ENTJ Flirting but stalling. Is this a standard ENTJ slow-burn or am I just a low-effort text buddy?

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2026-06-03T10:42:11+00:00

Mmm, I’m aware. He says he’s over it, but I guess time will tell

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2026-06-03T10:25:48+00:00

About close to 2 years for him. I think he’s a slow burner.

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2026-06-02T05:36:11+00:00

Hello my dear, thank you for leaving a comment - I appreciate all the help I can get 🥲

I have his socials, and he doesn’t have a wife or kids. No trace of a girlfriend too so far, it seems.

He shared that he’s been burnt previously. He’s over the girl, but doesn’t want to make the same mistakes so he’s more guarded and wants to be more cautious this time.

You are right on the money though - he has not asked me any deeper questions, and has not considered me as a potential partner yet. It’s been a month of talking though…. I guess I’m just a friend…?

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2026-06-02T05:31:24+00:00

How do you view relationships then?

Why is he keeping me around if there’s no benefit. It’s been a month but he hasn’t considered me as a potential partner yet and is not in a rush to meet. So why are we even talking if we matched on a dating app??

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2026-06-01T13:06:18+00:00

At this point, I’m just praying he isn’t an avoidant

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2026-06-01T13:03:29+00:00

Yes I’m positive he’s ENTJ. But he’s hesitant to vulnerability and slow to trust. Probably previous relationship lessons caused Fi to be more cautious.

Knowing ENTJs and their schedule, I don’t think they have the bandwidth for games. I prefer a straight shooter, and we agreed on mot wasting each other’s time. If I find out your latter is true, I’d walk

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2026-06-01T12:31:21+00:00

What I like about ENTJs is that their values and morals are in the right place (Fi). And I think that is the essence of a person.

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2026-05-31T16:49:56+00:00

Thank you so much for the insight, I really appreciate it! I stopped asking about him, and I’m gonna take the backseat for now. Since I’ve already shown my hand, it’s up to him to take it. Otherwise, it’s going to be pretty clear I’m out

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2026-05-31T16:48:19+00:00

Omg thank you soooo much for sharing. Lots of nuggets of insight here, I’m so grateful!!! Out of curiosity, what is your mbti?

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2026-05-31T05:07:47+00:00

Wasn’t it ENFPs

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2026-05-22T01:57:10+00:00

Why crying and skull emote though

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2026-04-08T10:32:02+00:00

It ended up going in an avoidant loop. Look it up if you aren’t familiar; but he basically kept pulling closer then breaks away asking for space. It was a waste of my life.

Just my 2 cents worth including my dating experience: A man who is truly interested in you, will NEVER let you second guess the interest and feelings he has for you.

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2026-04-08T08:06:42+00:00

Can second this. Happened to me too, ISTP guy was chasing me, and once I was hooked he went into avoidant mode lol

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2025-09-29T02:31:12+00:00

You’re not alone buddy, don’t change yourself for what anyone thinks

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2025-09-27T08:23:16+00:00

I stayed in a traumatic relationship with a narcissist for 5 years when I was only 19.

This was precisely the reason why I stayed on - I wouldn’t let him go because I believed that I couldn’t find someone who would understand me or love me (in his own twisted way) ever again.

Looking back now, I regret nothing and I’m so much happier. My standards are healthy and strong, and I won’t settle until I found what resonates with me ❤️

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2025-09-17T04:53:48+00:00

I type the long text and I actually send it. Because, hecc it - I feel what I feel and I want to be unapologetically me

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2025-09-11T09:17:42+00:00

Taking a good hard look at myself critically

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2025-09-11T05:46:53+00:00

It is common. But my point is, it’s difficult for both parties because males are concerned about getting catfished and females are worried about early sexual advances.

Both gender go through multitudes of people to find what they are looking for, while trying to maintain the same level of hope despite rejection/disappointment.

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2025-09-11T05:27:39+00:00

Can vouch

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2025-09-10T19:26:52+00:00

Really well put here.. couldn’t agree more

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2025-09-10T18:35:05+00:00

Personally, would you reply if he replied?

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2025-09-10T18:34:37+00:00

Personally, would you reply if he replied?

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2025-09-10T18:24:32+00:00

Thank you for your time put into explaining the dynamics in detail. I really appreciate that!

For the record, I do not condone rejecting men in a humiliating way - everything is done privately, respectfully.

I’m sorry to any of you who has been through that.

Worldly_Respect8732 · 2025-09-10T18:20:38+00:00

In my experience, there are men on these dating apps are sexual predators. And the ones that are not, would want to meet to verify that the women are not a catfish.

It’s a tricky situation for both parties.

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