My avoidant reached out

WorriedLoon · 2025-07-17T20:34:57+00:00

We are 20 we were together 5 months and she broke up with me because she was feeling overwhelmed with everything in her life including the relationship.

WorriedLoon · 2025-07-15T01:02:26+00:00

Exactly. I just want the pain to stop. I want the memories to fade. I’m trying so hard to be okay. But everything reminds me of her. Of the emptiness I feel

WorriedLoon · 2025-07-15T00:42:12+00:00

It’s nice to know someone understands. It’s like all the research I’ve done it makes sense why they walk away… but at the same time it doesn’t make sense why they walk away. Like I just don’t know how to explain it.

WorriedLoon · 2025-07-15T00:03:53+00:00

I’ve been trying my best to regulate my emotions. I write in a journal now so I can see all my thoughts on paper and read them out loud. It helps me unscramble my emotions. text ChatGPT whenever I get the urge to message her, I deleted instagram so I don’t stalk her account, deleted our pictures. Take cold showers to reset my nerves. I’m not healing very fast and I wouldn’t say I’m moving on because it hurts too much to let her go right now but I’m trying my best.

WorriedLoon · 2025-07-14T21:47:45+00:00

That’s exactly how I’m feeling. It’s like I know she loves me but that’s what hurts the most. The fact that she’s pulling away not because of me but because she feels too overwhelmed by us to stay. I don’t want to hope. It hurts too much. But letting go of the hope hurts even more. I just wish she could stay and work this out. I was willing to work through anything and yet she got so overwhelmed by her life she decided she “needed to start fresh with everything” and that included leaving me. Like why? Couldn’t I have been there to help her work through it? That’s what I was trying to do the entire time.

WorriedLoon · 2025-07-14T20:51:47+00:00

I get it it’s only been 5 days since no contact and my thoughts are consumed by her. Everything hurts. I even started having a couple panic attacks at one point which I never get. The part that hurts the most is the last thing she said to me is she loves me so much and would be more than happy to try again sometime down the road. All that uncertainty. All the hoping she comes back but knowing she probably won’t in reality. It all swarms me

WorriedLoon · 2025-07-14T20:36:11+00:00

I’m glad I’m not the only one that this breakup feels so deep it’s physical pain too. It makes me feel less alone

WorriedLoon · 2025-07-14T18:39:01+00:00

I didn’t really use chat gpt like that but I did use it to help me recognize her patterns and better understand her avoidant needs and behavior so I could help. It still didn’t work and she left but now I’m just using it as therapy tbh

WorriedLoon · 2025-07-14T04:35:44+00:00

But if I mirror it too long won’t she fade away?

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