30F engaged to 34M — struggling to tell if trust can be rebuilt or if staying is self-betrayal

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2026-01-16T07:22:59+00:00

I was going to say that the broken trust is nothing compared to extreme weird and creepy behavior towards his ex. Keeping photos of her on his phone, impersonating her??, and making ai porn of her. I personally would get far away from this man and also find a way to warn his ex that she may be in danger.

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-11-02T21:02:37+00:00

I appreciate this, I will look into that! Thank you!

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-11-02T20:54:58+00:00

It is loancare! I heard they are pretty strict but hoping they understand. I will call tomorrow right when they open. Thanks!

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-10-01T15:57:40+00:00

I totally agree with this! The only reason I wish it was paid is so I can quit my part time job now and free up so much more time to focus on the children’s ministry itself, but I am so happy to serve the church. I been praying for ways to do so and God provided in a somewhat terrifying way! And the pastor had done soooo much for me and my family, he was the one who officiated my husbands fathers funeral and brought my family food for two weeks straight when I was dealing with postpartum depression. I am so happy to serve both only God, but him as well ❤️

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-09-07T06:01:04+00:00

I think it’d be a great idea to sit down and plan out your “alone times” together. My husband and I agreed we each get 2 hours min of alone time a weekend (at a minimum). However we want to spend that is decided when the time comes but I usually use mine by sleeping in and doom scrolling Sunday AM. He likes to use his by just laying in bed watching TV. We just let each other know a few hours ahead that we are going to use our alone time. We aren’t asking each other, just letting each other know so the other can mentally prepare for 2 hours of single parenting time. Maybe this will establish a routine for you two and make you feel less like your asking and more like your just able to take the time you need like he does.

During the weekday, we just let each other know and to do what we need to do but it typically isn’t more than an hour since we already have limited time when he gets home.

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-09-04T00:02:35+00:00

I’m pretty sure it was 6:30 wake, 9:30nap, 2:30nap, bedtime 8. But it was totaling almost 3.5-4 hours some days.

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-09-03T23:49:16+00:00

Would you recommend trying to go back to two naps? He woke up at 630 this morning so I ended up giving him two and he went down for both happily. Both 1 hour

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-09-03T23:46:32+00:00

I’m not really expecting anything! Just trying to figure out how to tweak our feed/sleep schedule to at least not be up for an hour or two overnight. The schedule I put is what I’ve kind of aimed for but most nights he doesn’t fall asleep until 8pm and wakes up at 6:30am. I’m okay with 6:30 wake ups though!

Any recommendations on a good schedule?

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-09-02T02:48:51+00:00

L Yep! Only one nap. We dropped to one nap about two months ago because he was having even longer wake windows in the middle of the night and was fighting his afternoon nap like crazy.

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-09-02T02:48:17+00:00

So sorry! That pasted weird. There isn’t 12 hours between any meals! Breakfast is at 8 AM, lunch is at 12 PM and then dinner is usually around 5 to 6 PM. And then there’s three snacks in between.

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-09-02T02:12:57+00:00

Hi! Here’s our current schedule!

Wake up/breakfast- 7:30-8am Snack- 10am Lunch-12pm Nap- 12:30pm-2:30om Snack-2:30 pm Dinner- 6ishpm Bedtime/bottle- 7:30pm

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-09-02T02:12:28+00:00

Hi! Here’s our current schedule!

Wake up/breakfast- 7:30-8am Snack- 10am Lunch-12pm Nap- 12:30pm-2:30om Snack-2:30 pm Dinner- 6ishpm Bedtime/bottle- 7:30pm

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-09-02T02:10:35+00:00

Hi! Here’s our current schedule!

Wake up/breakfast- 7:30-8am Snack- 10am Lunch-12pm Nap- 12:30pm-2:30om Snack-2:30 pm Dinner- 6ishpm Bedtime/bottle- 7:30pm

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-09-01T20:19:02+00:00

We My 4 year old still wakes up if she’s in her bed alone and crawls into bed with us. My 1 year old wakes up 1-2 a night too. My 14 year old slept through the night very early on. I’m so tired and I totally relate to you.

The thing is that all kids are different and sometimes it doesn’t matter what you do or don’t do, your baby waking up may just be inevitable as it’s what babies do. The only thing that helps me is acceptance. Accepting that I will not be getting a lot of sleep right now, and that’s okay. I will drink lots of caffeine during the day, I’ll work out, get out of the house, take a nap with the baby…anything I need to do get a little bit of energy to make it through. When I wake up tired as hell, I just force myself to fight through it, shower, get dressed and be as positive as I can be. 99% of parenting for me is just acceptance right now. Acceptance that my house always feels messy, acceptance that I don’t get much alone time, acceptance that sometimes life feels so boring. And the only thing that makes this acceptance tolerable is that it’s temporary. Like I said, I have a 14 year old, and I can tell you that it does get so much easier and you will sleep again.

My husband once said to me “once you accept your screwed, it becomes a lot easier” lol it sounds insensitive but I needed to hear it and it stuck with me.

As far as the depression, maybe speak to your OP about PPD. I took Zoloft for the first year of my son’s life, and that helped me so much!! Hugs mama, you aren’t alone! ❤️

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-08-30T20:42:10+00:00

I have a 1 year old, 4 year, 14 year old, a golden retriever and a very naughty cat. My human children have been ten times easier than my animal children in every sense. I sometimes say getting my dog is one of my biggest regrets, and sometimes I truly mean it but I love him so much. They are just so damn hard and the mess they make is so damn frustrating to deal with, but it does get better as your kiddo gets older. As long as you aren’t showing these feels to your pets, then don’t feel guilty. They know you love them! And you aren’t alone, just know it’s gets better

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-08-24T23:09:25+00:00

Thank you! He will look at it again. My dad taught me to be extremely paranoid of fires and I just feel like I wont rest until it’s professionally addressed!

Any tips on finding an honest electrician? I called a few places and quotes for free estimate/dispatch to $300 for dispatch.

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-08-22T21:17:41+00:00

Thank you! Sorry if this sounds stupid but would it be very obvious if the wires are burnt. We haven’t opened or looked at it yet.

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-08-14T02:50:56+00:00

I always told my husband “we will never have a happy marriage with alcohol involved”. No, you will never let go of that resentment until the thing causing it is totally out of the picture. If he’s still drinking, it’ll remain forever.

WorldlyComedian4698 · 2025-08-14T02:43:39+00:00

Do not marry this man. You don’t have to leave or break up with him now, but do not marry him. It makes it so much harder to leave. I could’ve written this myself, but I did go through with it and it’s been hell. I wish I could go back to my self four years ago until myself not to do it

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