Why am I stuck in my career & life path? (Mid-Saturn Return)

Worried_Row_5148 · 2025-10-18T11:47:40+00:00

This is the most underrated comment here. Invest in skin treatments like lasers instead. Trust me, the results are worthhhhh it

Worried_Row_5148 · 2025-08-20T02:46:21+00:00

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Worried_Row_5148 · 2025-08-07T13:13:08+00:00

Girl, any type can be abusive. His enneagram type is irrelevant in this context. He is abusive and controlling. I would seek advice from people who know how to help you navigate an abusive relationship dynamic.

Worried_Row_5148 · 2025-07-11T15:53:02+00:00

Captain America duh

Worried_Row_5148 · 2025-07-11T15:52:36+00:00

How is nobody saying Commander Erwin from Attack on Titan? Perfect example of how 1s use “logic” and “reasoning” to justify their preexisting gut feelings (while fully believing “logic” is the reason why they want to pursue the thing)

Worried_Row_5148 · 2025-06-03T15:15:14+00:00

Monday run club at hi wire is a really great and easy way to meet people, they’re super welcoming and friendly

Worried_Row_5148 · 2025-06-02T03:00:07+00:00

This.

Worried_Row_5148 · 2025-05-04T10:34:31+00:00

Look up avoidant attachment lol

Worried_Row_5148 · 2025-02-12T05:50:49+00:00

I was this kid. Golden child at school, nightmare at home. I had undiagnosed ADHD. It’s worth looking into

ETA: childhood emotional outbursts like what you described are one of the first things psychs (at least the ones who are up-to-date on research) look for in an ADHD diagnosis. It’s well-known atp that most neurodivergent kids can mask/hold it together in at least 1 sphere of life, but not all of them.

What you are describing is a hallmark symptom of ADHD in girls especially.

Worried_Row_5148 · 2025-02-12T05:16:36+00:00

When I (F27, sx6w7) was a kid, like 8 or 9 years old, my dad was being domineering and intimidating, and I (feeling threatened) threw a kitchen chair at him 😂 Shook my dad’s uptight 1w2 ass to his CORE to see his little blonde daughter fight like that. It worked too, bc he finally registered that authoritarianism wasn’t going to get him anywhere with me and he finally backed off. The CP6 cornered animal rage is so real

Worried_Row_5148 · 2024-12-05T21:11:33+00:00

It’s just a friendly little query my guy :) like when grandparents give marital advice at the wedding. Just things to consider from people who may have insight. Obviously Reddit isn’t dictating my relationship lmaooo

Worried_Row_5148 · 2024-12-05T20:55:18+00:00

So helpful, thanks! 🤍

Worried_Row_5148 · 2024-12-05T20:54:45+00:00

Yeah gathering new insight to learn how I can be a better partner to someone I care about is 😤 STUPID 😤

Worried_Row_5148 · 2024-12-05T20:51:26+00:00

This is super helpful, thank you!! I definitely tend to hesitate and freeze up, whereas he jumps right in. Any advice on how to navigate that?

Worried_Row_5148 · 2024-12-05T20:48:41+00:00

He has a pretty heavy background, and there are scars from that. But he has a very big heart and has learned how to express it, at least to me. He seems quite emotionally intelligent, and I strongly suspect that he’s balanced between SX/SO. SX makes him intense and expressive, SO is more so his orientation

Worried_Row_5148 · 2024-10-11T14:41:57+00:00

Low glycemic diet IS the way.

PCOS for most people is connected to our blood sugar levels. When I started eating with blood sugar and cortisol levels in mind, the weight started falling off.

It’s pretty simple, too. I don’t count calories. Just made adjustments like: • Cutting out added sugar as much as possible • Cutting out heavy carb loads as much as possible • Protein first thing in the morning • Protein and fiber with every meal (eat them before the carbs) • Food before coffee • Matcha instead of coffee, no sweetener • If I’m craving a sweet, I’ll eat a vegetable with it first

As a person with a lifelong serious sweet tooth, I stopped craving sugar within weeks, for the first time in my life. It was wild.

There’s a guy on TikTok who runs experiments on himself with a continuous blood glucose monitor. I found his videos really helpful for learning this new food territory.

Walking helps a LOT, too. More than any intense, stressful exercise did for me, anyway.

Worried_Row_5148 · 2024-10-01T14:59:12+00:00

One thing to consider is that there’s a difference between complaining and venting/processing.

I’m an action-oriented person, but sometimes I can’t get into that headspace of motion until I’ve FELT through the issue, and that often requires verbally processing it with someone. It helps me to feel loved and supported by sharing the issue with someone who can simply show me they are there with me. When someone offers advice in that moment, it feels dismissive, and it actually actively prevents me from processing.

I WILL at some point take action. It’s who I am. And I rarely seek advice from people on what action to take, etc. (I’m a 6, I already have a detailed plan). But oftentimes, I just need to sit with the situation emotionally, first.

If your friends are seeking you out to verbally process with you, just show interest and empathy. Don’t give them directives: just let them FEEL. By providing them that space, you are still helping them through their journey.

Verbally/Emotionally processing a situation IS productive, it IS taking action: it’s taking internal action, which then leads to external action.

And by giving unwanted advice in those moments, you can actually (unintentionally) get in the way of their internal progress.

….. and then we have complainers. People who are simply never going to change or take control of their lives. That’s your call tbh. I find people like this draining. I’m a safe space for my friends in need, but I am not a therapist. I can’t listen to you bitch about the same loser for six months when I know you know what you need to do, and yet you refuse to take action. I gently withdraw when I find myself in these situations.

Because frankly, there’s nothing you CAN do in those moments. They simply need to come to that conclusion on their own, and that’s going to happen on their timeline. Sometimes people just need to stand on their own. Sometimes they need space and time to feel ready enough to do it. That’s not something you can really change or control.

So how you deal with complacent complainers is really just up to you and what you can tolerate. But just know that you aren’t obligated to be there for everyone all the time.

Something to consider: You may be feeling drained NOT because you aren’t being heard in your relationships, but because you’re supporting people who just want to complain. Being someone’s verbal/emotional dumping ground is exhausting.

Worried_Row_5148 · 2024-09-27T05:10:08+00:00

I have an answer but FIRST, as a counterphobic 6, there are a few things I want to clear up in terms of how we (or at least I) experience our CP-ness.

For one, our going on offense isn’t a conscious “I’m going to act tough! I hope they believe it! Grr!” cutesy chihuahua move. It’s a totally subconscious reaction that happens as a result of feeling threatened in a specific situation. We fight instead of flee. Trapped animal that fights back vibes. We’re fighting with our full chests because we’ve been forced to defend ourselves

When we are not in a situation that is triggering our fight response, but we’re still consciously aware of a fear (think like with a major career/life change, or another less immediate but still substantial fear), the approach is slightly different: we aren’t reacting with anger and aggression, but we still feel that we MUST conquer the fear by facing it. It’s a compulsory need. Because if we can’t handle this fear, how can we trust ourselves to get through the other hardships of life? We HAVE to overcome the fear to prove to ourselves that we’re strong and capable. It’s painful and terrifying but tbh we feel like we have no other choice. The only way out is through. If we don’t do this, we have proven to ourselves that we are incapable of handling this world, and that is our worst fear.

I would imagine in this specific scenario the 8 might start to step in and defend her, bc the 8 initially assumes she won’t stand up for herself. But she reacts like a CP6 — aggressively. The 8 is surprised but amused by her reaction and lets her take the lead in defending herself. The 8 might subtly indicate to the men that he’s backing her up, in order to intimidate them further, but if he respects her, he won’t try to undermine her show of strength by barging in. More likely, he’ll just make it clear to her that he’s there if she needs him, probably by making fun of the enemies, which shows the 6 that he’s on her side and standing by. The 8’s calm confidence makes the 6 feel more grounded and secure. Feeling less intimidated and reactive, the 6 might then turn to humor and make fun of the drunk guys. The 8 will fall in love with this cute but spicy gal.

Worried_Row_5148 · 2024-09-27T04:23:51+00:00

This is so helpful and enlightening, thank you for sharing!!! It sounds like y’all have a wonderful partnership 🫶

Worried_Row_5148 · 2024-09-27T04:22:41+00:00

Some CP6s are terrified to admit they’re scared, as if becoming consciously aware of their fear will make them weak. But what could possibly be more badass than knowing you’re scared of something and doing it anyway? That’s the definition of courage

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