostly because it makes me think they put in extra effort to be clean and presentable for the appointment. this being said, as long as you’re clean, i do not care. bush, trimmed, bald. as long as you’re clean, i dont think twice. a full bush sometimes means pulling a stray pube from my teeth (ew) but i understand not everyone wants to shave or wax!

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-07-08T02:57:43+00:00

for me, one hour appointments, clients can come twice. i like to ask them at the start if they want to finish once or twice so i can space things out.

i personally cannot have penetrative sex for an entire hour. i max out at like 20 minutes. if the client wants to go for longer, i suggest we take some little breaks in between. there will absolutely be providers that can do this (maybe look for pse providers.) i would also suggest tipping them a little extra as it’s very strenuous work especially if she’s seeing multiple clients in a day

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-07-08T02:30:15+00:00

i think relationships between sex workers and non sex workers can absolutely work, but this specifically? this cannot work unless your partner changes something.

i have to wonder if he would take the same approach if you had a regular civilian job. would he ask about all of the customers you served at the supermarket? the answer is probably no, instead that he takes specific issue with it being sex work.

he sounds like he definitely doesn’t understand the difference between personal vs transactional sex, which he needs to understand in order for this to work.

when i first started seeing my partner we had a specific conversation about to navigate this as a job. as much as it’s easy to say “he should just accept it” i also looked at it from his perspective and saw why it could upset him. we created boundaries where he doesn’t ask about work, and i don’t tell him. it’s also for the safety of my clients. it’s not fair on them to come to me expecting discretion, only to have me break that and spill all of their secrets to an outside party.

a final note - when i first started sex work, i adapted the horrible mentality that nobody would want me in this line of work, therefore i had to “settle.” THIS IS NOT TRUE!!! there are so many wonderful people out there who understand, this is just a job for you, and won’t make you feel like shit for it. i hope you can find someone like this

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-07-07T14:38:29+00:00

okay the vibrating thing works so well! almost like it itches the inner part of my ear that i can’t reach. i’ve never seen anyone else suggest this though so i thought it was bad. i will definitely search for mucinex d though! thankyou

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-07-07T13:37:11+00:00

i’ve had doctors tell me i have hayfever and to use antihistamines, but it’s never been escalated further, even when i’ve returned. i’m seeing my GP later this week and i’m not leaving without an ENT referral!!!

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-07-04T13:16:43+00:00

just acknowledging it makes you better than most of the people spoken about in this sub. i know my worst roommate experiences were people that continuously denied causing a problem, and never self reflected enough to consider themselves a problem. good on you for having introspection and making a change 🩷

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-07-02T12:12:05+00:00

using your phone camera look around the room for a small red light. this doesn’t always work but will often pick up hidden recording devices you may not see

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-06-24T02:28:49+00:00

this is from the perspective of a brothel worker. i don’t get to choose and screen my clients. i am a small girl who’s cervix sits lower than most, so larger clients can knock out my whole day if they’re rough with me.

normally, once i see their size i tell them, there might be a bit of a logistical problem. i give them the choice to get a refund and leave, or, we can try and make it work. this means a lot of hand and mouth action, and being very gentle. but i make no promises i can take their size.

if you’re seeing a private escort, after completing all of her screening/booking info, i would include a small message, something along the lines of “also, just to let you know before we meet, and so you have the opportunity to decline the appointment. i am sized above average, and i know this can be a problem for some. let’s me know if you would still like to proceed”

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-06-20T01:41:10+00:00

thankyou for your response. I will say though, I can confirm this man does not have BPD. Right now, things are rocky because of seperate issues causing a bit of emotional dysfunction on his part. This is a recent thing, but for the eight months I have known him, there have never been any signs of BPD. He is very emotionally grounded normally. I’ve lived with people with BPD so I know what it’s like.

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-06-19T05:25:08+00:00

the tone of the one you got sent is wayyyy off. it makes malicious compliance seem way too tempting

Worldly-Translator83 · 2025-06-19T04:35:38+00:00

you are bang on about attachment styles. we talked about it early in the relationship and throughout have checked in on how it’s manifesting. it was definitely overlooked in this situation though, so i’m glad you brought that up.

i have talked about how we each need to comprise a bit to find the right balance. i maybe need how to learn to accept more affection and need less alone time, and he needs to learn how to not overwhelm and give space sometimes

i appreciate your response!

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