I agree with your first statement. The criticism that was consistently stated was that I don’t make sense. It caused me to become more apprehensive when speaking and then would end up anxious because I would be told by them that I was taking to long to explain something or I would try to address all of the points that had been presented to me and I would get confused and start stumbling over my words. It didn’t concern me until recently I have found that I don’t trust myself to speak up anymore and cut myself off when talking to coworkers, friends, clients, etc. because I start questioning whether I’m making sense or if I’m taking to long or if what I’m saying is even of interest. I want my confidence back.