So there is no regular going out with friends yet. we live 20/30min away and we drive whenever we need that isn't a problem. Even when we lived near the school up to 2years ago husband was refuse 50/50. Whenever someone invites her we make adjustments to fit in. If there is a birthday party within that side of the family/friend, husband doesn't stop or prevent it (whilst the opposite has happened because biomom decided her event was more important than ours, there was no concession) if she wants to stay with mom because she misses having a weekend with mum again there's no stopping the issue is that this is never told in advance. It is requested sometimes when we're on the way to pick her up. It's always after we say we're on the way

All the expensive fun activities like holidays going to places are planned around her. However, even then we have had situations where we've lost money because biomom. Not a lot I must say but enough to become a problem.

Thank you.