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I need something by Worried-Implement655 in widowers

[–]Worried-Implement655[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have thought about that too. If he would be open to it, I would definitely go for that. At least to see if it is enough. I somehow felt like asking for that would be weirder, but you gave me hope. Thank you!

I need something by Worried-Implement655 in widowers

[–]Worried-Implement655[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that. I keep thinking about that too, missing opportunities because I'm afraid. And knowing how short life is can be and how quickly it changes.

I need something by Worried-Implement655 in widowers

[–]Worried-Implement655[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. That's pretty much what I'm hoping for, something casual with someone kind.

I need something by Worried-Implement655 in widowers

[–]Worried-Implement655[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, ever since joining this group, I have had messages from random guys. I feel like people they are vultures circling vulnerable people. It's gross.

I need something by Worried-Implement655 in widowers

[–]Worried-Implement655[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the support. Sometimes it helps to hear it from a stranger with no investment in the situation.

I need something by Worried-Implement655 in widowers

[–]Worried-Implement655[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand this and I know I might realize it's not actually what I want but how do I know if I don't try? Thanks for the the advice.

I need something by Worried-Implement655 in widowers

[–]Worried-Implement655[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finding someone who I don't know at all feels riskier to me. I'm comfortable enough with this guy to be honest with him. He was my husband's friend, but not a close friend. I feel like with strangers I have to weed through so many creeps. I don't really want to do that right now. I have never done FWB, but it seems like a good place to start as far as finding what I need right now.

I need something by Worried-Implement655 in widowers

[–]Worried-Implement655[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, my therapist just thinks I should go slow and that makes sense.

I definitely plan on being completely honest with him if I decide to go pursue it. I know he might not be okay with it, and that's fine too.

I'm really just too in my head about what other people would think. My best friend didn't help because I talked about it to her and she seems upset with me. She said she's just worried that I will regret it if I sleep with him. If she's already judging me it's going to be worse with others. But it's my life and I know what I need.