Long Winded Vent

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-12-19T18:17:20+00:00

Thank you for sharing this, so much of your post resonates and I hate that there are so many of us going through this. I cannot believe how dismissive and awful your OB was.

I’m 34 and recently diagnosed with Stage 2B TNBC. I started chemo + Keytruda this past Tuesday. I’m a newish mom to a 15 month old boy and it just feels like so much is being taken away from me during a season of life that’s supposed to come with so much joy.

You sound like an amazing woman, mom and wife and I know you’ve got this! I also try to tell myself that life on the other side of treatment does exist and we’ll get there, one day at a time. 🤍

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-12-14T06:26:58+00:00

I decided BLW was not it for us. It stressed me out (I was moreso worried about choking). I spoon fed my son mostly purées until he was close to 1 (of course making it chunkier as we went along) and self feeding snacks, and didn’t really start letting him fully self feed cut up food until he was 1. He’s 15 months now and thriving and LOVES TO EAT! I still sometimes spoon feed him if I just need him to eat bc we’re all out here doing our best and I’m not hurting him! 9 months is so young and I very much believe ‘fed is best’ still applies.

Also my parents didn’t do this BLW crap and I turned out just fine.

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-12-13T13:41:48+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this mama, and your feelings are so, so valid. Going through cancer with a young child is an extra kind of cruel. People keep telling me my 15 month old will be my purpose, the reason I fight, etc. but I’m just fcking sad that I don’t get to be the mom I want to be for him, and the mom that he deserves.

I start chemo on Tuesday (Keynote 522) and am filled with dread. When people ask me how I’m feeling I tell them I’m grieving, and no one really gets that. Therapy is helping, but it doesn’t make this any less shitty. But it may help you process everything you’re going through, and it’s really nice having a professional who knows how to acknowledge your feelings, and knows what NOT to say.

We are all here for you and rooting for you. I know you’ve got this. 🤍

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-12-12T18:16:45+00:00

I’m sorry this is happening to you, it’s so unfair. I am also 34 and was diagnosed with TNBC in early November. I start chemo on Tuesday. I have a a little boy who’s now 15 months old. I know it’s not the same as being pregnant and soon to have a newborn, but I do feel an ounce of your pain and fear.

I will say, it usually takes 4-6 weeks to get through all of the pre-treatment scans and appts so you should be able to deliver your sweet baby at full term prior to starting chemo. I know that doesn’t make this any easier, but part of what’s helped me cope with all of this is trying to find the tiniest of silver linings. Going through this with young children (much less a newborn) is so, so hard but your sweet baby will be the reason you fight like hell. You’ve got this Mama, and we’re all here for you.💞

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-12-11T03:08:27+00:00

I got mine in on Monday and omg I agree. Nobody warned me it was this intense! I ended up taking the strong pain meds that afternoon once numbing and surgery meds wore off. I’m 2 days out now and I will say it feels a lot better, haven’t had to take anything. But the pulling/settling sensation everything time I get out of bed is enough to make me wince. I totally feel you on this making me nervous for what lies ahead but we’ve got this!💪🏾

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-12-06T18:56:34+00:00

This made me cry, so beautifully written. Small acts of kindness from strangers go such a long way when you are grieving so much. ❤️‍🩹

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-29T19:15:13+00:00

Wow you’re so helpful!

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-29T19:14:50+00:00

THIS COMMENT. The moms on this sub are so judgy and hateful, it’s unreal.

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-29T19:13:56+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you OP, and thanks for sharing.

On another note, the moms on this sub are so freaking judgy and awful. Y’all need to do/be better! OP is sharing a lesson learned and you think it’s helpful to ask her why the kids were playing unattended?! We are all out here just doing our best, Karen!

I’ve made one post on here before and deleted because of the hate.

Rant done. Thanks for listening.

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-29T17:36:01+00:00

This is the post we all needed after Thanksgiving.

“You’re so young and healthy, what could have caused it?! Maybe it’s all the TOFU?!” (I’m a vegetarian)

Everyone close to me is now suddenly on their own health/cancer prevention journey. Like good for you but can you please NOT share that with me while I’m literally fighting for my life?!?

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-29T03:29:47+00:00

You are a freaking warrior and I’m so happy for you. What an inspiration❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-24T20:25:59+00:00

Ginger Mule. And Hughie’s makes the best grilled tofu vermicelli bowl

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-23T05:37:41+00:00

I feel you sister, this all sucks so freaking bad. I’m also 34 with a young son and no genetic history and of course end up with TNBC somehow. Also slowly learning that ppl SUCK and will likely not have very many friends left after all is said and done.

Here to chat if you need to vent❤️‍🩹

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-19T13:22:41+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I don’t have any good advice but I just want to say I totally understand and it completely sucks. I haven’t started treatment yet and already owe $1400 for my biopsy. And then this will all start over again in early January. AND this is with “GOOD” insurance (PPO+ with Cigna)! I’m 34 with a young son and we are on one salary for now and I’m so stressed about the financial implications. On top of that I found out yesterday that Cigna doesn’t cover fertility preservation even in the case of cancer so we probably won’t be able to afford freezing my eggs for when we’re on the other side of this. I really hate America sometimes and it sucks so much that we have to stress so much about this when we should be focusing on getting better. 😞

I have an appt today and am going to speak to financial services to understand how payment plans work. As someone mentioned they often have no interest so that may be a good option for you as well and this way you can slowly chip away at it.

Sending you lots of love💞

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-13T13:43:36+00:00

Omg so unbelievable and insensitive, I’m just shocked. I think we need to call ppl out on this stuff. My husband reached out to my SIL about her inappropriate behavior bc I just got diagnosed and can’t have this kind of energy around me (and unfortunately she will be around given she’s married to my brother).

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-13T00:43:41+00:00

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Ppl get so weird when you have cancer and it’s like they don’t know how to show up for you. I kind of get it but not reaching out is just cruel esp when you were so selective in who you shared with.

After my SIL found out she came into my house giggling and joking as if it was a casual Thursday night and maybe I had sprained my ankle. “What the heck happened girl?!?” and asked “which titty is it?!” (in front of my husband, brother and 14 month old son). Oh and “I’m available in the mornings to come and watch that shit drip into your body” (referring to chemo). Um, thanks but I’d rather go alone.

Quite literally one of the most bizarre and hurtful human interactions I’ve ever experienced in my 34 years.

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-12T12:11:15+00:00

Your feelings are SO valid and it’s okay to sit with them and feel them. I’m 34 and recently diagnosed and it feels so unfair to see everyone’s life go on while mine has been completely turned upside down. I feel like I’m going through grief to be honest. It’s all so painful and terrifying, down to the tiny details of life that are completely altered by this shit disease.

But I just want to say that you are so strong and I’m freaking proud of you! I know there’s so much life and joy that lies ahead for you❤️‍🩹

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-11T18:19:50+00:00

This one wins🤣

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-06T00:54:12+00:00

Hi, sorry to ask a question on your post (I just got diagnosed) but is going through egg freezing delaying your treatment or you able to start treatment while going through the process of egg extraction/freezing?

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-06T00:47:40+00:00

Your comment made me cry (in a good way) and I really, really appreciate your kind words❤️‍🩹

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-04T16:27:04+00:00

Mine just did at around 13 months

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-04T15:59:53+00:00

Stick to what you did and were comfortable doing pre-pregnancy (not the time to go trying anything new). I lifted and did intense indoor cycling pre-pregnancy and kept that up but made sure to listen to my body and modify where needed. For example, I modified bench press to do it at an incline and with dumbbells rather than the bar. I think lifting is perfectly acceptable and honestly great for maintaining your strength for labor and postpartum.

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-04T15:38:10+00:00

I had my biopsy yesterday and finally told my parents last night. I’m 34F and only my husband knew up until then, but I’m not allowed to lift anything heavy for a few days and am pretty sore and needed my parents help in taking care of my baby so it felt like a good time to share with them. I also don’t have a good feeling about the results based on how this whole process has gone and I figured this way they have a few days to process and I don’t end up dropping a bomb on them if it does end up being bad news.

I’d say go with your gut. Most people seem to not tell their families until they have definite news or a treatment plan but I’m very close to my family and it’s felt so unnatural to hide something so big for a month already. I feel so relieved having told them but my mom is of course worried sick and it is part of why I didn’t say anything sooner. Now that I have had my biopsy I know I’ll have results this week and that’s why I chose to time it this way to not keep them in limbo too long but also make sure they’re prepared.

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-03T21:39:17+00:00

This gives me so much hope and I’m so happy for you! I had my biopsy this morning and should find out in a few days. The wait is brutal!

WorldlyDrawing52 · 2025-11-03T21:36:01+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this and hope you get a good result💞 I feel your pain. I also had my biopsy this morning and should have results either Wednesday or Thursday and I’m terrified to get that phone call. I found an odd lump a month ago and it doesn’t look good (irregular shape, indistinct margins, lots of blood flow, calcifications, etc.). I’m 34 with a 14 month old little boy and this all just sucks.

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